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Every once in a while I forgot and eat to fast and don't chew enough or I eat soemthing I shouldn't that gets stuck. It's uncomfortable till I get it out, but not the end of the world.

I would be wary of taking too much advice from someone trying to sell you something. If it helps, I had my surgery last September also wanting to drop 140 pounds (310 to 170). Since then, I have lost 80 of the 140 and am still losing. It is true that it is not a magic bullet. If I stop exercising or ignore the feeling of fullness I will stop losing weight. If you are a binge eater like I was, however, it is a marvelous assistance in portion control. If, on the other hand, your problem is sweets or if yo uare not committed to an exercise plan, you may not see the same kind of success.

Good for you!

Wow - Not the response I was expecting. OH Juli - I actually agree with you in theory, but what I see in practice is that people are willing to tolerate more emotionalism from women than from men. Believe me, no one would be happier than me if that were not the case. It would make my life inifinitely simpler.

I'm about three weeks out. My port i a hard lump under the skin that I can feel if I run my habd over it, but I cannot see it. You will be fine.

BTW - If my previous thread was not enough to get me a ton of hate mail, I'll add a point. Someone said that it was OK for men to have insecurities just like women. HORSE HOCKEY! I'm sick of all this touchy feely, overly PC silliness that has crept into society. Men are supposed to suck it up and do the right thing regardless of any "feelings" they may have. It's one of the fundamental differences between men and women. Women are allowed to feel about things. Men have to shut up, quit whining and get the job done because the world doesn't care about how they feel. It only cares about what they do. Yup, that should just about do it.

I think I must be too simple for all of this complicated psychological stuff. Why in the world would I not want my wife to be healthy and happy and why in the world would she not want the same for me? If I was really worried that she would get thin and beautiful and attract attention then I guess I would have to get off my butt and make myself more attractive to her. Anything else is whining laziness. It sounds to me (admittedly with minimal information) like the women mentioned above felt while they were heavy that they had no choice but to be married to losers. Then, when they weren't heavy anymore, they realized that they did in fact have choices and did not have to put up with it so they took off. The job of the husband then is not whine and cry and hold them back but rather to get off their lazy butts and stop being a loser. I still say these folks with the head issues need a good swift kick in the rear, but I'm a mean old cuss who is clearly out of step with our Prozac oriented society. Let the flaming begin! :confused:

Most of the responses here are from ladies. As a guy, I have a somewhat different perspective. Sounds to me like there are codependency issues here that need to be resolved and the band is just the catalyst that is bringing them to the surface. My take with my wife has always been that it is my job to make sure that I'm a strong, capable guy who she would want to be with. If she chooses someone else, then I did not do my job. The idea of me asking her to make herself worse/uglier/unhealthier/dumber/whatever so that I can "keep up" is absurd. I know this won't be popular but I think he needs a good kick in the behind to knock him out of his complacency and make him stop whining.

It's reversible so if you have a problem down the line, have it taken out.

Relax - Have a fry. It's not the end of the world. What I have found is that since I have to chew eveything so much to get it down, I just dont have time to eat any significant quantity.

Must be something about Maine as I think we just had this same conversation. You may want to do a search on Maine as it was a long and extended thread.

It is not fun forthe first couple of days, but it is manageable. Just don't try to be tough and not use the pain meds if you need them.

Weigh yourself once a week max to cancel out the natural variations that everyone goes through on a day to day basis. This is especially true for women as a woman's body goes through more regular changes than a man's. You'll drive yourself crazy if you weigh everyday. If its that big an issue for you, give the scale to your SO, let him keep it and then have a weighing ceremony once per week where he/she gets it out and you do it together.

I am a baseball umpire and my doctor told me I could not work behind the plate for a month. I'm thinking if I had to, I could probably get through a game today though.

I have not tried anything but hamburger so far, but I have to chew it like crazy to get it down.

The mortality rate of gastric bypass was enough to scare me away. I want to lose weight, but not enough to risk my life. I also like the idea that lap band is reversible. Who knows what medical technology will look like in 20 years? With lap band I have the option to make a different choice in the future if something substantially superior comes along.

This is very much a personal decision and therefore none of my business, however, since this is a discussion forum I will weigh in. I would strongly suggest you consider taking the time to save the money and paying cash rather than financing. While this is obviously a better monetary strategy than financing, I suggest it more because of the nature of the surgery itself. As other people have mentioned, lap band is really more of a tool to help you enable weight loss as opposed to a solution in and of itself. That means that, even after the surgey, a substantial amount of self discipline around changing bad habits will be required to be successful. To my mind, a great way to start down this path of self discipline is to impose on yourself the financial self discipline required to put aside the money every month and save until you have enough to pay for the surgery outright. If you do that, then you will have earned it, its value to you will be higher, and it would seem that you will have a higher probability of long term success. So, that's my unsolicited two cents.

Doc told me no more beer, so now I'm working on a variety of rum punch recipes.

My sons and I watched "Dodgeball" last night and there is a line in there where the evil gym manager tells one of his flunkies to add three pounds to the scales in the women's locker room before he goes home. I thought it was hilarious and it made me think of this post. Obviously whichever scale you use, use the same one all the time.

You would not be asking these questions if you were comfortable with him. If you are not comfortable with him, then find someone else.

Gastric Bypass has a mortality rate of 4%. Nuff said.

I am routinely baffled by the arrogrance of doctors. I have had to explain to more than one over the years that, while I value their expertise in the same way that I value the expertise of any subject matter expert whom I employ, in the end, our relationship is that they are my employee and I am their employer. I rely on them to provide me with information and to help me interpret that information. I will usually ask them for a recommendation, but any actionable decision is mine, not theirs. If they cannot handle that relationship, then I will find a more capable physician who can. If he can't grasp this basic concept, tell him to go jump in a lake.

I weigh once per week on my home scale first thing when I roll out of bed Monday mornings. Any more than that to me just sets me up for frustration.

The last thing I would want would be to be someone's training guinea pig. From what you have said, my choice would be to either do the gastric bypass with him since he has experience at it or travel to another city to have the lap band. I would not let anyone do either surgery who you do not have absolute confidence in and the only way to have confidence in them is if they have an extensive and exemplary track record.

I had somehting similar as reagrds the inicsion on my left side. If I got into the wrong position, I would get a really bad burning sensation. So I tried not to get in that position (J/K). It does seem to be getting gradually better as I heal up.