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I was sleeved Oct 24 and mine are all closed up. When did the doctor see it?

I totally understand your forum love, GG. For several years (back when God's forum was just a pup) I was involved with one at TWoP (Television without Pity.) It was the forum snarking on the Bachelor. There was a group of about 20 of us that just hit it off and eventually moved off the site and opened our own forum. And then FB kind of took off and the forum more or less disbanded…but I'm still at the minimum FB friends with pretty much everyone. (A couple of people didn't make it over.) We have also had a couple of weddings, several babies, divorces, the whole thing... But I gravitate toward this group because the feeling is the same. And I can't fight this feeling anymore. Incidentally, that's the song Butter is playing as he waxes and chants. A little REO to get the mood right.

Good! And good luck!

Good luck Misty! GB hate/removal here. I was listing to the left for 5 years…now getting rid of the stomach too I am balanced. Physically anyway.

I'm a newbie with a big mouth, but I feel like this site is divided between really intelligent people whose stories I want to follow, and people who just want to be told that their crazy ideas are valid. I should just put this in my signature, but talk to me again in 6 months and see if I feel the same way.

Can you get in today? I might be a bit of a hypochondriac, but if I had anything like that happen this close to surgery I would want it checked out.

I used to work as a health aide for a dorm of all men when I was in college. Can't tell you how many times I got phone calls and messages that said, "I have this strange swelling…"

We were allowed coffee too. I probably started about 5-7 days out. Wasn't interested before then. Now I have a cup in the morning, and usually that's it.

Yep, I'm in a stall. About 4 days so far. It will pass. It's all good.

Lyn, it's a calculated risk. And so far, based on my experience it is totally worth it. I could get hit by a bus tomorrow. I probably won't. But I know that continuing in my pre-op state was bound to cause me complications and possibly death. There are no words powerful enough to comfort someone who has a tragedy strike. But I believe it is a tragedy and not the norm.

Butter, there is no fucked topic. Please try to keep up.

Off topic, but am I the only one who doesn't know my bougie size?

I don't have anywhere near your stats but my goal weight is definitely overweight for the BMI chart, and it is 10 pounds lower than the weight discussed with the surgeon. I am so early in the process that I'm just going to see how it all goes. But I am not (so far) hung up on that dumb chart. :-)

I'm so sorry. How heartbreaking for you.

Oh Butter. You can't lob a softball like that.

One hidden benefit of following the pre-op diet is that it makes it much easier to follow the post-op diet. You can really do anything for 2 weeks. I can't really speak intelligently about the medical effects of cheating on a pre-op diet. But despite what some posters have said, cheating post-op can damage your sleeve. It's one of those things…we are making a huge change here and taking on this surgery, so why do anything (preventable) that could make it all go south? You are stronger than you know.

Good for you, Kris. You can do this. I'm so glad you see the underlying lack of trust issue too…because I believe that is the reason you haven't left your husband. If you were completely caught up in the hormones (so hard not to do!) you might have already made a decision you would regret. Let us know if you need support. Bravo for reaching out.

Misty, your story is incredible. Thank you for sharing it with us. Big hugs.

Thank goodness my program allows caffeine. I love my cup of coffee in the morning. Almost 4 weeks out. Haven't had wine. Have a cousin's wedding coming up next week. I will ask the surgeon about drinking the toast when I see him this week (because this part isn't spelled out in my binder) but if he says no, that's it. Surrender, Dorothy.

Do I look fat in this brain?

I'd echo the experimentation with different types of water/drinks. I relied on G-2 Gatorade the first couple of weeks. Now that I'm out of it (need to buy some more) I am finding that regular Water is harder to drink. I liked the G-2 because I felt the likelihood of dehydrating while on it was much smaller. During this time, drink whatever is low calorie and will help you get to your goal. I also found that icing my drinks helped (although some people find cold drinks painful.) Good luck!

So proud of you. Are you kidding with your comment? I hope you are delighted. When I think of your crazy path to get to this point, I can't think any way but positively!

Huge transformation. Way to go!

I might have been able to squeeze a few more weird metaphors into that post. Next time I will try harder.

This thread is everything that is awesome about my Pal, Bariatric. I fell asleep earlier than Lipstick Lady, and look at all of you motherflankeders. I think we all must agree that the first step is admitting that we have a problem. In my case it's not so much hunching over in my cave in the dark, with yellow eyes, scarfing down cake after cake. It's more that I had a series of long-seated behaviors that did me no favors. Along with a series of reasonable behaviors. As the dust is clearing from the bomb I dropped on my life, I can see that my disordered behaviors extend(ed) into all sorts of things. Like the pre-Hoarders state of my desk. Like my avoidance of cleaning out that big closet downstairs. Like my insomnia and worry about things that I should be doing if i am going to be the completely together person I want to be. Grabbing control of this aspect of my life might also start to trickle over into other areas. I can see now that I effectively checked out somewhere between 5 and 7 every night when I poured myself a glass of wine and fixed dinner (that I only ate sometimes, and then obviously sometimes overate.) I'm a relaxed, happy drinker; I was never passed out on the couch after yelling, "You goddamned kids!" but I was anesthetizing. And now I am clearheaded because of the diet and its restrictions, and it has lifted the blinds on my other behaviors. Kinda skeery. So, obviously I am right in that stage that GG talks about. I'm sorting through the detritus of my "old" life and figuring out how I want to be going forward. It's odd. I am feeling my emotions (as my friend said) but now that they're here and up-front they are not as frightening as they were when I was blocking them. Thank you for letting me work this out virtually. I'm sure that was at least 2 or 3 therapy sessions right there. Let me know where to send the check.