j_war06

What has anyone said to you that they meant in the best way possible, but it actually hurt in the long run. An example of what is always told to me is "you are sooo pretty to be your size." Another thing a skinny girl once told me, not realizing my weight and state of depression, was that she would kill herself if she ever weighed 200lbs, then asked me "wouldn't you?" And I was thinking, I'm still alive you scrawny b****. I can laugh now, but it kept me depressed for years, oh Lord I have some stories of the goofy things people say to me, not realizing my position.

he did it illegally is the point. Texas Medical Board says he has to give me advance notice, not make me waste gas. I hope it costed him several patients because he has so many that he cant take care of them all, and maybe had I had a doctor that CARED what was going on and could tell me from other patients then PERHAPS I wouldnt have been so bad off to possibly have screwed up my band. Its still my fault, I made the decision...however, he should have observed my psychosis first and realized that I was acting in manic and depressed behavior.

Hello Dr. Speigel's Office... Glad to see your so interested in my personal life. I just wanted to write to give the doctor KUDOS on a terrific performance today. He did a very excellent job of blindsiding me and catching me off-guard. I hope he's happy, because he's the only person that has ever rendered me speachless. Now, I have one issue I would like to address, and Ill write a letter as well. I wanted to know when I was going to get my $100.00 back from the gas you made me waste to get there? It took a whole tank to get there and back home, you know it would have been cheaper and easier just to tell me over the phone...but he had to feel like a "man" huh? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA I saw the date on the bottom of that page, it was printed before today, it was pre-meditated. Good job at breaking my patient/doctor trust and overstepping the boundaries in our professional relationship. If you wanted to know about my private life, I woulda told ya! You didnt have to go searching for me on the internet. I had no idea you wanted to play therapist too. Hope your green card is good hon, because the BBB will hear from me....there's no way that its legal for you accept cash or insurance only. You tax thief! And your foreign...thanks for being another person to ruin America! Jeez, I hate men who think they have power just because of money and a degree, when all they are holding is a stack of papers, which makes them no better than the garbage guy. If you think this is the end Doctor, its not. Ladies and gentlemen, watch what you post....your doctor may be looking, delving into your personal life. Perhaps talking about it over cocktails and martinis at a business meeting or at lunch in a crowded restaraunt. All your private information, right out there in public. I hope you have enjoyed all the patients I have referred to you doctor, because I won't be recommending anymore, and I will make sure that I recruit a few followers. I already know of 2 people with pending suits against you because of your lack of care with their surgeries. Hope you enjoy yourself you cheapskate. I know either you or your little minions for staff is reading this, and probably pushing print right now...:wink2:

I wouldnt suggest it. I risked drinking carbonated beverages, and got myself back addicted to them...now Im having problems with my band.

okay So Im finally going to say what has happened...Dr. Spiegel's office staff got on here and found where I had given him a bad recommendation and printed it off. Made me drive allllll the way to Port Neches from Jasper (a long way) when gas prices were nearly 4 dollars a gallon and pay $100 in cash for a fill...then made my friend and I sit in the waiting room for forever and a day...then when I got back there he basically fired me as a patient...he refunded me my fill money, but not the gas money. I saw the date that the article was printed, way before that day, and therefore they should have called me to tell me that he no longer wanted to see me as a patient instead of making me drive that long of way. Anyways, Im soon to have a new doctor as soon as Dr. Spiegel's office actually decides to give this new doctor my information...I hope its soon, Im having really bad complications with my band...its my own fault, but still I need to see this new doctor and make sure that everything is okay. Dr. Spiegel had the audacity to call me unprofessional...newsflash, I can be as lewd and crude as I want, because Im not a professional anything but student....what he did was unprofessional and immature and I DO NOT recommend him to anyone!! Not for just this reason, but for others as well...

Ok guys, I just dont understand, I am doing exactly what the doctor asks me, Im going to crack down harder tomorrow, but as far as I can tell I would swear that I was doing it right????:think Ive been crying for about a week in realization that Im not losing weight and I havent lost a pound since October, and now my bandiversary is coming up and I have only lost like 30 lbs, which is a lot I know, but its not enough ya know???? And my sister is just a downer about everything because she admires ppl who drop weight fast, and I know she doesnt know any better (shes not the brightest in the world, but she makes it alright) and my mom thinks I am making it up when I cant eat certain foods and have to go throw my food up if it gets stuck because she cooked something that I cant eat. I have first bite syndrome so I drink something warm b4 meals to open up the band, which works well as long as I drink it well enough in advance and dont eat stuff Im not supposed to. I really hate that I am having to have one of these entries, but I really need some support. I may start keeping an online eating journal so that I will have to post and will have to do right so I can post and not be embarassed. I had my blood tested and everything came back normal as usual. I just really need to LOSE WEIGHT, Im 18 it should be falling off. I dont eat white bread, rice, oatmeal, or anyhting that is on my list (I understand that some of your lists allow different things, but for my surgeons purposes I try to avoid what he says to so that if its not working in a few months I will have something to show him that he cant disprove). Im not eating snacks (Im only supposed to have 3 meals a day, and 3 meals only.) Im working on the water situation now Im up to about 3 glass which is about half of what I should be drinking, but its an improvement from none. I have 3 of the longest weeks in my life left with my parents before I move and I dont want to fight with them anymore. Mom swears Im lying and making up problems, and Im not, I wont even tell her anything is wrong with me anymore. She thinks that because I have the surgery then I dont get hungry allllll day, but I get hungry when its time to eat (breakfast, lunch, and supper) And Im finally eating the right portions, but its been a month of this and I still havent lost a pound!!!!!!! Nor a size, or anyhting, in fact I feel bigger than I ever did before. I guess Im more aware of it. Im afraid if this isnt fixed then Im going to dive into depression again and I dont want that, Mom threw away my anti-depressants she said that she didnt think I needed them anymore, or ever, that they are a bunch of crap and have no affect. When I know I need them to function, tonot her the negativity in my head.. Ill tell yall right now August 17 will NEVER come soon enough!! Ill miss em' but I wont miss the nagging and (pardon me) bitchin that I have to take from my mother, she needs antidepressants and I need them also, and until then we will never get along. P.S. my skinny friend that has never worried about her weight EVER gained 10lbs (taking her from 107 to 117) during the pregnancy that she is trying to lose and all she does is call herself a fatass now, and she never did that before so now I cant hardly stand to be around it....I mean I weigh twice as much as she did while she was pregnant!!!!! Id give anything to be that healthy. Im supposed to weigh about 115 after I lose ALLLLLL of my weight, and at 210 (on a good day) I dont see that happening, and life's just not worth living when you spend and whole year's worth of tuition on a surgery and its not working for you. I want to be healthy, I dont care about how I look anymore, I just want to be healthy. Im tired of spending weekends alone because I dont get asked out on dates by anyone that someone in their sane mind would go with (and that is seldom). Even people with mental and physical handicaps have made fun of me when I would NEVER have said one negative thing about them! Im just on a pity party tonight, its been a bad day with my sister claiming herself to be fat when she could go on trimspa for a damn month and lose every pound and look like a super model. I dont even like junk food. I like tofu and seafood (just not catfish) and grilled beef and venison and stuff and Mom doesnt like it so she doesnt cook it to help me out and fries EVERYTHING and claims shes on a diet! And she has no idea what healthy is.......... I dont know, kudos to anyone who reads this all the way through I appreciate your support in just reading it.........:faint: :faint: :faint: :faint: :faint: :faint: :faint: :faint:

Lol its so quiet because so many of us internet-addicted pregnant women became mommies! lol and we dont have time :confused_smile:)

Okay, I know this is my 3rd post in a row....AND I SWEAR that I will get a smaller picture to put in my signature tomorrow....BUT Irony has struck my life again, When I was pregnant, the baby's father's new girlfriend would say mean things about me getting pregnant and being stupid and being a fat "but" <not an exact quote..... && I just found out that shes PREGNANT!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

oh and thanks for the compliments :party:

hahahahahha suzanne! Thats hilarious...and I will admit to it...I TOTALLY had a blonde moment and had to read that over and over to figure out "do what?" lol!!! Atleast Ill admit my ditziness :party:

I agree with alv2008. Strangers always get me down, I feel as though my friends and family are obligated and caring enough to love me no matter what size I am...but I feel like those 2 strangers judging me are seeing me how the whole world sees me. Its like my family and friends see through rose-colored glasses, and the rest of the world has 20/20 lol! Im better about it though now, than I was when I started this thread. Sure, Ive become meaner...but only to the people who are mean to me first. I know thats immature, but it makes me feel better lol!! Oh, BTW....dont you love your rail-thin friends who complain CONSTANTLY about not being able to gain weight OR even better, those who continue to tell YOU of all people, how they are afraid of being fat...yeah...people should have common sense. I dont complain to my friends about being overweight, and I expect them not to complain about them being too skinny and stuff like that...and most dont...just those few dummies out there. Like Im really going to be sympathetic to you. Its just hard for me to be, because thats all I ever wanted and they are complaining about it. My BFF doesnt wish she was any bigger than she is, she just wishes she had a bigger butt...those comments are fine to me...but it just bothers me when others say stupid things....its like they are trying to make you feel better somehow??? I dont know...thats my rant for now...

I am trying something. I will explain later and it will all make sense. I really didnt think anyone would post too much on it, I REALLY didnt...I thought I would get a lot of PMs, but not posts. I SWEAR it will ALL make sense later...I just needed to post that to see if my hypothesis is correct.

First amendment gives you the right to say or write whatever you want freely, as long as it doesnt cause harm or intend to cause harm to another person. But that isnt the point. I just wish people would think BEFORE they said things to other people, no matter what size you are, I just seem to have more issues with thinner people. Dont get me wrong, I dont hate them, I dont discriminate against them...anymore. My Best friend in the whole entire world is a freakin stick! Shes perfect, shes not TOO boney and has the most perfect figure....and she HATES it because her sister is overweight and constantly rags her, and I think that IS wrong.... However, my friend would NEVER make the comment...."You have such a pretty face". Whatever happened to the compliment of, "You are very pretty" or "You look beautiful today" so forth and so on.... I meant someone who is pretty thin would probably take offense to someone saying, "you're body is would be so perfect if you would just do a few sit-ups" or "Boy, if you'd tone up you would really look good". SO why is it a compliment for them to say "you would be so pretty if you lost some weight". SAME DEAL. My BFF and I will not eat at McDonalds here together because one time I ordered our food together and the person behind the counter was like, "uh, didnt you have weight loss surgery?" (Oh btw, this is what the order was: *Mine> Childs chicken nugget with a bottle of water/ *BFF's> 10 piece Chicken nugget, supersized with 5 BBQ sauces and a Dr. Pepper) They thought it was the other way around or that I was just gonna eat all of it I guess...and people look at me all crazy, especially when I was prego because they couldnt tell if I was prego or just fat. Anyways, point being: Think about what you say before you say it. I dont really get my feelings hurt that easily anymore at all. Ive really learned to disregard what people say as ignorance, pick out something ugly about them in my head, and go on. It will come back to them and Ill continue to live, so I just go along with my business.

I would loving nothing MORE than to tell what happened... I AM DYING to tell! However, its just best that I dont...yet at the advice of my lawyer. I will be able to tell soon though.

haha its not baiting...at all...im not discussing what happened...yet with anyone on here except the moderators. this post is form the doctor and his office, lets call it an experiment. I tried taking the issue up with him personally, he refused to speak about it and ushered me out. so, i put it on here. lets just say i will probably be deleting my account on here in about a month.

OMG, you poor ladies at VS....its so funny...I started this thread a long time ago...after it had no activity for a LOOOOOOOOONG time, I just deleted it from my subscriptions, so Im still catching up.... VS has NEVER been rude to me....Hell, they gave me a credit card when I was 18, and I get coupons and all kinds of discounts offered to me....I had no idea that they didnt sell bras that didnt fit a lot of people, but that has a lot to do with my small bust...I only wear their underwear too, so Im really surprised at all this....WOW, Im actually reconsidering shopping there now!

I titled this thread like almost 3 years ago, I THINK lol! It was a long time ago....and I like the title....and I mean it when I say that. I was specifically referring to the fact that I hate it when skinny people think that they are better because the are blessed, and it was on my mind at the time. No one should take offense. It doesnt mean that ALL skinny people make those comments. I was referring to the ones that do. If it makes you happy I WILL go start a thread that says "things fat people say that piss you off." I dont care. Live with it. Im having a bad day, sorry...just annoyed that people take things SO out of context and make them more than what they are. First amendment, get over it.... Im sorry to whoever brought this thread back from the dead that some people have to take things out of context. Feel free to write what you want about what people have said about your weight here.

thanks for the congrats ladies! I hope everything goes well for everyone. lisalu: The at-home dopplers are really hard to work. My doctor advises her patients not to go near one lol! Because they will call her all the time thinking that the baby doesnt have a heartbeat and in reality the doppler is just malfunctioning. I understand though, you want your husband to hear the heartbeat too right?? Next time you go to the doctor's office, ask them to make you a tape recording of the baby's heartbeat, most doctors will do that for their patients. My friend even has a video of her ultrasounds! See if someone can help you use the doppler that has used one before...Im glad that my story calmed your nerves some. Its normal to be nervous, however those nerves go away and instinct kicks in and then your fine...I promise. If I can do it, anyone can LOL! Candice- Congrats on your boy growing, I didnt realize it had already been 3 months!! WOW! All the best ladies!

So, finally, here’s my story: So I was induced on the 22nd because they thought that the baby wasn’t getting enough food from my placenta. I took my Tylenol PM the night before, but OFCOURSE I barely slept a wink. I had to get up at 3am to get ready to go to the hospital an hour or so away, and had to be there at 5:30 am. I got there and everything was going great, I filled out all the scary paperwork and got into my gown and laid in the delivery bed. I guess my old anxiety issues are still around, I just have learned to manage them, because as soon as she put my IV in I started having a hot flash from the pits of Hell itself, and I finally said something to the nurse when the room starting going black. All I said (very weakly) was, “Can I please sit up some, I feel dizzy.” She asked me something else, but I guess when she saw my eyes she freaked and snatched a nasal oxygen device down, inserted it and got me back to normal. They left me on that for a while, then they changed shifts and I got my new nurse named Sheba. They started my Oxytocin at 6:45AM and I instantly started having small contractions. I made it to 2cm without any problems, just felt like cramping. When I was almost 4cm they gave me some Staydol to help me rest at noon. I slept for an hour (felt great! It was like I had been asleep forever!) When I woke up though (a contraction woke me up) I was worse than before, when she checked me I was a full 4cm. They came with the epidural finally!!! At about 1:10ish, and ofcourse the last thing I want to see is a man, and that’s who did the epidural! I was a little rude, but apologized later. I was of all things pretty nice all day considering the circumstances, I only snapped at my mom like once or twice, and just made smart jokes throughout the day, nothing to be offensive, it was actually pretty funny!! After my epidural everything was peachy! (*Insert advice* GET THE EPIDURAL!!! The creator deserves a Nobel peace prize!) I didn’t feel ANYTHING at all! Throughout the day my entourage in the waiting room (grandparents, dad, aunt, friends, so forth and so on) kept checking on me and stayed with me. My aunt and mom stayed in the room with me most of the time, my aunt especially. She never left my side for more than 5 mins. Well I stayed at 4cm for hours, and my blood pressure kept dropping lower and lower, they would get it back up and it would drop again! They even put me on my hands and knees for an hour trying to get the baby to move down, and all it did was drop my BP. The nurse had called the doctor, who was just getting off work at her office and had to take her son somewhere, and she said she would be there at about 7, which was dandy because I wasn’t feelin anything lol! I told everyone that had been waiting ALLL day to go ahead and go get something to eat, that the doctor would come at 7 (it was about 5:50pm) and that I would probably have to get a C-section because I wasn’t progressing AT ALL! I had been stuck at a 4 for about 5 hours! So they all left. At 6pm I told the nurse that if she didn’t take out my catheter that I was going to take it out myself, it was bothering me SO much…I knew something weird was going on. The only people that had stayed at the hospital were my mom and my Godson’s mother (whom Ive barely spoken to over the past 2 years due to busy schedules). I was talking to them, mainly the GS’s mom when I felt a twinge of cramp. I just calmly looked at my mom and said, “I think my epidural is wearing off, you better go tell them I need some more before they go off shift.” Well, my GS’s mom’s eyes got HUGE and she said, “Jodie your epidural hasn’t really worn off, that contraction was BIG!” By the time the nurse got back in the room she checked me and I was at 6cm at 6pm! She went to call the doctor, and my GS’s mom was delegated to calling the family at the restaurant to get them to come back…when the nurse got back, I had tears in my eyes and I could feel the pressure. It wasn’t necessarily pain at all, it was just pressure. Then she checked me and I was at 8CM, and it was maybe 6:08 lol! From there it was like everything was moving in slow motion. They finally got everything set up and I got to starting pushing at about 6:20, when I went all the way to a 10! My GS’s mom got stuck in the room, literally…she was going to be in there no matter what because she was in the bathroom calling people (only place we got any cell service) and updating them because everything was moving so fast! They didn’t have time to call the doctor again, and so 3 nurses and mom and GS’s mom delivered my baby! Lol! At that point I didn’t care who delivered her, I needed to get her out. I will tell yall that it didn’t hurt once I started pushing, all I could do was concentrate on pushing. It was just this tremendous instinct to push!! I couldn’t help it! The baby was born at 6:42pm…right after they cut her umbilical cord, the doctor finally rushed in with the biggest smile on her face….UNTIL she saw the baby lying on the table already born and her face fell and she REALLY looked disappointed and said, “I missed it.” I felt so bad for her, she was sooooo excited…but she couldn’t speed and stuff with her son in the car…I understand completely. Sheba and the other ladies did a TERRIFIC job! I just cant believe that I gave birth! It feels so weird not being pregnant…Ive lost 20lbs, but I still want to play with my belly even though it isn’t there!! I miss that little thing squirming inside me…I feel empty….but Im also so relieved…shes healthy and happy…she weighed 5lbs 14oz and is up to 6lbs 1oz today :party: I love her more than Ive ever loved anyone or anything ever before!!!!! She is the greatest accomplishment of my entire life!!! So that’s my story, I wanted to post it so maybe I could entertain someone for a couple of minutes…Well I have to feed my new baby girl…love you ladies and good luck!!! P.S. my lapband has started working since she came out, and Im getting a fill on the 12th!! Im ready to get to losin again!

I had the BABY!!! Fallon Jo is HERE!! She was born Tuesday April 22! :thumbs_down: She ended up being a healthy 5lbs 14oz, 18in! Im trying to put a pic on this posting, Im going to see if it works. If it does, this a pic about 15mins after I delivered her. When I feel better Ill tell my story, its pretty good, lets just say I cant do anything normal :cursing: lol! BTW, she was born at 6:42pm, almost exactly 12hours in labor from first contraction to delivery (my oxytocin was started at 6:45am)

The baby's name is Fallon Jo :rolleyes2: I cant wait! After tomorrow my life is going to be soooooooo different....for the best :scared2:

I know, its so weird to have an actual countdown for it!! But it also allows for me to mentally prepare myself. Which I really need, plus the hospital Im delivering at is like an hour away, so its probably safer to induce anyways. P.S. forgot to tell yall, I just found out that Im anemic...weird that it JUST showed up

IM GETTING INDUCED TUESDAY!! The baby is healthy and fine, but the doctor decided we could go ahead and deliver

I was a heavy drinker when I was at the University. I had some fun times...and some not so fun times with the band and drinking. I never threw up from drinking, but I found that trying to drink a lot would fill me up. I remember chugging a beer with my sisters and feeling like I had just eaten a 5 course meal and was miserable most of the night. I eventually went strictly martini and other strong sippy drinks that didnt have much of anything but liquor in them. BTW, drinking a gallon of Mailibu in less than 2 hours is NOT recommended! I will NEVER drink Malibu again lol!