oh Zannie i feel for you honey! my husband of 18 years cheated way before my lapband. and i did divorce him and he mover that w@#%* in to my house afew weeks later. But what goes around comes around. I own my busniess and hubby works for me at our job we are gone for days at a time. And after 7 or 8 months of him saying he wanted me back and her calling me time and time again to say was i ok with them being together and that they loved each other so much...I (hehe) started sleeping with him(i did still love him) and call her and told her to move out of my house cuz baby girl momma coming home...lol, moved that whor# out and married him back after 8 months of divorce and now we are soooooo happy...you should seen the look on her face! but now that i have had my band he loves me just the same. just wish he told me more how i look...good luck your day will come 2.....:whoo: