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I won't miss:
1. not having the energy to get out of bed in the morning
2. sleep apnea
3. people looking at me with pity
4. or worse - when they say "you have such a pretty face ..."
5. complete strangers stopping me in the street to ask about my medical condition
6. relying on others to do the shopping for me because I can't walk the 4 blocks to the grocery store
7. needing help to get on and off buses
8. people offering me their seats in public transport like they would for senior citizens
9. not wearing socks because i can't bend down enough to put them on
10. being turned down at job interviews although i have more than enough qualifications.
and everything everyone else wrote. the list is endless

I do not miss...
1.Being out of breath! Have to stop everything just to breathe (fast heart beats)
2. Frequent headaches/ elevated blood pressure
3. Rings cant fit my finger
4. Shoes not wide enough, cant find shoes
5. Stuggling to shop bc big girl clothings arent stylish enough or are too old for me (I'm 25 my main stores were Lane Bryant, Ashley Stewart etc)
6. Clothing is wayyyyyyy to expensive (a big girls PLAIN white shirt= $25) Meanwhile next door skinny store 4 shirts for $20! lmao use to piss me off for real!!!!
NOPE, DONT MISS NONE OF THAT!

I don't miss:
Breaking into a case of lip sweat from walking briskly from one side of a building to another.
Breathing heavy at the top of the steps.
Being self conscious about what I put in my grocery cart.
Holding in all my stuff when I step on the scale so I can see the number.
Telling the dressing room lady that I need a different size even if it's bigger.
Having to roll over to my knees and push myself up off the floor.
Having to use the ladder to get out of the pool.

Won't miss
Feeling like my head is going to burst bending down
The embarrassment of not fitting in the turnstiles at venues
Having to sit out physical activities
Having to shop at big people clothing stores

I will not miss:
1. Not being able to cross my legs
2. Being out of breath walking up stairs
3. Not being able to bend over to tie my shoes
4. Not getting on rides with my son because I'm afraid I won't fit or the ride won't move with me on it
5. Not fitting in my bathtub to take a bubble bath
6. Not having the energy to do anything

I am writing these things down, because I am sure there will be times early post op when I wonder "why did I do this?"
This is why:
1. Having to shop from a limited clothing selection. Eff you , size 20, you suck.
2. The feeling of my fat middle squooshing out when I sit down.
3. swolly feet
4. Feeling like the fattest person in the room
5. Being the fattest person in the room
6. Feeling invisible
7. Feeling self conscious and size conscious
8. My stomach touching the table in a restaurant booth
9. Not fitting comfortably in a movie theatre seat
10. Looking at myself in pictures
11. Feeling ugly
12. Body aches, knee aches, hip aches
13. shoes that used to fit, and now are too tight
14. Low energy
15. Not turning heads
16. Looking in the mirror naked
17. clothes that no longer fit.
18. Not being able to wear my rings
19. Being afraid to run into people I haven't seen in a while
20. Not feeling pretty
Ok, I only wrote 20. I'm sure there are more. Help me out. Why do you never want to go back?

Avoiding Water parks with my daughter because I'm too fat
Not doing outdoorsy things because I need to stay "covered up"
Being offered unsolicited advice about how to lose weight
Being the "fat sister"
Feeling self conscious when I speak in front of groups because of my weight
Avoiding events because I can't find anything to wear that will diminish my weight

I remember a time where a girl I thought I was going to marry left me for a guy 100lbs lighter. I'm not going to miss that crap at all.
She left me for a skinny little guy...maybe one day I'll be the skinny guy in the story.

I just got my surgery on the 9th , I'm back home now ! DR GARCIA And his team and everyone at the hospital were excellent and very caring , constantly checking on me and my fellow sleeves for that day and week! The hospital staff kept checking on me frequently and cared for all my needs... The ready 4 change staff were on point all spoke English and made me feel very comfortable. Everything they told me on line or on the phone was exactly what they did! Nothing was different , I never had to say "that's not what you guys told me" Never!!! Because the way the explained me was exactly what occurred , felt very confident and reassured and extremely happy. So don't you worry you ARE in good hands believe me! The Marriott treated us awesome and they were so friendly. The driver Samuel sr and Jr were both professional and spoke English and even gave us a tour of downtown and he even stopped twice for Starbucks and at a convenient store for us. What great guys... Ok take care and font sweat it piece of cake ....good luck anything else just ask. Steve

Talk to your surgeon. It's a 99% chance he has no clue what the office/nurse submits. Push it and make them do it right

I would tell you you had a large lunch or a dinner the night before that didn't agree with you. Tell her that you had a bit of water-poo in the day previous and that you need to go easy with some clear broth Soup and perhaps a side salad.

Well shit all I ever eat out is sashimi... Guess that's out for you
Girl, couldn't you bring her to one of those real swanky French restaurants.. You know the ones that serve you an artfully put together plate that would only feed a gnat and cost a million dollars that most normal people would have to stop at Micky D's after for a meal cause they'd be starving

Soup for starter , eAt a couple of mouthfuls and say you don't like it. Pick a main you like eat he Protein and push me veg around saying that the soup put you off!

We all have the fear of failing. But this may also be fear of the unknown also. I had the same type of issue. I was thinking of all the food I would be missing out on instead of the better health and way of life I was about to experience. I'm diabetic and am now controlling it with my diet and exercise alone. No more medication. I feel a lot better and have found a bunch of useful recipes on the site that I can make. Aside from the liquids for three weeks after surgery that I had to endure it has been the best thing I have done for myself. You can and will succeed. If I can do it, you can do it also. Good luck with the rest of your journey and please keep us updated here. Can't wait to hear about your success.

Hi Dani, and welcome to this site. You will find many nice people here and they are so helpful providing information and details about their personal experiences. Be sure to visit the many areas on the site. It has helped me tremendously. I am hoping my surgery will take place in February so we are pretty close on this journey. All of us here have food addictions of some sort or another so we understand and hope that you will find the help and support you need. Thanks for sharing your personal information. We've all been there and we're all just hanging out here to give and to get support in the journey to true health. Janet

Hey, guys...I had my surgery on November 20th. I am not taking in an enormous amount of fluids, but I do think I am getting in a pretty good amount. My surgeon really had no recommendations (as far as Vitamins are concerned...I did it in Mexico). I told him that I wanted to take some and what would be ok. He said that I shouldn't take any kind of pill or chewable. He suggests only having liquid Vitamins, but then he says that most liquid Multivitamins have zinc. He said that zinc is going to be bad on my stomach. The AquADEK's chewables I have have zinc, too. I did break down last night and give the liquid vitamins a try as I am so stressed out about becoming Vitamin deficient. My lips are a little chapped and when I took the liquid vitamins it burned my lips. It scared me because then I was scared of what it was doing to my freshly cut stomach. I don't know if maybe it was due to the vitamins being citrus flavored (my doc said nothing citrus or acidic) or if it was the Vitamin itself. Any suggestions? I really need to be taking something! Any recommendations on a good Multivitamin? I prefer liquid if anyone has any info. I know I can handle swallowing down a less tasty liquid easier than chewing a less tasty chewable that will stay ground in my teeth and last for a while! Thanks!
I was also told that I shouldn't have any Protein powder/drinks or anything at all. My diet right now strictly consists of swanson low sodium chicken broth, Water, and juices. I am not getting much calories, Protein, vitamins...anything really.

ONEderland day for me! I got on the scales this morning and it read 200.00 so I stripped off my clothes and this is what I got! Oh how I love my lapband and am thankful for a wonderful doctor!
I had been at a plateau for a while but I pushed through and the scale DID eventually move! Never, ever quit!
Highest known weight: 333
Day of surgery, 3/8/13: 258
Today: 199.4!

Wow, this is definitely not what I wanted to hear. I am pre surgery and I really do not want to lose any of my hair but I suppose I will have to make a choice...lose weight/lose hair VS keep hair/keep weight. I know I want the weight gone... I will learn to adjust.

Congratulations for overcoming your past and not allowing it to control your future. It is a powerful story and I admire you for having the strength to put it out there for God and everyone to see. You have faced your demons and now you know how to fight them. Keep up the good work and I wish you love, success and happiness. Thank you for sharing.

One thing I've learned about online blogs is some statements care easily be taken out of context real quick. I try to not take offense too quick while reading online posts/blogs. But I always do say, "Consider the source". Meaning, think about the person you are getting your information from. Then make your opinion.

food for thought.

Hello Everyone. I thought it might be a good time to post a before and after picture of my journey so far. I started my 3 week liquid diet on May 23, 2013, had my surgery on May 12, 2013. My starting weight was 360 pounds and as of today I am down to 263 pounds. For anyone who is struggling it can be done. I still have another 63 pounds to go before I hit my goal of 200 pounds. I know I have many challenges ahead but I now have the confidence to meet them head on. Thank you to everyone who has supported me on my journey so far.

Yay for you!!! I weighed in today at 254...So Im 5lbs. from my next milestone. I haven't been under this weight since I had my son 11.5 years ago! I go into a check up appt on Friday with the surgeon and really hoping to be under 250..Im so very excited!! Congrats on your milestone It's definitely something to celebrate!

My Lovely woman is on day 4 on the pre op liquid diet and omg I don't know what to do to help she is misskokokiss on here I love her dearly and try to keep her on track when she wants to cheat... but she is moody somedays which I very much understand (no one wants to go with out eating) and try to be her #1 chearleader and supporter cause I'am and very proud of her for making this decision but I need help should I allow her to cheat or stay the course... Oh and she has 10 more days to go any words will be helpful

My advice is get used to it and learn how to make others comfortable with the topic. I lost alot of weight and some people freaked out on me... when I travel to other locations I am often not recognized.
I had a couple of guys really react....like telling me I am hot in a shocked...like who could ever imagine THAT tone. I could be insulted but I took the gracious route. I have so many supporters...I feel blessed by their genuine happiness for me.
I too am a professional career woman.
Of course people noticed we were obese!
This is a mixed blessing part of the journey.