Hey there Sometimes it doesn't matter if you lose it slowly. It's taken 18 months for me to lose 95lbs and I need surgery on my arms and my stomach. When you hit a certian age skin doesn't go back to where it came from. but I would rather have that then be unhealthy again. You need to find a lap-band support group I am suprise that your clinic doesn't have one just for lap-band mine does in WI. Ask your doctor.