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Well guys, UHC mom called UHC today and they said that they had recieved my letter on July 11, but have not taken the chance to review it yet. I am so excited that they did get the letter! I just wanna squeal, but I am going to have a heart-attack if they say yes!!!!! This is the only thing I have ever wanted SOOOOOOO BAD that I would cry over not getting it, I have always wanted to be skinny, I can't wait until I have the surgery (I'm getting it whether they pay or not). Please everyone pray for me to be accepted!!!!! :) :) :)

This is one reason why I have opted for an American surgeon whom is one of the top 3 lap-band surgeons in the U.S., I am so sorry you are going through that, your finally getting the body you've always wanted, and now there is something else wrong. Hope you can find a solution to the problem, I'll keep you in my thoughts.

Wow, I am really sorry that someone was that rude a vulgar towards you and I know exaclty how that feels. I would've felt like I coulda died at that moment, but what gets me through all the hateful things ppl say to me is picturing them in that same situation and imagining them in 10 or 15 years with an extra 50lbs and it looking HORRIBLE on them and everyone thinking man they used to look good, and everyone seeing me after I have lost all the weight and regreting what they said to me because I am not going to gain the weight back unless I choose to have the band removed

Yeah, there isnt anywhere on the net (that I have found) that has one and honestly I would like to be able to discuss going through all this with ppl my age aswell as those older, but peers really help

I am young (17) and was just having my little pity party all week about being "fat" and not able to do anything my whole high school career, but I am glad you are brave enough to go through with this now, before you regret anything in the future. I have heard several ppl talk about Dr. Ortiz in these forums and what I hear, you will be in good hands. I just hope I can get accepted SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOON!!! lol! Well its good to see other teens reaching out on here, doesn't make me feel so YOUNG! anymore lol

Well, I did have the confidence to go to prom this past year, but I have said this before and I mean it, Weight has always been a problem but I could still go and do stuff, now because of all of the comorbidities I dunno that I will be able to use my body to get out of bed in the morning, some days I have to lie in bed ALL day. My bf never invited me to go and do stuff because frankly I couldn't do it because of all the aches and pains.

Hi! I am not approved by the insurance yet but I am being banded right in Texas probably in the beginning of August, good luck!

I had another hard night, but my ex was here and I talked to him so that I could explain to him how I felt over certain issues that pertained to me breaking up with him, but I still feel like crap, I guess I need to make an appt. with my therapist because I just cant get out of this hole.

I have a bf, but not many friends because I never see anyone because they dont know me. My only friends are my bf(ex), and this one couple that I have known forever, other than that I have nothing. It does matter when I get this surgery done because if by any chance I over indulge and gain about 10 more pounds my knees are most likely to collapse, this surgery is not all cosmetic, as a matter of fact I would not mind being this big if I could walk and use my hands and body parts more. I am just ready not to hurt and to not be complaining ALL the time, it gets on my nerves so it has to get on everyone else's. I just don't know why everything stupid happens to me and when I really need something, I can't get it or really just have to fight and fight and fight and fight for it, and sometimes I don't win and sometimes it's too late. I miss going to school, I don't mind it (except waking up early), I just want to go do normal things with ppl, like I cant even hold a conversation with anyone my own age because I haven't been to a party and/or don't go to school, basically there is no common ground.

Thanks guys, I have become so hard because of my struggles. I finally opened up 2 years ago, and allowed myself to love someone, and now they are breaking my heart just like everyone else has done. I just can't learn to trust ppl because I feel like a used paper plate, ppl pile their crap on me, then throw me away. I just don't understand, I try to love and help, just everytime something happens, I dunno I am having a lot of hell lately, my bf has really hurt me over the past month, he will be romantic then just hateful, I dont get it????????

I heard this three person joke on the radio the other day so here it goes A husband and a wife are cleaning out their garage when the lady picked up an old lamp and wiped it off. All of a sudden out from no where a man appeared who said I am a powerful, wise, all knowing genie and you have 2 wishes to make. The husband immediately realizes that he is getting jipped, and asks why everyone else gets 3 wishes, and they only get 2. The genie responds, "well I have been cramped up in that old lamp for 3 or 400 years, and I decided I deserve something every now and then." So the husband agreed, and wished to be the greatest golfer in the world. The genie snapped his fingers and said, "it is done, you are the greatest golfer in the world." All of a sudden the wife snaps at her husband, "you idiot, we could have had anything you wished to be a golfer?" The husband responded with, "Well do you have anything better?" She said, "yes, genie I want to be rich and beautiful for the rest of my life." The genie snapped his fingers and said it is done. The husband immediatly congradulated his wife on her quick wit and thinking, and started feeling guilty about his own wish. Then the genie said, "okay now it's my turn, I wish I could have sex with your wife." The husband, ofcourse, opposed this and began to freak out. The genie said to him "man, I have provided you with whatever you want, but I have been in that old lamp for hundreds of years, I haven't seen a woman in over 500 years, just one night man." The wife was flattered and automatically began to pressure her husband saying "honey look what he has done for us, and how rare is this, atleast let him have something that he would want." The husband finally agreed the the two having sex, and as the walked out of the garage and up into the bedroom the genie whispered in the wife's ear, "when do you think he will quit falling for this genie thing?"

I feel a lot better this morning, but I still have one question. Will I always be this bitter toward people who have always been thin? I am so bitter and falt out mean to those who have always been thin, not all of them, but most. Will I ever be able to look at a skinny girl and not think about her getting fat and outright hating her?

JUST ONE MORE I SWEAR, THEN I AM GOING TO BED I have a chinese pug who is about a year and 3 1/2 months old whose name is Pudge. Brantley LOVESSSSS Pudge and says he is his best friend. Anyways, oneday while their family was here for a cookout Brant was playing with Pudge who has horrible skin allergies and had about 3 big sores on him and a few smaller ones, and his dad walked in and looked at Pudge and said "whew your an ugly dog" and Brant proceeded to run his daddy down and scream "Hes not ugly daddy, he just has some bobos and he cant help it, so don't say that!!!" Meanwhile, July 4, Brant came over (Lord help me) to our house to stay during the day, and I got on to him for pulling Pudge by his little rolls (I cringed thinking, that could be my rolls) and I got on to him & told him he was hurting Pudge, and your not supposed to hurt friends. The next thing I know, I look over and Brant has Pudge armed up and is giving him a big SMACK on the lips. I told him that that was nasty, and he proceeded to tell me that it wasn't nassy, Pudge was his fwiend. This is coming from the kid who chews his fingernails and says "MMMMMM toe nails good" and when told to quite eating his boogers he says "But they tastes sooooo good JOJO!!" HAHA I HAVE WAY TOOOOOOOOOO MANY STORIES

Hey, something else, since my aunt only has boys and they hardly ever shut a door, much less lock it. Anyways, Brantley (4) walks in on Kyle (14) peeing. Then steps up beside him and starts peeing in the same bowl. When Brantley finished he went running into his mom's room and says "Momma, why is Kyle's SeeSee so big!?" HAHAHHA Also, while sitting in a Mexican food restaurant one day, Brantley was sitting close to a baby at another table, and whenever the baby would start to cry, he would look over and hiss and growl (said he was a frake aka snake) and make horrible faces at the baby. After the everything was apologized for, he said "Momma why do dose babies have to be so loud, I wanna beat em up!!" Such a temper

Gotta love it!! My little cousin (Brantley) is 4 yrs old but has the temper of an angry bull, and has two older bros (Brodey 6 and Kyle 14). One night we had just finished eating, and I promised Kyle I would play a game with him, and ofcourse the two little ones had to come into the room too. Brantley and Brodey had just been playing outside and were all hot and sweaty, and Kyle told them not to get on his bed. Brantley then went into the closet and got something out and tried to hit Kyle, when Kyle took it away from him, he proclaimed "I DONT LIKE YOU!" then sat on the floor. After a minuter Kyle started talking about his new expensive basketball shoes, and Brantley proceeded to throw one at him and growl like a bear. Kyle took the shoe away and kicked him out of the room, but Brodey let him back in and Brantley said "KYLE!" then kicked his NEW shoe and said "I don't like you, and I hate your new bastetball sues!!!" and stormed off. It was so cute!!!

Aww, you guys Im crying again, but it's becuz I know yall are right, I have to get this together, and get past it, and whip everyone's asses in between, I just think that sometimes no one cares that I hurt, and no one who can help wants to like my orthopedist and insurance company, and bf, and other friends, and college mates, and teachers, and so on and so on.......................................I love it on here, everyone is sooooooooo supportive, even when your being a downer

Hey, I thot my family was nuts, but I am truly lucky. But from a psychological point of view, do any of you think that the abuse or just wierdness in the family may have contributed to your weight gain and obesity in the long run? I know that while I was little my mom was a little nuts because her mom (my Mama Di) treated her like she wasnt worth the dirt she walked on, so Mom pushed me to be the perfect little girl, especially since my Mama Di took away my sister from my mom after she was born and told everyone that she had had a baby when she was about 35 (which isn't old btw) but everyone saw Mom pregnant, and never saw Mama Di pregnant, but she honestly believes that everyone thinks that my biological sis is her daughter (weird huh?) My family is WACKY! That's all, when I was little Mom used to make me do pagents, to this day I dunno where that money came from because my Mom worked for Mama Di in her conveniant store making $50 a week, and Dad made about $6,000 a year. I am a natural blond haired, hazel-eyed girl, with dimples, and it was more than anyone could stand (I was soooooooo cute) but I started gaining weight when I was about 3 or 4 like CRAZY!! And have never lost it, I was born big, but I mean I blew up and Mom did everything she could to stop it which led me to being a Binge Eater from the ages of abour 4 until I was about 12, then I became a short-term anorexic (when school ended I started eating a lot in the summer). Now I am just huge and in a lot of pain, but I am so lucky to have the parents that I have, and you all have shown me that, thanks, you all are an inspiration Oh, wanna here something funny!!!! My other grandmother (Mamo) got arrested about 5 weeks ago for public intoxication, she had went to the doctor and faked serious depression to get Xanax and Trazadone and took some on the way home, and did not make it 2 miles before she hit someone in an intersection but drove off to Casa Ole (mexican food place) and hit someone else then freaked out, turned around and almost hit another person trying to back out of the police baracade!!! All they gave her was a PI tho, but we made her sit in jail until she sobered up!!! My family is just plain ZANEY!!

Thanks, I understand that, and I act like that most of the time, but for some reason lately it has really been bothering me. I was in the top 10 of my class until my co-morbities, and now I am barely in the top quarter, and I havent been to school in God knows when, and I am going to miss my senior year now. See, I am in a small town, and everyone knows everyone, except no one knows me because I can't get out of my house most of the time, and when I do, where ever I go I have to sit all the time so that my knees do not give out. I just don't know, I miss being around ppl my age, I am always around much older ppl, and have very very little interaction with anyone my age. I have never even been to a party because I have TMJ and used to have to goto bed so early I couldn't go plus the pain in my knees wouldn't have let me stay neway. Its just everyone has something to talk about, and all I have is something to complain about because I think that I am just going to go to bed one night and wake-up the next morning, but not be able to move anything, I just know it's going to happen. I can't even rely on my teachers to send me the work I need in homebound because they would rather say they sent it, and not send it and give me a 0 for the assignment. I FAILED HISTORY!!! I HAVE NEVER EVER FAILED A CLASS IN MY LIFE, NEVER EVEN COME CLOSE TO FAILING!!! I JUST NEED TO BE ABLE TO GO BACK SO THAT I CAN MAKE DECENT GRADES! I'll never get into college with grades like mine (although I stick to my guns that I turned in all that work, the teacher's word over rules mine, so I will always lose because I am a literal BIG FAT LOSER) I never win in life, never. I am so upset, atleast I won't know what I have missed right?

Actually it isnt there fault entirely, my mom's business chose to exclude obesity as a treatable "condition", but I am fighting it like no tomorrow with examples of laws and practices within TX and the U.S. and am praying that I get accepted this time, I was denied the first go round in April and have just finally given up on the promise that my orthopedic surgeon made to write me a letter. So, good luck to you, and watch those policy exclusions, they are really sneaky, and close to illegal.

Hi, Im in Jasper, and you guys are the first ppl I have seen on here from anywhere close to me. I am supposed to have my surgery by Dr. Spiegel (in Beaumont) and have the surgery in the Houston Center for Laporscopic (however you spell it) Surgery. Wish me luck with getting approved!!:nervous

Hi, I'm 17, and it was easy for me to get the okay from my doctors here in Texas, so I am sure it wont be to hard there. Good luck with it, and I hope you dont have any policy exclusions, they are HELL!!!!

Thanks Alexandra, but nowmy mission is to help everyone I can get accepted, including myself. All in all I had to go after them I am scared to death that they will not accept the surgery, but it also made me angry that an exclusion like that could exist, so I did some research, and now, even if I have to pay for my surgery, I want to help other ppl try to get accepted by their insurance and I have also become an Obesity Epidemic Activist to support American Weight Loss through whatever means fits the individual, so if anyone else wants some information just message me.

I am using UHC also, and I think the doctors are working for them to. The orthopedic surgeon who suggested I see a bariatric surgeon about losing weight told me he would write me a letter back on April 7, he never did, all he and his assistants did was lie to me about him being too busy and taking days off or some stupid mess, anyways I sent a damn good appeal letter to UHC just last Thursday, July 7, what is that 3 months and I am yet to be banded, I hope they come back with a YES! But UHC overall has not helped us out one bit and has been total idiots, where do they find people to work there?!?!

Hi, I just sent in my appeal letter last Thursday after collecting evidence for 2 MONTHS! It was a long and horrible process, but I did get some very useful information to use against them. First, I looked up my policy online on their website, then I made notes of what they would and would not cover concerning any co-morbidities. After that I added up all the expenses that they have spent on me the past 3 years, then did some estimated math from facts that I received from my doctors treating my comorbid conditions to project how much they would spend on my co-morbid conditions by the year 2010 (when they will no longer be carrying me.) For my last straw I put in some personal emotional trouble, like I have not went to school in about 4-5 months because of my co-morbid conditions, but I also threw in some legal "mumbo-jumbo" because I am a concurrent law student and could get that information from a special website for lawyers and law students and this is what I found. "Under the American Disability Act Obesity and Morbid Obesity is a disease and a disability." This means that since I am fat (morbidly obese) that they are not supposed to be able to any longer discriminate against obese people within the workplace, or any other function open to the general public, just like they can not not hire someone because they are missing an arm or a finger, or are in a wheelchair. This also means that the insurance should actually cover you if you have an actual medical problem because of the obesity (like I have chronic and severe knee pain, depression, chronic fatigue syndrom, TMJ, etc...) if these problems did not exist before you were a member on that plan, they had to develop while you were covered by them. SEC. 12112. [section 102] (a) General rule. - No covered entity shall discriminate against a qualified individual with a disability because of the disability of such individual in regard to job application procedures, the hiring, advancement, or discharge of employees, employee compensation, job training, and other terms, conditions, and privileges of employment an insurer, hospital or medical service company, health maintenance organization, or any agent, or entity that administers benefit plans, or similar organizations from underwriting risks, classifying risks, or administering such risks that are based on or not inconsistent with State law; or

OMG! My boyfriend just never understood why I have always been so jealous of skinny bitches. BTW I thought that I was the only one that used that term on a constant basis. When my bf and I go out I am always finding the pretty, hot, built like a brick poop-house, girl before he does. Then ofcourse I have to point it out, and I get jealous of her, I do not get jealous if my bf looks lol, (secretly I like to look at other guys to) we are open and he loves me BUT I HATE going to the lake or beach when people especially skinny little whores in hot pink string bikinis and tanned up like no other!!! UGH! can we make it a law that it isnt illegal to sabotage their lives to let them know how we feel! lol! It drives me nuts!