RNYjane

Ok, well, thank you sooooo much for your advice. It means a lot and with my surgeon retiring 3 months after my surgery, I have felt sort of on my own, yet, still super motivated. But, honestly, I'm scared right now and panicking because I'm not losing and my appetite is coming back and it scares me. I will take your advice and work that into my day. Thank you again, sure appreciate it. I tend to eat the same things too, if it works.

Thank you so much for your help. My heart is in the right place and I will do anything to get back on track... actually, I thought I was doing what I should. I only eat when I'm hungry but I am getting hungrier every day and eating as clean as possible. What I am finding is that although my calories are low, somethings not right and I'm not losing and it's time to regroup. I take full responsibility for getting too comfortable and eating what I want, just smaller amounts. I want to lose another 40 lbs. and am scared I can't. I feel blessed to have had this surgery and want to do everything I can to make this work for life. I have started eating 1 Quest bar a day, it takes me all day to finish it. I am journaling my food to become more accountable. For an example, are you drinking coffee with cream ever in the AM? Do you drink a couple pre-made Muscle Milks a day in order to get your Protein in along with a Quest bar? When I met with the dietitian she wanted me to eat, yogurt, cheese, meat, crackers, Cereal, bread, yes, pizza here and there, all foods but in moderation. I feel like I need to get back to more Protein shakes with less real food for awhile so I can break this plateau. What type of chicken noodle broth do you use? That would really help me to keep my tummy full. Again, I really appreciate your advice as you seem to be successful. I am open to hearing from anyone who has suggestions to their daily eating! .

Wow, thank you for sharing this. I barely ate for 7 months but the dietician advised me to start eating more regular type foods and get away from the protein drinks. Honestly, that's when I stopped losing weight. So now, it's a real awakening for me to figure out how to eat tonlose weight since I've been eating real food for a few months now. I think I thought I could have a few pieces of pizza here and there and still lose weight since I barely eat compared to what I used to eat but I barely eat protein and have had 4 foot surgeries in 14 months and it's all taken a toll. Since learning online here what others areneat ink, I have made changes, am writing everything down, bought Quest Bars, have been getting in 60 grams of protein in a day vs. 10 and forcing myself to drink water. I'm down 3 lbs already this week,

Hi, I'm 9 months out and have hit a plateau and am so discouraged. I'm learning so much on this website about the importance of eating mostly protein and really minimizing the carbs. My highest weight was 269, went into surgery at 250. I currently weigh 187 and the scale hasn't moved in months. I'm scared to death that my RYN isn't working and just like my entire life, I'll gain all my weight back. I would be so grateful to hear about what others are eating everyday and finding success. Thank you!

Thanks for the advice. Right now, I'm getting ideas from what others eat and am making my own menu for the week versus just winging it. Also, my husband took my bike down and although I've had 4 surgeries in 15 months on my foot, I just took my boot off and will start slowly biking with my bike in home on the trainer. I think just being aware of eating more protein, drinking my water and exercising will all help me move in the right direction.

Wow, you have been so successful! I have stayed at the same weight for months and am so frustrated. I am 189 lbs. and really should be around 160. Until recently, I have not been able to eat any meat, I cannot eat eggs as they make me gag. Now, I can tolerate a small amount of white chicken that I mix with a little olive oil mayo and put on some Wasa Bread. Until the last month, I feel as though I probably ate under 500 calories a day, and now that I am more hungry and eating more often, I am gaining weight. I would love to hear from anyone who has any advice and I'd love to hear what has worked for you! Please help me get to a healthier weight. I'm feeling desperate at this point.

Hi, I had the RYN Dec. 2013. I've lost 80 lbs. from my highest weight and 60 lbs. since surgery. Although I am so grateful for the surgery, I feel very frustrated that I am not losing more weight and am struggling with my protein, water and daily vitamins. I am highly motivated to lose more weight in a healthy way but really am looking for a mentor to help guide me along. My surgeon retired 3 months after my surgery and I just feel lost. I am 5"4 and 190 lbs and have teetered between 188 and 190 for months. I had surgery on my foot 2 months ago which inhibited me from excercising. I would love some help and advice from others who have been successful. I want so badly to figure this out.

Hi, I use Stevia. I started using it year ago when I started seriously looking at the quality of food I was eating and how it affected my daily headaches/chronic migraines and my overall well being. Prior to surgery, I rarely ate anything with chemicals, dyes and for sure Splenda or Nutrasweet. Honestly, my headaches have been terrible since surgery. I don't know, but I'm thinking all of the artificial sweetners, chemicals, dyes and additives have been playing havoc on my headaches. It's one of the reasons I have backed off on the Protein drinks and am trying to get my protein in through food, although it's difficult. I use Stevia on my Cereal, in my coffee, on our families sweet potatoes and anything else I would add sugar too. I'm trying to eat as clean as possible while still getting in my required protein, Vitamins and minerals. I did buy some organic Protein powder which is disgusting, but I believe it won't contribute to my headaches and it will help me with my protein intake. Good luck.

Thanks for the suggestion....really appreciate it! It seems that getting at least one high protein shake in a day, even gagging it down, is super important to good heath and weight loss.

Thanks for the interesting and informative post. What protein drink do you drink that has 50 grams of protein? I have gotten to a point where I can barely get those protein drinks down. I have some Pure Protein now but would love to find one that is high is protein and that tastes great and hopefully NOT full of preservatives. Some of the protein drinks I have tried I think trigger my headaches, not sure. Anyway, thanks for the great info. Everyday, it's my goal amongst other things to get that protein in. Up until last week(7 wks post op) I was only getting in maybe 20 grams a day. Now that I am logging it, I make sure I get at least 50, but I'm working on getting in more. I lost weight for the first time in weeks after increasing my protein(3 lbs. yesterday). I love your inspiration about slow losers.

Thank you so much!!!!!! I needed a day to grieve the fact I would not loose like most people. A day to be pissed about it. Although I am mad as hell, these are the cards I've been dealt. Thank you for your support! My doc was almost laughing that I was so upset. He had a student with him and he was telling the student that many patients get emotional because they've experienced a lifetime of diet failure. He was compassionate but sort of found it slightly amusing. I'm starting to wonder if it's because he knows I will lose. That my fears are unfounded. I don't think he could truly know what it's like to eat broth for 17 days and only lose 7 lbs but I will lose. Not like I want but I will lose none the less. After I get out of these restrictive phases I think I'll be a lot better. I want to try to up my protein and exercise. I'm just so weak. I have no energy.On a positive note, I was excited today because I made a scrambled egg and was full before eating all of it. On the liquid phase I was worried I had no restriction but today I realize I do! Thank you so much for the support!!!!!! Really I appreciate it. Hope your doing well Ok, I just have a minute, but I'm proud of you with your attitude, My doctor also was shocked basically at my scared feelings that I may fail at this, and that I may not be losing at an "appropriate" rate. He was not consoling at all, he basically chewed me out. Whatever. Yes, maybe I am anxious a bit about my weight loss as I have failed my entire life, except once and it means SO much to me to lose it and actually DO IT this time. What the hell? Everyone feels that way. He said it wasn't about the weight loss, yes it is... along with other good stuff, of course. I'm no freak girl, just a normal christian mom, with 3 kids, who has struggled for 51 years to lose weight. Been on all of the diets, went into them all with great attitudes, eventually failing. So, yes, I'm a bit anxious and was only looking for some reassurance that I was on track and that I would eventually get to a healthy weight if I ate when I was hungry and stopped when I was full and concentrated on the protein. Geez. Anyway, I have been totally weak and I think it's starting to get better now that I am actually eating some protein and tracking it. I felt like I could barely make it up the stairs and was ready for bed at 6:30(didn't go of course,but just so dang tired). Today, I am feeling full of energy and so much more motivated. Hang in there girl, I will help you along the way, we'll help each other. I just made a tiny portion of Annie's organic mild chili with a dab of shredded cheese for lunch and will have some unsweetened applesauce with it. Have a migraine(shit) but so what, I know I can do this and you can too!!!!! Try logging your food at MyFitnessPal. It really changed things around for me. I believe in you!! I can't get my ticker to show. I copy and paste it. Is there a trick???

Trust me, hang in there. Emotionally, I've been all over the place. I feel major embarrassment when I see people I haven't seen in awhile because I think they are expecting me to be so much smaller and 25-30 lbs. on me, only shows a dab, not enough for anyone to say anything and I think people are expecting to say something but when they see me, they don't, because they can't tell. UGH! I can tell in my boobs and a little everywhere. Ok, yes, you have a shit struggle there but your not giving up girl! My surgeon told me yesterday that in a year and a half, I would be to a healthy weight if I simply ate when I was hungry and stopped when I was full. When I eat, chose protein first. That gave me hope. I went into my appointment yesterday(7 wks) totally bummed about my weight loss and panicking about if this is going to work for me. He was a bit of a jerk, but in spite of that, I respect him for his expertise. He told me I should not be worried about the weight loss. Ok, anyway, yes, it's about the weight loss, feeling better, a better quality of life and simply "getting this new lifestye!!!" I started logging my food intake daily on MyFitnessPal.com. I don't care about the calories, only the protein pretty much. It was an eye opener for me. I had only been eating about 500 calories a day and eating less than 10 grams of protein a day; barely taking my vitamins because they made me gag and no exercise. Because of some wonderful tips and suggestions from folks on this website, I have tried new forms of protein that I can eat and doesn't make me gag. Don't lose hope girl, I will support you! I think I went 3 weeks and lost 2 lbs. That just sucks especially when you are working so hard to be successful! I know for me, I gag easily and had throwing up issues a lot. Just tried eating a Lean Cuisine last night. It tasted pretty good, but threw it up later in the night. But Babybel Light cheese works for me, Dannon Light and Fit Greek yogurt goes down and I started eating Special K High Protein cereal with unsweetened almond milk(13 grams of protein for both). Anyway, let me know if I can help you. I don't know how to add someone as a friend, I will if you know. Take good care. You CAN do this, we can all do this. We all deserve it!

Thanks for your post and suggestions. It's great knowing that there are others out there going through the same things you are. I think because of our nature, we tend to think "we will be that one who does not succeed" or the one that this procedure does not work for. I told my surgeon that yesterday and he basically chewed me out telling me that weight and emotions should have nothing in common and one should NOT affect the other. I told him weight and emotions always go together and I guarantee that every one of his bariatric patients feel that way. Some more extreme than others, but he felt they are two separate things. Maybe in a perfect world when you are 280, 300, 400 lbs. that it in no way affects how you feel about yourself or does not affect your well-being, but with him weighing around 130 and never having a weight problem, he could never understand the marriage of the two and the constant struggle to stay emotionally healthy in spite of what that damn scale says!!!!! I cried in his office yesterday at my 7 weeks check up as he told me I should NOT be concerned about the weight loss, yes, he said that. He said I was obsessed since I started tracking on MyFitnessPal.com. I am only doing that so that I can be sure I am getting my protein in. Before logging my food, I was getting in less than 10 grams of protein a day. In the last 2 days, I have gotten in 58 grams on day and 40 yesterday. I am not counting calories at all. The scale has barely moved in weeks. I'm done 3 lbs. this morning; I attribute that to my logging my food and being mindful of my protein and applying many great tips that folks on this website have shared with me! He also was angry that I would look to the internet for advice instead of relying on the "training" I was given prior to surgery. My feeling is that I am proud of where I am today as we all know this is a huge journey and learning curve that is individual. I love learning and sharing on this site; that's what we do right? Share, learn, grow! I tend to keep everything in and deal with life on my own, that is how I was taught. And with my roux-en-y surgery, who do I have to really talk to about it? Most people are pretty much just watching for results. We are the ones going through the daily struggle and making changes. I would say the majority of people I know, except for my mom, feels that the surgery is a way of cheating or an easy way to lose weight. They are not mean about it, but they think once that surgery was done, that the weight basically just melts off! It's so much more than that, but no one understands the struggles(good and bad) except other folks who have gone through it. I use both the knowledge from my surgeon and what others have shared with me. Anyway, thank you for your suggestions, it means the world to me. Just keep on keeping on....... whether we are losing fast or slow, as long as that scale is going in the right direction, it's good. I know for me, I am focusing on increasing my protein, getting my Vitamins and finally starting to do some form of exercise. I had 3 surgeries on my left in 5 months and have some permanent damage/numbness and 2 broken joints still, but... I can ride a bike or use a rower. Just need to do it!!!

Hi, I just wanted to follow up and let you know that today I started tracking in MyFitnessPal. Wow, it has really changed everything for me. First of all, it's really cool, second, it's really puts there in black and white exactly what you've eaten and I can be accountable instead of always guessing how much protein, etc. I've eaten. it's 7:30pm and I've had 700 calories today, and 38 grams of protein. I am thrilled because I've up'd my protein today with Light and Fit Greek Yogurt, eating a Medifast Soup that had 12 grams of protein and eating 3 chicken breast nuggets at dinner. I bought the Carmel Corn Rice Cakes and tomorrow will try some natural Peanut Butter on them. Before tracking, I would just eat nothing or grab some crackers w/PB on them when I was starving where now, I am super motivated to up my protein and hopefully I will feel better and my weight loss will be better. I need to still find the articles you talked about and I have to figure how how to copy and paste my ticker. I've tried, but it's not working. thanks again for the great advice!

Hi, I am new to this site and I love this thread. Honestly, when you are a slow loser, you think you are the only one. it's a topic I know that I am embarrassed to even discuss with my family or anyone because most people expect the weight to be melting off, like it's a instant cure. When it doesn't, it's humiliating. I got Roux-en-Y on 12/20/13. Started at 248 before liquid shake pre-op. Left the hospital after surgery at 248. Today am 219. I am 7 wks. post op. I lost most of the weight in the first 4 weeks and barely anything since. I struggle getting my protein in because I gag so easily and just can't eat any meat and can barely drink another shake. I live on Cream of Wheat w/unsweetened almond milk for breakfast, some unsweetened applesauce, crackers with peanut butter and recently some low fat cheese sticks. I will admit I have been bad about taking my vitamins because I gag on them, I know I need to totally up my protein(just started logging in fitnesspal.com, and need to get more water in. Also, need to exercise. I'm really not a baby and am trying to do my best with the gagging, having to throw up, and trying to get protein in, but sadly, I've been eating mostly carbs and I think that is causing a slow weight loss. Thanks again for this thread.