VSGAnn2014

Good grief! Those are some nasty bitches you treated to a lovely party. Pure dee out jealousy is at the core of that evil coven. You're absolutely right -- ultimately, these changes we work so hard for are for ourselves, not for others. You're fortunate that your husband is 100% supportive. That's a priceless advantage.

You're doing so well.

Love my Fitbit Flex! Have been using it since two months BEFORE surgery. Very motivating. Keeps your eye on the ball.

@@My Bariatric Life ... check out this thread on another forum. Very interesting. (I've fallen down the Google well re WLS divorce myself tonight. http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/topic/16630-wls-and-divorce/

@@My Bariatric Life ... I'm surprised you haven't seen more written about this. "WLS Increases Divorce!" seems to me to be an obligatory paragraph in every HuffPost-style clickbait online article or blog about WLS. If you google WLS divorce you'll be reading all night!

For 15 years, after a disastrous 12-year marriage, I was rather successfully single and committed to remaining single. From time to time, I had boyfriends who were worthy, interesting people, but none of them was even remotely husband material, at least in terms of the qualities I thought a good husband (for me) should possess. Shortly after I turned 50 years old, it occurred to me one night that, as much as I enjoyed being single and as happy as I was at being alone, that under any likely scenario at the end of my life I would probably wind up alone again ... so why shouldn't I at least entertain the idea of not being alone during all those years between 50 and ... the end of my life? It was one of those struck dumb moments. I still remember all the sensations I was having, the angle of the light, the time on the clock, and other details of that moment. A few weeks later, I met online the man I married later that year. He was perfect for me, and I for him, and the timing was perfect. The fates, guardian angels, or intersecting parallel universes might have been responsible for everything. Or perhaps my opening up to the possibility of having a partner and being a partner had something to do with it. I will never know. But I know I will never forget or diminish the power of that moment.

WLS patients die 7-10 years earlier? There must be WLS threads on online conspiracy forums where trolls just make this sh*t up. Good grief.

Some people are sleeping through their relationships. Others are awake and aware of the ride. Still others are actively navigating, with their partners, where the relationship is going. WLS tends to wake people up. So if you're asleep in your marriage, you may open your eyes and for the first time in a long time, as the old song lyric goes, see what condition your condition is in. You may also choose to do something about it. However, it also seems apparent that some sloppy "journalism" about WLS pushes the clickbait concept that the majority of WLS patients rush right out post-op and end their marriage or relationship. From reading online boards, I know that is NOT the case. I also know some patients on this and other boards who've ended their marriages--or whose spouses took the initiative to do so. And I know others who aren't WLS patients who are getting divorced. C'est la vie. For those of you going through a separation or divorce, I wish for you all only the very best.

Yeah, I wouldn't care for all that either. But I'd urge you to keep dating. Don't let two duds stop you from finding someone whose company you would really enjoy and vice versa. Bottom line: Dating is hard work.

^^^^ Some people are idiots.

It's possible you need a stronger acid reducer Rx. I was on Ranitidine pre-op and continued on that for 10 days. I did notice my acid reflux was a little stronger toward the end of that time. Then my doc prescribed Protonix. END of any tummy acid problems.

Some impressive stuff reported here. Very cool, guys! I was sleeved August 18 and am 69 years old. I've lost a total of 58 pounds and 39 pounds since surgery. I've lost from 235 to 177 pounds. I'm blowing fast through all my closet right now and wearing 12s and 14s. In about ten pounds I'll have NOTHING to wear, so will buy cheap and second-hand until I get to goal at 150 pounds. Just didn't expect this to all go so fast!

B-52 is so right: We fatties (past or present) really are dissed behind our backs. A lot! A few months ago, my skinny friends went off on a woman who's 100 pounds overweight. And I just lost it! Completely lost it! My friends were shocked and bewildered. They simply could not understand why I was so upset. They "never thought of me that way." So, yes, B-52, what they say about "us" (whether we're still fat or not) is like listening to any self-selected privileged class congratulate themselves on not being a member of the lower classes. Eye-opening!

Telling people you had gallbladder surgery sounds great to me. It would explain perfectly how you can't lift much for ... as long as you decide to tell 'em you can't lift much.

If you haven't told them yet that you don't want to talk about it, then they'll probably keep picking away, thinking you'll continue to tolerate their comments. You should lay the new law down -- either "respectfully" or by having a hissy fit. You have to tell them (however you do it) to just STFU!

Well, you had a low BMI, so you'll naturally lose slower than others. There's no way in the world you would lose as fast as someone who weighed 100 pounds more than you. On the other hand, you've lost an average of 2.7 pounds/week since surgery, so that's nothing to sneeze at. Also remember that the eventual benefit to all of us from WLS is not just the ability to lose weight (most of us could do that pre-op, right?), but the dramatically increased likelihood we have of maintaining our weight loss. Don't worry. Be happy.

I can't even read this thread. It's nauseating to imagine. Yuck! What was WRONG with us?!?

I believe it takes longer than 6 weeks for our new stomachs to heal completely. That's the main reason we have more capacity 6 to 12 months out. By then, our tummy tissue has grown over the staple line and ALL the swelling has gone down. Here's a good thread on this subject, complete with pictures taken at 8 months post-op of one patient's staple line and skin regrowth. http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/199938-how-does-the-stomach-heal-together-from-vsg-surgery-can-anyone-tell-me/

You don't even look like the same person! Just phenomenal differences!

Social scientists. So semi-gifted.

Fascinating thread and challenges for you both. I'm going to follow this thread ... and think about your question. Hmmm....

You're exhausting yourself. These small weight fluctuations are completely normal. Jeez, I wonder when I read threads like this if this is the first time some posters have ever weighed themselves daily. EVERYBODY'S weight fluctuates like this. At least once a week my weight goes up a fraction of a pound or even a pound. Once my weight went up four pounds in one day. And the next day I lost six pounds. Now, that was bizarre. But it happens.

Just get up and do it tomorrow. And then do it the next day. And soon it won't hurt. That's how it works for me.

Damn! You people really cook. Very impressive.

I wish I'd known post-op was going to be as easy as it has been. I used pain meds twice after leaving the hospital. I've never thrown up. Not once. At mealtimes, I eat, and then I'm full / done / not hungry any more. At this point, I've been sleeved for almost 16 weeks. Since then I've been losing weight steadily -- have lost weight every single week. No stalls. And it's not really slowing down overall. Of course, some weeks I lose more than others. But those weeks sort of alternate. I've already lost 67% of my excess body weight. That just blows my mind! So far, this is much easier than I'd feared. Loving it.