I was an overweight child and I understand your/her worries. I personally used Dr. Lopez this month in Tijuana Mexico total cost $5200. My experience was great although the recovery has been a little challenging. I to am a mother and would do anything for my daughters so I can understand your reasoning. The sleeve has a longer recovery time than the band but in the long run is safer than the Lap Band. I assume you have done your research and now are just trying to find a doctor for her. www.specializedbariatric.com this I were you will find Dr. Lopez or his wife.