feelingdown/but determined

I too feel your pain and frustration, you really took the words out of my mouth today was a really bad day for me and all I could do was just cry. I know that this will help me in the long run. My food use to be my support system when I was feeling down now the very thing I love I can't have and I miss it , having a very hard time dealing with this I can't seem to find anything to satisfy me all I can think about is how thirst I am and want to eat something but If I do I will be in so much pain. Very depressed but still optimistic.

I too feel your pain and frustration, you really took the words out of my mouth today was a really bad day for me and all I could do was just cry. I know that this will help me in the long run. My food use to be my support system when I was feeling down now the very thing I love I can't have and I miss it , having a very hard time dealing with this I can't seem to find anything to satisfy me all I can think about is how thirst I am and want to eat something but If I do I will be in so much pain. Very depressed but still optimistic.

I am surprised that at 18 you want such a drastic surgery!!! Also, at your age, you will have a lot of elasticity in your skin. You have age on your side. Between you and me, I have a grandson that is 18 and if he approached me about having WLS, I would try to talk him out of it unless he had a ton of comorbitities. Sorry, I'm not trying to be a negative nelly but at 18 I just think about all the years you have ahead of you to follow the regime required with the surgery. Good luck to whatever you do!

IN THE BEGINING WHEN I CHOOSE TO GET THE SLEEVE DONE I DIDN'T TELL ANYONE NOT EVEN MY SIGNIFICANT OTHER BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO DEAL WITH ANY TYPE OF NEGATIVITY. I COME FROM A FAMILY OF GENETICALLY LARGE PEOPLE AND MY SIGNIFICANT OTHER IS DANGEROUSLY OVERWEIGHT. I DID TELL HIM I WAS GOING TO HAVE SURGERY BUT NOT TOTALLY WHAT FOR UNTIL A FEW DAYS BEFORE. AS I FIGURED HE WAS TOTALLY AGAINST IT AND NEGATIVE AND THAT DISCOURAGED ME FROM TELLING ANYONE ELSE. AS FAR AS MY EMPLOYER I JUST TOOK PERSONAL DAYS I WAS NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS WHAT FOR I WORK IN THE MEDICAL FIELD AND DID'T WANT TO HAVE TO MAKE ANY EXPLINATIONS GOOD OR BAD. ITS HARD TO TAKE THIS JOURNEY WITHOUT A GOOD SUPPORT SYSTEM. DO WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU AND YOUR SITUATION

Thanks so much for your kind inspirational words and advice. Knowing I might be able to gulp Water really helps!
It's honestly not at all like me to be so pessimistic or feel sorry for myself. I should be grateful I have had a chance to have this surgery when so many others cannot access it. It has dawned on me that perhaps now that I am starting to notice my clothes not fitting and the weight coming off I might also be grieving out of a feeling of loss.
Is that weird? Grieving the loss of my extra pounds? Anyone else feel that way? Although I'm obese, the rest of my life is bliss. I have two wonderful loving kids, a fantastic husband, a great career, and a cozy little house where we are warm and safe together. My physical appearance has not bothered me as much as the concern I might not be around to see my children grow up if I don't dramatically improve my health.

I feel you. I will be 2 weeks out on Monday and I am a MESS. I am sad and angry much of the time. Depressed. Feel like who gives a sh*t and just want to go to bed and stay there. The support group through my surgeon's office meets once per month. Next meeting is in a few weeks. I might try to go. In the mean time, it is what it is. Can't be undone so I may as well suck it up and deal.

I had the sleeve performed on 1/20. I was on Protein Shakes and clear fluids for two weeks pre op and 2 weeks post op. It's now been three days that I've been able to have purée foods like mashed potatoes, apple sauce yogurt and Soups.
After being on the clear Fluid diet for so long I thought I would be happy to move on. I have felt regret since the moment I woke up from surgery , and despite my hope it would get better when I could eat more it's actually gotten much worse.
I miss so much about life before this surgery. I don't know how I will adjust. I miss taking big gulps of cold Water. I sip and sip and sip, but I am always thirsty. I miss the joy of eating with friends and family and eating good foods. I miss being able to drink while I'm eating and I hate having to wait half an hour before and after eating to drink. Will it always take me half an hour to drink a cup of water? Will the rest of my life be spent feeling thirsty, hungry, counting minutes till I can drink water or constantly tracking my Protein? I chose the sleeve over the bypass so that I would still be able to have a semi-normal life. There's no point regretting something that cannot be undone, but I do.

Hi Bill, I'm not a man but thought I'd reply anyway. This topic comes up quite often in this forum and you will find a mix of responses. Like you, I have chosen to tell nobody except my husband and my daughter. I've noteven told my office anything, I'm just taking a week off of work. Like you said its a private matter and with the HIPA laws now, we shouldn't have to share with anyone right? I chose not to because I didn't want people judging me, either positively or negatively. I have my reasons for having this surgery and I don't think I should have to share those with friends or relatives. I have heard from others who wish they had not told people and there are a few who told everyone they knew and got lots of support back. Of course one can never know what they say when they are not within earshot of us either. Anyway, that is just my 2 cents on the matter. When I want to share, I come to this forum where I can enjoy others posts, get information, and ask questions. Good luck to you. I'm getting sleeved Monday.