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I wish I would have been better prepared for how quickly I would become obsessed with food/exercise. I have a long and sordid history as a "professional" dieter/compulsive over eater/purger with exercise. I am almost 4 weeks out. I bought a Fitbit (pedometer), track every morsel on myfitnesspal, and I am fighting off the urge to workout twice per day so I can burn off all of the 400-600 cals I eat each day (so far, I am managing to keep it to one workout per day). I play this sick game with myself where I see how few calories I can get in and still meet my 60-70g/day Protein requirement. I had this surgery as a way to get off the "dieting/bingeing" treadmill...and I am right back in "diet" mode. I wake up each day anxious to get on the scale and see if I lost another pound or two. I try clothes on over and over to see if they are just a little less tight/looser than a few days ago. I am a MESS.

I have rarely found berating myself or "kicking myself in the ass" helped me. You have lost a LOT of weight. You are so much healthier now than before-- good for you! I know you have more you want to lose--my suggestion is you treat yourelf with gentleness and compassion as you work toward that goal. Poptarts are straight from hell (but man, do they taste good!)! As you choose things to eat, consider what is kind to your body (instead of saying this is a "bad" food). Commit to being good to yourself in all ways-- food choices included. I hope that helps and best of luck to you on your journey.

A little fear is a good thing. Healthy. Take this seriously. But don't let a little discomfort and a few days/weeks of feeling crappy keep you from making a decision that could radically improve your health and life for the better. Nothing worth having comes cheap. Sacrifice is part of the deal. You don't get to have your cake and eat it, too. You want to lose weight? Great-- but don't think it comes without cost. The only question is are you willing to pay?

My husband is the most AMAZING, wonderful, loving, compassionate human being on the planet--- he really is the best. I could not ask for better than him. Honestly I feel guilty for not being more grateful. In addition to being a compulsive overeater, I am also an alcoholic. I have been sober almost 21 months now. Sobriety has been easy-- because if I was upset or stressed, I could always eat. Now I do not have that. I feel just like I did when I got out of rehab-- raw, frightened, overwhelmed. I have joined a 12 step group for eating disorders, but it only meets once per week. I have talked to my AA sponsor some about it-- maybe I need to talk to her more, IDK. All I know is I feel like sh*t.

I feel you. I will be 2 weeks out on Monday and I am a MESS. I am sad and angry much of the time. Depressed. Feel like who gives a sh*t and just want to go to bed and stay there. The support group through my surgeon's office meets once per month. Next meeting is in a few weeks. I might try to go. In the mean time, it is what it is. Can't be undone so I may as well suck it up and deal.

I was sleeved 1/27. I am on pureed food now and i noticed I feel pressure at the top of my sternum. If I stop eating just as soon as I feel a little pressure, I am good. If I take another few bites, the pressure increases and I am uncomfortable for about an hour or so. It is a VERY subtle feeling-- so I have to be paying super close attention.

I know she is your sister, so this is going to be very hard advice to take... but it is the truth. While it feels VERY personal, her comments have NOTHING to do with you. Nothing. Nada. Zippo. This is entirely about her insecurity and her issues. When I encounter people in my life like this, I treat them like they are sick-- I have compassion for them, but do not take anything they say to heart-- because they are clearly not in their right mind. It works for me-- and keeps me from taking what they say personally. Keep doing you. Peace.

I was sleeved 1/27 and I am feeling really good. I moved to pureed foods yesterday. I had heard it over and over but was still surprised at how little I could eat-- literally 2-3 tbsp and that is IT. Nice to have something besides soup or protein shakes, though! I went for a 20 min walk outside yesterday. Today we have snow and freezing rain, so I think I will have to hit the dreaded treadmill. For now, I am working (I am bale to work from home), so I will have to walk later tonight.

Today was my first day on purees. I felt ok when I was eating, but by dinner time, i could only have a Protein hake-- my stomach was really rolling--- just could not bear the thought of actual food. Ugh.

I have heard it is a lot of fun-- and even tried it a few times... until my chiropractor told me he basically could pay off med school just from the patients he saw sustaining injury from that class alone (YIKES!). So, my suggestion is go slow, and really listen to your body!

I was sleeved 1/27 and I am doing pretty well, I think. No problem getting my water in-- does not hurt to drink. I like my protein shakes and have no trouble with those. I also have some Isopure Zero fruit flavored protein drinks that I like a lot. I am starting pureed foods tomorrow... thinking eggs with a little ham and cheese for breakfast. Excited to be moving to the next phase! I am walking some (although we got a foot of snow today so I did not get my walk in) and went back to work today (I am able to work from home and will be doing that until Thurs. when I am heading into the office!).

So glad you were able to break your stall! I am not a fan of sucralose,but kind of hard for me to avoid it right now-- I am on full liquids and am only 1 week out. However, once I can eat "real" food, I plan on eating the same things you mentioned. I have been a low carb fan much of my adult life so the foods you are eating are some of my faves!

Oh my word! I joined a VSG group on Facebook the other day and I just left it. Good grief-- the petty arguing and immaturity there was TRAGIC. I am SO glad for this bunch of forums-- have been hanging around here for a few weeks and everyone has been polite and decent to each other. YAY. So, I think I will make this set of boards my main source of online support and I will be steering clear of the FB groups from here on out!

Well, I had to remind myself that for many overweight folks, emotional issues are part and parcel of the problem, so the fact that there was rampant evidence of emotional disregulation and poor coping skills probably should not have surprised me. Oh dear-- that came out more condescending than I intended.... not sure how to say it any other way. Still I am glad for this forum.

I was just sleeved last Monday--- so I am gonna keep this pretty low key for this month. My goal is to walk for 30 minutes at least 5 times per week.

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I am on Day 6 and on full liquids (not clear). I use Isopure for my Protein. I love it because it is 26g in one little scoop--- I have choc., vanilla, and unflavored. Good stuff.

So sorry to hear you are struggling. I am very new to this journey (was just sleeved a week ago tomorrow), but thought I would throw in my 2 cents anyway...... It might be time to ask yourself "What am I committed to?". Are you committed to a lifestyle of exercise and healthy eating? Are you committed to taking the best care of yourself as you can? More specifically- what will you commit to doing each day? Will you commit to 30 mins of exercise X number of times per week? Will you commit to writing down what you eat each day? Do you see where I am going here?--- we each are already making commitments by our actions every day, showing what we are and are not committed to---- the idea is to make the commitment intentional. If I declare I am committed to health, but then let myself eat food I know is not good for me, I am not being honest with myself. It is ok if you are not ready to commit to being healthy-- just be honest, so you know where you stand and so you can take responsibility for your choices instead of feeling "lost" and "out of control". Best of luck to you on your journey!

I hd 6 weeks between my last weigh in and my surgery date. I gained 19 pounds. Kid you not. I ate everything that was not nailed down. Honestly, I was grateful for the 4 day pre-surgery liquid diet -- I was literally sick of food! food funerals are very common. I do not recommend doing what I did, because now, despite having lost 16 pounds in 2 weeks, I am still 3 pounds higher than my last weigh in! Just do the best you can. For me, it is SO much easier to stick to a liquid diet now that I have been sleeved--- I have to remind myself when to have my soup/protein shakes on a timer-- I do not even think about food most of the day.

I told only the people I am closest to--- a few very close friends, and my 2 sisters that I am closest to. The only people at work who know are my boss and the HR person. As far as I am concerned, it is no one's business. I am a supervisor and my employees know I needed to take a week off for medical leave. I did not offer details. I do not need anyone's opinions. I do not need them telling me their "horror" stories. Sometimes I wish I could talk about it more openly, but that is what this forum is for, right?

I have been practicing for almost a year. I just got sleeved this past Monday. My surgeon said I needed to wait 2-4 weeks. The biggest concern he had was dehydration--not the stretching so much. I am going to err on the side of caution and give myself 4 weeks.

Hello! I was sleeved on Monday (Jan 27th). Unlike many folks, I am not having difficutly getting 64oz of Water in per day. I feel like I drink so much water, I might as well just set the tv up in the bathroom to keep from having to get up and down so much! LOL Anyway, my diet guidelines for the first week indicate 60-70g of Protein daily. I can do that with 1 scoop of Isopure and 6 oz of milk, twice daily. That is only about 350 cals. Is that ok or should I be eating more? I am not hungry (I do have some stomach acid action that makes me think I am hungry, but I know better and I have a sh*t- ton of head hunger). My NUT sent me home with guidelines that show 3 "meals" plus 2 protein supplements per day---just seems like an awful lot more than I need. An example: B- 1/2 c. very thin cream of wheat with skim milk S- protein supplement L- 1 c blended and strained low fat cream Soup S- protein supplement D- 1 c blended and strained low fat broth-based soup IDK but that seems like an awful lot..... anyway, would love to know your thoughts. TIA.

I called my Nut and she said I should be having more than just Protein shakes-- it is impt for my body to get nutrients from other things (like blended/strained soups) throughout the day. Thanks for all of the responses.

BryBro--- yeah I am off the pain meds. I have not needed anything more than Tylenol since Wednesday. And I am going for a walk as soon as I finish my protein shake.

I like watching the show. I particularly liked the one about Penny-- she made lots of excuses and did not follow instructions well at all. I liked that show because I could see myself in her--- there have been dozens of times I have made similar claims ("I am doing all I can...") and I was lying to myself. Penny was an excellent reminder for me that I can sabotage myself if I am not willing to be committed and to stay honest. Good stuff.