That's terrible. I understand she might have been trying to be 'nice' but wow. Keep your opinions to yourself. Right now I am dealing with the negative crap from my step-father since he has had two cousins of his die from getting the lapband. (Back in the '80s) But you know that just gives your fiance a reason to bust into that bookstore after surgery and have her see him and watch as her mouth closes shut. =)