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Let's see.... That little girl will most likely... -get some sort of eating disorder -be suicidal -if she's lucky, spend thousands of dollars of her own money for therapy that might help -have no boundaries -pick a career that is the path of least resistance -let people do pretty much what they want sexually because she doesn't know that she can say no -be on anxiety medication at some point in her life -visit her parents house 30 miles away once every couple of years -be surprised at her anger and sadness even 30 or 40 years later -be damn grateful if she ever pulls he life out of the garbage and makes something good of it That woman is just like my mother.

:clap2: He's right-absolutely. There are certain circles in which I am truly embarrassed to say I am a Christian. Not because of shame about Jesus but because of how certain people (those who scream at the top of their lungs what great Christians they are) tend to act. My church really caters to people who left the church or who were hurt by Christians or other churches and I'll tell you, it is huge and growing. Most of us wouldn't even go to church if we hadn't found a place like this where we feel accepted, not judged. I hope this article gets around more. Thanks for posting.

I could have written this. People are so very different now that I'm not much overweight. Men, but especially women, are much nicer. It's like I'm one of them now. Huh? I definitely feel angry about this, too. I hope I don't do this to people. I tend to try to befriend those who need it most. My husband married me at my biggest weight and his treatment of me hasn't really changed either. If it had, we would have some serious issues to deal with.

Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!1 Love it.

7 pounds since October but I also haven't been able to exercise.

No food can fix a problem such as being lonely, anxious, etc. There's not enough food in the world to fill up that kind of emptiness.

Wish I had bought stock in Inamed/Allergan (?) way back when. I enjoyed the story and will be emailing the Today show about the veracity of the story.

I have been through several metal detectors several times at both courthouses and airports. Nothing.

I take several pills everyday and have had no problem whatsoever.

I just buy by my hunger. When I full I (usually) stop eating. I think at the beginning it's great to measure and we do need to reprogram ourselves about portion size by perhaps measuring. But there comes a point where we have to trust our bodies and our bands.

I have this book and it is GREAT!!! I totally recommend it. He writes a column in Runner's World. http://www.runnersworld.com/topic/0,7122,s6-243-332-0-0,00.html

I had to walk around a college campus at a week long conference and it just about killed me! This was the final straw. I called my husband crying on the second day and that was it for me. No regrets.

I'm feeling generous today so I'll give her the benefit of the doubt and say that she probably thinks she is comforting you with these foods. Just consider this practice for turning down treats. If she is someone you can really talk to, sit down and have a serious talk. I don't know...tell her you are already feeling down and you need to eat healthy to feel better or that your doc says you need healthy food to heal the elbow. Tell her it's too stressful for you to be around all these sweets. These are all probably true anyway. I hope there is actually some decent food in the house in addition to the treats. Good luck with the elbow. Hope that heals fast. The time will pass and you will get better.

Four and a half years and very happy with my band. Had a healthy pregnancy and wonderful healthy baby during that time. Still losing weight. There are lots of success stories but the farther people get from surgery the less they tend to hang around the boards due to living their lives and doing all kinds of new and exciting things.

46DD to a 38C. I always had a big chest, even when I wasn't overweight. This is a great size for me. No backaches and running isn't too hard with this size.

In a couple of years it won't matter how fast we lost it, just if we kept it off or not. The band has a way of teaching us patience.

This is such an excellent program. I recently did my first 5k with a similar training program. It is exhilarating! http://www.coolrunning.com/engine/2/2_3/181.shtml

Congrats on your loss so far! Excellent move, getting rid of the cake. We have to do that too. Forgive yourself and move on. Honestly, it took me like at least a year to consistently (fairly consistently) not be so easily seduced by food. Heck, I'm a very slow learner (and stubborn and tend to doubt that the laws of physics apply to me) so maybe you'll change your head faster. You're still a young bandster. As long as you are making good choices most of the time, you will lose weight. Think about it that way. And, I agree that you may need a fill.

Yep. When I was too tight.

Beautiful, beautiful! That is awesome!

What about those of us who are/were happliy married/in a relationship as obese people? My husband married me at over 300 and I know he loved me then as much as he does now. Your body size, saggy skin, whatever cannot be used as an excuse to keep love away.

Every day you wake up you have another chance to get it right. I've had my band a while and certainly did my share of don'ts with the band. All it takes is an act of will to start following the band rules. Think about what you need to do that you aren't and make a plan. I'm a jump-into-it kind of person but if you want gradual change, plan to do one additional thing right every week. Like no drinking with food this week, no grazing next week, whatever. The beauty of the band is it's quite forgiving (or I wouldn't still be losing after 4 years). You can stop and start (by your own free will or because of issues) and still be productive with the band. Keep seeing your therapist. Mine has been a life saver. Start journalling about: Why you feel the need to break these rules, why you might be sabotaging yourself. What are you afraid of? How did your bulimia serve you? Why you are ready to let your bulimia go now. What feelings to do you have about being fat and thin that might surprise you? I can tell you do value yourself enough to give the band a chance. That's more than half the battle. Good luck. Remember the mistakes you made with the band were yesterday. Today is your chance to do it right. Keep in touch and message me if you want. I know the ups and downs with the band more than almost anyone. I'm not bulimic but I sure do have food issues.

Seriously I think 1/2 teaspoon is doable. Any smaller pieces and people around you start thinking "Obsessive Compulsive Disorder." For those of us in the closet.

She would be absolutely shocked that I got my shit together. And shocked at how happy I am. And that I have a family. Amazed that I am in a healthy relationship and know how to have healthy relationships. And that I'm not suicidal anymore.