I am so sorry this happened to you/ My sister is also dead set against me having it done. She got my mother upset as well until I told my mother how I feel about myself. I'm 5"1 218 BMI 41.2 at 54 years old I am making my own decision. My husband has done the research and has read up on everything, and agrees that there are more health risk being heavey, then having the lap band that will be closely monitored. My sister does not have a weight problem, she is tall and slim. Some times you wonder if it's a form of jealousy that make family members (female) put this down. Make your own decisions and you will feel so much better about yourself.