j_war06

LOL Im not going to be that kind of lawyer. Im going to work in government and politics. Its cut-throat. I like it. The law has never done anything positive (or negative) for me besides not giving me an MIP at a party (because I was pregnant and passed a pen test) and many have passed me up for speeding tickets, or busted a party I was at and just told us to keep it down or the classic "no one leaves". Other than that, when I really needed them, they have done nothing! All they want to do is drive around in their shiny new Chargers and look cool, and make smart-elic remarks. Besides cheating on their wives, abandoning their children, and using/selling the illegal drugs they confinscate.

LOL this is crazy?? BTW: is it better to get the band in Mexico or the states? My insurance won't cover the band, and theres this great surgeon that NO ONE has heard of in Mexico that says he will do it for $100 dollars! Is it a good idea?

And how well did law enforcement do with O.J. Simpson? And how well did law enforcement do when the cops finally got called on my ex? And how well were they doing everytime they saw him on the sidewalk outside of a bar visibly intoxicated and possibly drugged up, but left him there? How well did the law enforcement do when he attempted a break in at the club I used to work at? How well would the law have done to prevent a gang from hurting me had I filed my rape? How well did they do the night I ran out of gas and BEGGED them for assistance, and they did nothing? What about the time a lady ran over me at the gas pumps of wal*mart and a police officer drove by at the exact moment it happened? I dont put much faith in them.

So you wanted me to leave my own apartment? Because he sure wasnt. And whens the last time you woke up with a full grown man choking the life out of you. You wouldnt want to risk calling the police either. I couldnt just leave...where would I have gone? I should have done something sooner than I did, but regardless my self-confidence is normal. Coming from a small town, everyone judges everyone else, its entertainment when there is none.

Oh but there is according to the definition a few pages back. Im not talking about what was legal then, Im talking about what is legal NOW. You said those things "Can't" happen. When they can, whether it is or isnt legal actually. Those things can happen.

I was making a point that it IS possible to be abused, harassed, raped, etc at an internship or at a job....that it CAN happen. And you just gave the simplified definition of false imprisonment. I DONT WANT to do my internship for free, I want to get paid. LIKE I SAID, Im not saying that an internship=slavery, Im giving a mental picture according to the previous description of slavery given. Weren't any of you on the debate team, ever been to a debate, watched a debate, participated in a debate, or anything of that matter?

Im not cruel, at all. Im quite peachy upon meeting anyone for the first time...but if I dont like you, then I wont pretend that I do. What difference in life does it make if some stranger gets their feelings hurt because they are overly-sensitive and havent learned to adapt to the jungle that our society is. I wish it were more primitive in that, the weak get the oust to some island for the non-survivors of society. If your going to go around getting your feelings hurt by the people in society that are going to FEED off your pain, and give them what you want, then you gotta go. Im not insecure about anything. I tell people how it is. If I was insecure I would care that you disagree with me, I would care about the people who still call me fat, I would care about the people who want to judge me for my current predictament. I dont care, whatever they think, they can think, I have my own opinions about them as well. Not everyone is going to like you, so why not give them a reason not to? Im just trying to get across the point that I dont care about other people that I dont even know...

NEVER judge what CANT happen...rather what is unlikely or illegal. I never meant to say that internship=slavery....I was providing a picture to the definition of slavery given in a previous post, thats all.

Last time I checked an intern has no rights in the company but to learn. Im making a comparison for today's America. And if the pencil issue isnt racism, then why on earth is the history of a word?

I do go to therapy. It made me stop thinking so much about other people, and start focusing on me and what's best for me. Why should I care if some stranger gets their feelings hurt? How will it negatively affect my child emotionally? Because I dont run up and randomly hug strangers or people I barely know and I dont censor myself to people I dont even care about. Strangers dont care about me, why should I care about them? Why care about people you dont even know exist? Why not focus on bettering yourself and becoming who YOU want to be, and not what others want you to be. I tried for years to be who everyone WANTED me to be, since I started focusing on myself my grades are up, I have a passion for life, and I take chances. Before I wouldnt make a move if I thought that anyone would dissapprove. Im a better person now that I dont care about other people. I guess you just gotta have the self-confidence not to let other people bother you or hinder you. My life has been 100x more fulfilled than before I started focusing on me.

Go beyond obvious, expand your mind, think of other possibilities. There are so many ways to consider things, that simply seeing what is right in front of you is boring. I used extreme comparisons so show how ridiculous it is for one person to decide that no one can use a word because someone's feelings MIGHT get hurt. I think its ridiculous that in America there are certain and specific things secluded ONLY to black america. If we tried to have a college that ONLY accepted white applicants then it would be nothing but trouble. Do you honestly think that if I was just an average student applying for college (exclude top 10%, SAT, and ACT scores) and I applied to a black college...do you think I would get in? Is that racism? No because the tables are turned. So...if no other word compares to the "n" word, what is its synonym? Does it have one? What about an acronym? What is its If no other racially unjust word is comparable to the "n" word how can one decide how bad other racial slurs are?

For His sake, look beyond what is in front of you. Think of things in a different way than how they are usually presented. Many people in my town stay on government assistance all their lives and throughout generations JUST because they believe the government owes them something. Technically if one wants to become whatever they want in life they DO have to do an interniship for specific careers. So therefore they are forced into it, so your argument doesnt hold up on technicalities. And I didnt ask if the pencil incident was the same thing as calling someone the "n" word, I asked if it could be considered racism based upon the facts presented in the previous argument.

I WANT to do everything for this baby from changing poopy diapers to soccer and piano eventually. If I didnt want to do this things, I wouldnt keep it. I am cold and heartless, its what society has taught me, if I went around worrying about other people ALL the time and if what I was saying was offensive, then I would be a nervous wreck! I dont worry about other people, I worry about me and my baby...thats it.

I do know what it feels like to be called that word in a derogatory manner! Do you think that word is secluded to one race only? Mostly it is, but not always. So then according to your statement its no better than a skinny person who has never been overweight and never dieted in her life to call someone heavier than her fat? Its the same thing? Im not going to just ignore a word because someone doesnt like it...if that person is my friend or my superior or someone else important to me and it bothers them, then I wont use it around them in any manner...but if I dont know you, I dont care about you. Ive had my experiences with judgement, and all is fair in love and war. Why should I care to not hurt someone's feelings that I dont even know? Why would they let someone they dont know hurt their feelings? Thats just ridiculous.

Yeah they hurt me, until I realized that it was nothing but ignorance and people trying to cut me down. They dont hurt me anymore, well it could have something to do with the fact that Ive been quite cold and heartless for most of my life. I am a pretty mean person in reality, I do what I want, when I want and if I TRULY dont want to do it, then I dont. If I dont use words to defend myself I have no other method, what? you want me to be sued for battery or assault? Atleast with words I can deny them or counter-sue.

I just dont understand how one word can hold so much power? Someone calls you that and you dont like it, so what? write them off as ignorant or stupid and go on...dont dwell on it, dont get offended. If you honestly did NOTHING to deserve to be called ANY NAME, then just dismiss it

That is simply hypothetical and extreme, but that was the point. So if that doesnt represent racism, why is its bad for my friends and I to refer to one another as that word in a friendly tone. And there are written accounts in history where slaves were not beaten down to work. And I guess that by your definition an internship or and apprenticeship is a slavery of sort, your overworked and not paid for what you do...believe what you want but an in-depth look at history reveals many things and the government has more than paid for those who want compensation for the slavery of their culture (some of which may not have been slaves). I want to know when Im going to get a break from the government?

Well maybe Im immature, but atleast I dont dwell on being called a stupid name all day (or the rest of my life). And atleast I stick up for myself in someway. And sometimes people just need a dose of their own medicine

Ummm....Do you really think that EVERY slave was whipped into submission? That they were ALL beat down. They werent. I will admit that my family owned 2 or 3 slaves during that period and treated them quite well (according to journals and such). They didnt beat them or mentally abuse them. They used them for labor purposes only (which was wrong I admit.) So, therefore according to the history of a culture asking someone of that culture to do something for me would allow them to assume Im being racist....In theory ofcourse.

I use this word as a term of good friendship. It also means (around here anyways) that you trust the person. Its a good thing as long as it has an "a" at the end of it. I dont say it with an "er" often, and probably havent said it in months. If I say it that way it means that someone (no matter what color they are) has REALLY pissed me off. I cant predict what my child will hear from others, but I even sensor myself now as opposed to my previous (and VERY unfeminine and unprofessional) potty mouth. And what is "safe?" I cant insult a black person who just insulted me without knowing me? I cant turn-around and judge someone for judging me? Now what kind of frilly-froo-froo world is that? Im a REALIST....Crap happens, people say things that are inappropriate. The way I see it is 1.) You can either sit around and stay mad at them and let them get you down, ruin your day 2.) You can ignore it or 3.) You can return the "favor." I usually go with with the latter, however I believe that 2 or 3 is acceptable, but Im not going to let some dumb word ruin my psyche. Ive been called HORRID things in my life that would make the "n" word look like a compliment, but I usually get mad for a sec, stand up for myself, and go about my day in a good peace of mind.

Oh I enjoy it, except for the possible complications that are arising. I just cant believe how well Ive done over the past year especially! Im so glad this thread is still alive so that I could see how far Ive come...Im so proud of myself, for once in a long time lol! I mean this past year is hell on earth compared to when I wanted to kill myself, but I wouldnt take it back for anything because it has taught me SOOOOO much!!! Im so excited about the baby, ofcourse I have my worries (aside from health issues) but God has given me a great and precious gift and Im SO excited

So the history makes it so bad? So if I happen to ask a black classmate who sits in front of me in class to pick up my dropped pencil because I cant reach it, then Im incenuating that they should do it because they are black and I am white? Why is it ok for black people to use the word then and not for any other race? I have a black friend who uses it in a deragatory manner all the time, but apparently its ok??

What makes the n word so taboo? Whats so special about it that it is socially acceptable to use other "bad words" occassionally, but a word that has at least two meanings (one good and one bad) cant be used in either way. WHY is it okay for one race to use a word and another cant? Isnt that racism?

WOW cant believe this thread is still alive! I commented on this thing like 2 YEARS AGO!! Amazing! Ive been very proud of myself, Ive resisted the urge to hurt myself for 2 YEARS!! I cant believe that, that is such a milestone for me! Not even one suicide attempt in OVER 2 years! I mean, my life before was heaven with peaches and cream compared to now! lol! And Im coping! Simply amazing

BTW, there are a lot of words that you cant use around everyone that we use anyway. Why is this one special?