Hi Maddog,
Maybe you should work with your dietician. I did that to keep myself in check and it's help tremendously. It holds you accountable. I also make sure I write everything down and figure out my calorie, fat and Protein intake each meal. You are right when you say you didnt' go through all of this just to fail. It's hard and no one said it would be easy but you made the decision to have the band now make the decision to eat healthy. This is a life changing surgery if you allow it to be. Start fresh, today is a new day. Forget about what you ate yesterday and start eating healthy again. Eat what they recommend and you will see the pounds fall off. Good luck.