w8loser

Hi, all! I've been contemplating who all should I tell that I'm having this surgery. So far, I've told my husband, my kids, my mom, 2 of 3 siblings, & 1 close friend. My husband is a bit apprehensive but supportive. My mom is totally supportive. As a matter of fact, she wants the surgery too but her (self employed) insurance doesn't cover it. The siblings I told because I figured they'd be positive are trying to talk me out of it. The sister that I didn't tell because of her negative attitude in the past may have been the one I should've told. My friend had the gastric bypass about 8 years ago so that's why I told her. Although, she is not very supportive of the sleeve. My dad has always called me fat & asked when am I going to lose weight? I just want to let the end result speak for itself rather than tell him. Don't get me wrong, I love my father but he has such prejudiced opinions about plus sized women (he's overweight). Most other family members, especially my mom's side, are overly critical, judgy, & jealous hearted (haters, if you will). So, no support there. I'm wondering if I actually told more people, will I be pleasantly surprised at their reaction? Will they actually provide me with the support that I need? Who did you tell & why? Did any of their reactions surprise you?

Anytime. Thanks! I know that I am blessed.

I agree.

I am, Nurse_B thanks! kmiller13137 Thanks I'm glad you think it helps! I do believe that you've hit the nail on the head. Many of us who have been overweight most or all of our lives deal with self esteem issues & the desire to be accepted by others. Some would think that having a life changing surgery such as wls, that we would want to shout it from the rooftop. But, I think that my fear of failing, not reaching goal, or no one noticing my weight loss has prevented me from being able to share this with more people that I believe do care about me. I don't want them to see me fall flat on my face. kmiller13137, in actuality it's about us & our health not them.

The same thing happened to me last year. I had everything set to begin the process. I'd already gone to seminar & started my supervised diet & weigh ins, even lost a few pounds. Then, ta da! Pregnant. Unfortunately, we lost that pregnancy 2 1/2 months in because it was an ectopic. I had to have surgery. So, after my 6 weeks recovery my doctor told me that since my paperwork was dated past 90 days with gaps; I would have to start over. I was devastated. I didn't get to have my baby or the wls. Looking back, I think it was best. I needed that time to recover mentally & emotionally and my health wasn't stable enough to carry a baby to full term. Please, know that this was just my case & everyone's doctors, insurance, bodies, and health are different. I know that you will have a healthy pregnancy and a bouncing bundle of joy soon. Congratulations!!! *All things in God's timing.*

True. Thanks!

OMG! joatsaint, this is the very first video that I watched when I decided for sure to have the surgery. I typed in "should I tell anyone about my wls" & it popped up. Great advice.

Wow! You guys have some excellent advice. Sounds like most of you aren't shy at all about the whole thing. I admire that a lot. I definitely needed to hear this from you all. Because we went to a family pre-Christmas get together tonight. Needless to say, my great aunt (Grams sister) went in on me about the how much food my husband& I both had on our plates. It was appetizers only & I swear it wasn't much. I've been on a diet since my last supervised doctor's visit. But, we could've had only a freaking olive on our plates & it would've been scrutinized because we're the only fat couple in my family. I wish I could've taken some of this advice & said what was really on my mind but she's like 130 years old so I couldn't go there with her. Thanks for the words of encouragement! Good luck to everyone who's about to be on the loser's bench!

From what I was told when I worked at a local grocery store, "Sell by" & "best by" are actually okay to use a little past that date. However, if it says "expires on" or "use by" then you may want to go ahead & throw whatever it is away. As far as freezing them, I'm not too sure about. Seems like they may become watered down upon defrosting & they may lose some of their nutritional value. Again, I'm not quite sure about that.

I began my 3 month supervised diet in October. Have appt with Cardiologist this morning but no psych appt until January 23. Earliest they could get me in. Hope to have surgery by the end of February. Fingers crossed. Good luck to everyone!