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Very interesting subject. .haven't told anyone besides my parents, hubby, 2 sisters. Parents and sisters don't agree with my decision. Husband say he's behind me 100% supportive. .friends and coworkers. .HECK no I didn't tell them. Don't know what I will say when I return to work 4wks after surgery. I think people hate when others make changes. My family are used to me being heavy..my 2 sisters are dieting and exercising. .to lose weight and they are. 143 &171lbs. And they feel fat and they feel they need to lose weight. .how the HECK they think I feel. .I'm 243lbs. .and they think I'm not big enough for wls..I going to feel strange when I get smaller. .so I can't even imagine how people will see me smaller in the next few months. Wish I could just move away and start a new life somewhere else that no one knows me..lol

I really like what you said about in a few weeks. .she won't care what others think about her having wls..I soooo look forward to that feeling. I'm also a very private person. .I only told my parents, sisters. No one else knows. .and I plan on keeping it that way.my surgery is 4/15..I plan on taking 4wks off..don't know how my coworkers will respond or how I'm going to respond when I return..especially dropping some weight. .don't know why wls is so taboo. .since not telling people about it.i feel like I'm keeping a big secret and living a lie..why don't people mind their damn business. .This experience really is teaching me to not be judgemental of others. .unless their really crazy. ..lol

Soooo many people are against thus body..no one agree about my decision. .only I guess my husband. .He said he supports me 100%..I get the same thing to from my family. .that I'm not big 243lbs. .my 2 sisters are way smaller then me 143 & 171lbs..I guess it will be hard them to see me smaller. .my friends heck no not telling them til maybe after. .coworkers HELL no not telling them. .just told my manager I'm having surgery. She didn't asked HIPPA violation..and I was not volunteering my personal business. .she may go investigate my surgeon name and she want surgery I'm having ..I work a at a hospital. .don't know what I will tell coworkers when I return after surgery. .taking 4wks off..and what I will tell friends when they see me getting smaller..it's such a hard decision to make to have wls..and friends and family are making the whole ordeal even har5..smdh

Went to my pre op class today ..it took forever and a day..lol..met with nutritionist in a group setting. .she wen over all the food we can have first week and after surgery. .that took over an hour..then the office manager that went over everything a nut went over..sign consent forms and over the complications. .which was soooo much..wanted to run out that room..lol..that took over 1 hour. .then we had to meet with surgeon. .One by for for our prescription and asked any questions we may have..waited almost 1 1/2 HR for him..then we had to go to hospital to pre register. .met with PA..that explained..how we would be put under during sugery..and blood work..whole process was from 8am-2:30..

I'm scheduled for 4/16..nervous, happy, scared. .on a roller coaster emotionally speaking. Keep thinking maybe I should give diet and exercise one more try..but I'm sick and tired of that. .anyone can lose weight but keeping it off is a different struggle. I've seen many people lose weight around me..then less than 1 yr later, unfortunately regained weight. And with thyroid it's really hard for me lose. Not have friends and family that agree with wls. It makes it even harder, cause they feel it's not necessary to have wls..just work out and diet. .I have a friend on HCG drops diet. Eating 500-800 calories a day..yes she lost weight. .but she's hungry and dizzy sometime. .and she cut out almost everything. .how long can someone live without all the necessary foods our body needs to function. .she has a fair of food now. .and she said she refused to gain the weight back..which I understand and I commended her of her strict diet. I just can't live fairing food and feeling dizzy.

Just curious on many pounds did you guys lose in the 1st week of surgery. .

Exactly how I feel. .like I'm living a lie..but I really don't want to tell any coworkers. .I'm a very private person..wonder if I was having a different surgery if I would of felt bad not telling people my business. .oh I wonder! !

It's best if I take a break. .since they will give my 2 sisters backlash..I told her I can just hang around during when we meet up as a group. But let everyone know I just want to hang around. .but I'm not doing and weight loss challenge cause my mind is not into it at the moment.

I can understand if some people don't like the idea of wls, but why people act like we're doing something so crazy to our self..and they think people who pursue it didn't give diet and exercise 100%.was speaking to my sister today she's against surgery. .and she said she don't feel like I gave diet and exercise 100%. I told her I tried everything diet under the sun. .and nothing worked. .but she said if I gave it a good try for 6 months- 1 year. Then I would of seen results. .told her I have been trying for years. Now I'm 243lbs. How is that big enough. .should I wait til I'm 300lbs?.I'm shocked I stood my ground even though family don't support or agree with what I decided to have wls..Both my sisters are dieting working out and losing weight. 171 & 143 lbs. .and they trying to lose weight. So how the heck they think I'm not big enough. .I know they are concerned with possible complications. .can't weight to 4/15..and 6 months down the line. .just pray God protect surgeon & I during the procedure. .I'm a nervous wreck!

Thanks for all the positive feedbacks. .I really thought they was going to be happy that I was going to hopefully lose the weight I have been struggling with. .and my sister made a comment that to stop using my thyroid disorder be an excuse for not losing weight. .that I have thyroid and thyroid don't have me..and I should work out harder than, someone that doesn't have hypothyroid. Also since I told her I don't want to tell any of our friends about my upcoming surgery. She doesn't agree with my decision and I should be honest with them. Since we are all dieting together and trying to lose weight. .me not telling them and all a sudden I start losing. .I will look dishonest cause I knew all along I was planning wls. Told her , I will tell them when I'm ready. .After surgery cause I can't deal with any extra negativity. .she thinks maybe I should leave our workout group cause they will give me backlash for not telling them my plans. .and she will look like a liar herself. .smh

Soooo well said..Thank you so much! ..that's exactly what I kept telling her..anyone can lose weight keeping it off is a whole new struggle. .she even said on of our family friend had surgery almost 2 yrs ago. .and she works out all the time. .and my sister said if someone have wls..why they have to still work out so hard? Told her because no one has wls and loses 100 lbs with any exercise. .she why would someone risk their life and she have to workout to lose weight. Told her that is why wls is not the easy way out..she feels if putting your body through that weight should just come off..I have no strength to keep arguing with rhem..my friends would be worst..didn't even tell them..judgmental queens !

In Lawrenceville Ga. .surgery date 4/15..nervous, scared. .can't wait to have the surgery done with.

Did it take you guys a long time to decide to have wls? Myself personally. .it took me a short period of time. .about 1 month. .to start the process. .and the 6 months insurance and nutrition requirement.

Please let me know where are you guys getting free protein samples from online? Thx

Oh I know how you are feeling. .my family was all for it in the beginning. .As a matter of fact they encouraged me to look into it. Cause they know my struggle with losing weight. Have thyroid disorder. Which makes it hard to lose weight. They told me to look into it cause a family friend had it done almost 2 yrs ago. And she looks good...now they flip the script the on me .Once they noticed I was all involved and got all my pre op testing done. ..now they telling, yes the family lost weight, but she looks unhealthy and 10 - 15 yrs older. .and that's what I will end up looking. .my sister even had the nerve to tell me her husband said..incentives I lose weight. My hubby may not love me or see me the same. The nerve! !..I'm 243lbs. .how much bigger must I be..cause now they are saying I'm not that big for surgery. .my mom even told me a coworker of hers had surgery. And she looks old, frail,and unhealthy plus unhappy. .and she looks so miserable her hubby left her..and need she told me to be prepared for anything after this surgery. .OMG. .can't believe those words came out of my mother's mouth. .my 2 sisters are below 175lbs. .One is 143 and 173. .they are dieting and wanting to lose weight. .cause they feel big..how the hell they think I feel. .they never ask me how the process is going. .was approved for surgery 4/15..can't even tell them, cause they're not interested. .it hurts soooo much to see how they turned on me..and it took all the joy out of it..didn't tell any friends. .they judgemental. ..I cry all the time cause it hurts. .my husband say he supports me 100%..so you are not alone!

I work in a hospital. .do little bit of patient lifting. My doc office said 4wks. I just applied for FMLA last week for 4wks. .I really wanted 6-8 wks, but didn't know if doc would allow that or sign off on it. I feel this new life style is challenging enough learning our new way of eating. .and it should automatically be a 6wk off. I especially work nights, 12 hrs shift. I applied for FMLA, I'd short term disability a separate thing?..do I have to call the company that process our FMLA and tell them I want STD also?

It's really an emotional process. Not sleeved yet..4/15..I'm a emotional wreck I cry daily worrying of i'm doing the right thing. .especially having 2 small kids. .keep thinking something will go wrong. And no family support. .All against it. .When in the beginning they encouraged me to look into it, since I have difficulty losing weight. .now they say I'm not big enough. .mind you my 2 sisters are dieting trying to lose weight. .they are 143 & 170lbs. .how the heck they could say I'm not big enough. .I know my parents and sisters are concerned for my safety. Surgery is a risk. .so is 243lbs ,5'4..why should I wait til I get any bigger. .really hurt how they did a 360 turn on me.my husband say he supports me 100%.

Scheduled for surgery 4/15..I've been eating like crazy. I also put on 12 lbs..I think it is food funeral. .but it's such an emotional journey. .worrying to death of i'm doing the right thing. Especially having 2 young kids. Plus no support from my family, but in the beginning. .they encouraged to look into it since I have difficulty losing weight despite everything I try. They also see the results of a family friend that had procedure and they see her results. .but once I was all into it, got all my pre testing done. They completely did a 360 turn on me. Saying I'm not that big (243 lbs 5'4)..I have 2 sisters one is 140 lbs & other is 170lbs..and they are both dieting to get smaller. .so I don't know how the heck they don't think I'm big..they like the results friend had with wls, but they think she looks unhealthy and look 15 yrs older. Plus she became upset with getting skinner. And they think I will end up looking unhealthy and look older myself. I know they are concerned with my safety wit surgery. .but a little support would help. .I feel soooo sad and hurt that I can't even talk about it with them. They never ask me about it..couldn't even call them to let them know I got approval. And I'm scheduled for 4/15.. I cry all the time now..I'm just an emotional wreck. .my hubby said he supports me 100%.

I was approved this week. .and schedule surgery for 4/15..is that adequate time to give job notice. .it's 3wks? Also how did you guys go about telling your manager. I applied for FMLA on Tue. Doctor said I will have to take 4 wks off. I work in a hospital do some patient pulling. I know FMLA will send information to my director. but I never see her..we have a department manger I see daily. .how should I tell her? Really hope she do not ask me, what type of surgery I'm having. Cause I'm a private person and I don't need coworkers knowing my personal affairs. .that's also why I opted to have surgery at a different hospital. Even if it will cause me extra. My department is judgemental. .I would think as nurses they would be more understanding about how unhealthy it is to be obese. .Plus I hear how they bad mouth bariatric patients that comes to our unit post op..smh

When I told my manager. .she didn't even ask any questions. .or even looked concern (was expecting that)..All she asked was if I started paperwork. .which I did the day before. .they have a different company that process FMLA for the hospital. .not our HR dept.

I work in a hospital, with some patients lifting. .Doctor office recommend 4wks..I really wish I could take 6wk..I want to learn my new way of eating before returning to work..especially working 12 hrs shift and nights..and I need a break from that place. .lol

April 15th. .

April 15th. .

Thx everyone :-)..count down has begun for me...hurry up 4/15..lol

Same thing happened to me when I went for upper GI. The X ray tech told me why are you having surgery. That j wasn't big..243lbs 5'4..why is wls such a taboo? .I can't even tell my friends about it cause they will think I'm crazy. .mind you, they all under 200lbs..The heavier one is 190lbs..The smallest one is 140..they are dieting and working out. .and They have the nerve to say, I'm not big enough for surgery :-(