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Yah I always thought it makes more sense to "eat my fist" than "1/2 a glass of something" hehe. Because you can even hold your fist up next to whatever you are eating if you need lol. Hang in there, the fight to restriction is a tough one but you can do it!

Hmm, good question - I moved about 6 weeks after my surgery and my doctor made me promise to take it easy with the packing and moving and all of that - and that was just lifting boxes. I would say see how your recovery goes (some people heal better than others, etc) and when you are at the two weeks that your help would be finished see how you feel but I would definitely consider extending the help a bit if possible. You are going to all the hard work of getting this band in and becoming healthier, you don't want to jeopardize anything if you can avoid it. good luck!! :smile2:

I have a hard time figuring out the size of something when you cant physically stick it in a measuring cup ... so this is what I did... I have dry food measuring cups (ie: not the glass pyrex ones) and got one that is the 1cup size. I made a fist with my hand and shoved it into the measuring cup to see how much of my fist fits in the cup - and now I know if I am eating something that doesn't measure well I just make the fist and try to decide that way by comparison. I would guess that a 6" is at LEAST 2 cups. It would be worth checking out Subways nutritional info as I know I was surprised to find out a 6" tuna sub (with cheese and mayo) was over 600 calories. You might as well eat a burger at that rate... Hope the fist analogy helps!

Aww fantastic!!! What a great moment that would have been :blushing: Congrats!

Aww very sweet story. Sounds like you have a fantastic family there Aubrie :blushing:

I haven't gotten to the point where I need to start getting rid of clothes yet as I am still wearing my clothes but I'm sure that will change in the next 10-20lbs I did however keep one pair of pants that was a bit big when I had surgery (From when I was heavier than I was at surgery date from like 5 years ago) and I took a sharpie and wrote FAT PANTS all over the butt in big BLACK BLOCK letters lol. Other than that, it's all going to be given away - I WILL NOT fail at this so I will not keep these clothes.

Hi Judy, I sent you an email to your email address you posted :w00t:

I have a protein shake for breakfast at least 3-4x a week usually. I am not a morning person and especially on work days it's either make a protein shake and bring it to work for breakfast or don't eat breakfast at all (WHICH IS BAD!!). So I'd rather have my 200'ish calorie breakfast (90cal for cup of skim milk +100'ish for protein powder) instead of nothing.

What I ate for dinner during my ENTIRE mushie phase (that's right, I didn't eat anything else lol, I found one thing I liked and stuck with it..) Refried Beans heated up in the microwave with some cheese melted on top and a bit of salsa. I'm not very exciting, can ya tell? hehe

Yee, that gives me the heeby-geebies. I have a weird belly button thing where touching my belly button weirds me out. It makes me want to either pee or puke lol.

Hmmm the most comfortable position that I have found at my heaviest was to kind of basically straddle over him and shimmy to the position that you are most comfortable and if sitting straight up isnt comfortable, once you are "on" lean down over him and rest yourself on your hands that makes it almost like the missionary position with girl on top (if that makes sense).

Gosh, I never thought about that and people having issues - how tall are you may I ask? I'm 5'7 and have never had issues being on top even at my presurgery weight of 325lbs. Maybe you just need to experiment a bit to find a position comfortable for you.

yay, that's great news :yesnod:

Yay! look at that progress, you are doing great!

What's a Carvel? I completely agree with this Phowell, and think that it is a healthy way to view it. I'm not going to deny myself because if I do I'm going to binge and eat WAY too much, so instead I allow myself the occasional treat and that's what it is - a treat not a "bad thing". Welcome!! I'm glad that you found this thread helpful, we are definitely not abnormalities nor in it alone. We all have similar struggles and can be each others best support network! Hang in there, we can do it! *hug* And PB stands for Productive Burp. :w00t: 30 lbs in the first 2 months, that sounds familiar.. hehe. We can all do this, we're going to have our slip ups and whatnot along the way but we just have to get back up and keep going! I had my 3rd fill this past Friday and I think it's actually going to be doing me some good!! And.... I lost 9lbs this past week woooo hooooo :w00t:

Oh gosh! That is quite the NSV! *big hug* Glad that it was nothing!!

Hey everyone, sorry I've been absent and unresponsive to this thread - I usually get to do most of my reading and posting at work (it's been slow lately) however for some reason for the past day and a bit Lapbandtalk website wouldn't load up (very frustrating) so now that it is working.... Here goes.. :cool: Very, Very well said. I especially like the part about "Food is not your friend and is not your crutch, it is only needed to sustain your body. Make it impersonal". I really had to stop and think when I read that as to how I treat food and I know I need to form a new relationship with it. I hear ya girl, I have been fighting the same 4 lbs for almost a month and it is driving me crazy! I hope my fill tomorrow gives me some much needed restriction. If you find out the answers to those questions pleeease let me know as I so desperately want to know as well. When will I start eating better and not eat corn chips (yah I ate a bunch today *sigh*). I KNOW I SHOULDNT EAT BAD FOODS BUT I STILL DO!! MAKE ME STOP! lol Well done on your progress to your changes so far, that's a definitely good start. I need to start laying out a plan I think as to when I'm going to allow myself to treats, when I'm going to exercise and have a written plan that I look at everyday as this winging it thing is CLEARLY not working for me. Ninja, you make MANY great points in this post. First of all, I agree 34 lbs in 3 months I don't think officially counts as being a "slow loser" and I am not going to label myself that yet. I do not feel it is fair to give a label at all let alone one based on imperfect restriction. And even though I do look at others stats for a "mild comparison" I remind myself that everyone's situation, metabolism, etc is different for all I know they lost 50% of the weight on their ticker in a preop diet. As for the past 3 months - I would say I have had not quite slim to none but close to restriction - while I get a bit of a full feeling and subsequently eat less the thing stopping me from eating any more is.. me - I have not had any feeling of PB or slime or anything of the sort. I am really hoping tomorrow's fill will bring me to that restriction level where I stop eating when full "or else" because sometimes I'm not so good at telling myself :crying: (ie: I ate two pieces of fish and chips for dinner and then had Dairy Queen for dessert last night). *sigh*

Thanks for the responses everyone. It gets so frustrating as I know you all know. Today was my weigh day so I jumped on the scale and I'm up 4 lbs. :glare::Dancing_biggrin: My appointment Friday morning is for just a "follow up" and possible fill if needed so I am going to definitely ask for a fill as I know I need to have way more restriction - going at this on my own and telling myself when I need to stop eating is obviously not working for me. I just want this to work so badly and I'm so afraid that it's not going to and it's going to be ALL MY FAULT!! Jlobyxmas - I try not to compare myself to other people tickers (ie: those that say they lost 50 lbs) because I don't know what their preop diet was and they could have lost 20 of those lbs before surgery and then they would be at the same place I am. It is hard not to compare though. Am I a "slow loser"? I don't know - I'm not sure if I have the proper restriction to be able to make that decision. Best of luck to all of us and hugs all around!

I actually like your thinking - I love the look of outdoor plants, etc but I HAAAATE gardening or plant care or anything of the sort - my mom is a total green thumb and I am a complete "meh" when it comes to plants I could care less - like the looks hate the care. I say give it a shot, worst case you end up giving it a go this summer and end up going back to real ones next year and you're no farther behind.

Heidi, As much as it is nice to know that I am not alone, I'm sorry to hear you are having the same struggle too. It is definitely hella-frustrating. There are 3 things I KNOW I need to do in order to make the best of this: 1) Make /eat better food choices - do I reaally need Starbucks, a cookie, whatever... 2) Drink more Water 3) Exercise Yet all 3 seem to be eluding me or rather I am eluding them and I want to stop but I just can't seem to grasp it. Good luck to you girl!!

Hang in there girl I think a good number of us have that happen, I know I did and still do occasionaly. I was a raging bitch, I would cry easily and get annoyed VERY easily - my poor fiance didn't know what to do with himself. And of course the fact that he is SUPER sensitive himself didn't help either because I would be crazy and it would make him feel bad or that it was his fault and then I would feel bad and yah.. crazy times. It's getting better for me and it will get better for you too! *big hug!*

Hmm, I don't think I have a size goal because I don't know what I look like besides being overweight/plus size. I have been wearing plus sizes since I was a teenager so I have no idea... therefore I set a weight goal - I have NO idea what size I will be at that goal (155lbs) or if that is even a good goal for me, it was just a number I picked that seemed like a good place to start and as I get closer to goal then I will have to reevaluate I think.

Hmm let's see I was in the 6th grade ... so 10 or 11 when it happened, by that point I had already been developing breasts and I was already on the heavier side (one of the biggest kids in the class thats for sure) however I was crazy active as a kid and even then I was on soccer teams, volleyball teams, played Rugby during lunch/recess. By grade 7 I was a D cup and over 5'4", by high school (our school was gr 8-12) I was probably a size 16+ and a DDD. Once I developed LARGER breasts my activity level went to almost none as running or anything of the sort was an EXTREME challenge with breasts that size (they just continued to get larger through high school years - when I had a reduction at 19 I was a G or H) so I found myself hating physical activity of any kind because it was so difficult. Do I think there could be a tie between puberty and obesity? Sure I do. My sister was a pretty average size through all her high school years and we were complete opposite - she was 5'3, smaller chested, and smaller in general - I was 5'4+ (5'7 now), VERY large chested, larger in general and I was the active kid of the two of us, I was the one on the sports team, in track and field, etc.

Yay fantastic NSV's everyone. Ninja - I had to giggle at the "You look more compact, somehow" comment - that is such a man thing to say ... compact. Very awesome and very funny!

Wow! Very interesting, thanks for posting that.