supportive hubby

How about the support of a husband but now i crave her attention ( she had the sleeve about 2yrs now) i tried everything talking to her nicely and tried talking to her in a very calm and concerned way. Still nothing our sex life is spotty at best 8 months ago great session 2 months later just get it over with and now 6 months later nothing and i mention it to her and her response is awe poor thing. Feeling completely alone and unneeded Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N920A using the BariatricPal App

Only options left are do not have sex or oral sex or anal sex

Condoms

I need advice wife got sleeved about 4 months ago and her sex drive never really was there to begin with And now it just seems like it's completely gone. All I hear is excuses why she doesn't want to have sex I'm getting so angry at her that we starting to constantly disagree on a lot of things

Hand jobs are great too ! JUST SAYING

Hawk 7775. That's how I feel exactly and I told her again tonight in a nice and understanding way. That I'm just a normal guy that has needs. And she understood but I said I just missed her touch and feeling loved and she kinda joked about it and did say she was sorry for the whole thing (lack of intimacy) and I said I guess it's just something I'm gonna live with ...she didn't answer me cus we got interrupted by our daughter.

Not any better. She's been sick and tried to talk to her about how I'm feeling and she got all defensive and making more excuses why she is not in the mood. Blames it mostly on me for being tired and working a lot etc and when I said so why do you avoid taking showers with me and her answer is more excuses like I just wanted to take a quick shower etc. I don't know what I'm going to do anymore

Well I want these ladies to comment cause I can't get true advice from a guy who says get a little on side so if any body has an issue with ladies commenting on this thread you can leave this thread

Yes big boy sat down with her a few times and explained to her what my feelings are. Missing that connection feeling and the feeling of being needed.

A little on the side does not fill the big hole that is missing . It only puts a blanket over it and you will step on it and fall into that big hole. And it will be much bigger than you expected and you will not be able to get out

Thanks for the info ladies since us men can't read minds and men work on different wave links as women do . and being frustrated it's really hard to put the hurt of constantly being rejected aside but this week I will try my best and change how I look at the situation

She laughed and said just not right now. I know she's working long hours and she's exhausted when she gets home so I try to have everything taken care of when she gets home and this week I'm on vacation to spend time with the kids and her so I'm hoping for some action. .If not I'm gonna have carpel tunnel in my wrist lol

Thank you. Your insight helps a lot it's just so frustrating I told earlier how good she looked even in pj's and how wanted so much to bend her over and take her. While she was wrapping Xmas presents and she said she could not understand how she looked so good with pj's on and hair messed up and I said cus you are looking so dam hot and if I stay in this room I'm gonna have take care of myself

And when we say we need you ...you say we are being selfish. When we know darn well you are gonna be pleasured first. .at least in my book. .and we treat you like your our queen .When we feel like you treated us as your king

Shizwiz I don't want to offend you but help me understand this Us guys have to wait till you lady's are "ready" and that could be months or years but when you lady's are ready .You expect us to drop our pants and go ! But in the mean time you expect us to love you and never get frustrated with you and turn off our sex drive till its time to turn it on. . Isn't that being selfish. .?

I tell her how i really notice that she is loosing weight and looking "GOOD" and I give her the growling noise and tell her I want her. And she just looks at me and rolls her eyes and I also tried talking to her in a calm way and explain to her how it's not just the sex I need from her it's the connection and the feeling of being the needed ..not just for paying the bills and and taking care of the kids the house etc. This situation has been going on since we got married 12 yrs ago ..I just feel like a roommate

Surgery went well .. no complications We are starting a new beginning starting today

5 months post op. And she's doing well almost to onederland But sex drive is not and with her really losing the inches. I'm like a energizer bunny ready to bounce at any moment and it's driving me crazy

Update ...wife is home and just trying to relax. In pain but feeling ok

Gotta keep going home every few hours to let our dog out and take care of our teenage daughters priorities

Thanks everyone for positive responses Pink....I never seen my wife at a normal weight. I met my 14 yrs ago and she was overweight then. So is gonna be different to see her loose weight. Also her doc said it should help relieve some of her back pain she has

I do have a brother but he's a mess lol Wife is resting and I'm sitting bedside

Thank you.

Thank you

Yes thank you . My wife has her sleeve surgery on Monday morning. August 11th And I'm worried and scared. Never seen her skinny . and just the unknown scares me to death.