brandda

Every once in a while I forgot and eat to fast and don't chew enough or I eat soemthing I shouldn't that gets stuck. It's uncomfortable till I get it out, but not the end of the world.

I would be wary of taking too much advice from someone trying to sell you something. If it helps, I had my surgery last September also wanting to drop 140 pounds (310 to 170). Since then, I have lost 80 of the 140 and am still losing. It is true that it is not a magic bullet. If I stop exercising or ignore the feeling of fullness I will stop losing weight. If you are a binge eater like I was, however, it is a marvelous assistance in portion control. If, on the other hand, your problem is sweets or if yo uare not committed to an exercise plan, you may not see the same kind of success.

Good for you!

Wow - Not the response I was expecting. OH Juli - I actually agree with you in theory, but what I see in practice is that people are willing to tolerate more emotionalism from women than from men. Believe me, no one would be happier than me if that were not the case. It would make my life inifinitely simpler.

I'm about three weeks out. My port i a hard lump under the skin that I can feel if I run my habd over it, but I cannot see it. You will be fine.

BTW - If my previous thread was not enough to get me a ton of hate mail, I'll add a point. Someone said that it was OK for men to have insecurities just like women. HORSE HOCKEY! I'm sick of all this touchy feely, overly PC silliness that has crept into society. Men are supposed to suck it up and do the right thing regardless of any "feelings" they may have. It's one of the fundamental differences between men and women. Women are allowed to feel about things. Men have to shut up, quit whining and get the job done because the world doesn't care about how they feel. It only cares about what they do. Yup, that should just about do it.

I think I must be too simple for all of this complicated psychological stuff. Why in the world would I not want my wife to be healthy and happy and why in the world would she not want the same for me? If I was really worried that she would get thin and beautiful and attract attention then I guess I would have to get off my butt and make myself more attractive to her. Anything else is whining laziness. It sounds to me (admittedly with minimal information) like the women mentioned above felt while they were heavy that they had no choice but to be married to losers. Then, when they weren't heavy anymore, they realized that they did in fact have choices and did not have to put up with it so they took off. The job of the husband then is not whine and cry and hold them back but rather to get off their lazy butts and stop being a loser. I still say these folks with the head issues need a good swift kick in the rear, but I'm a mean old cuss who is clearly out of step with our Prozac oriented society. Let the flaming begin! :confused:

Most of the responses here are from ladies. As a guy, I have a somewhat different perspective. Sounds to me like there are codependency issues here that need to be resolved and the band is just the catalyst that is bringing them to the surface. My take with my wife has always been that it is my job to make sure that I'm a strong, capable guy who she would want to be with. If she chooses someone else, then I did not do my job. The idea of me asking her to make herself worse/uglier/unhealthier/dumber/whatever so that I can "keep up" is absurd. I know this won't be popular but I think he needs a good kick in the behind to knock him out of his complacency and make him stop whining.

It's reversible so if you have a problem down the line, have it taken out.

Relax - Have a fry. It's not the end of the world. What I have found is that since I have to chew eveything so much to get it down, I just dont have time to eat any significant quantity.

Must be something about Maine as I think we just had this same conversation. You may want to do a search on Maine as it was a long and extended thread.

It is not fun forthe first couple of days, but it is manageable. Just don't try to be tough and not use the pain meds if you need them.