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No need to be rude. No, i really didn't understand your question or why you were asking it. Why do you want to know horror stories? Did you mean you want to hear both the good and the bad experiences so you can make a balanced and informed decision for yourself or did you have something else in mind? I asked the troll question because there are WLS-haters that come on the forums periodically in attempt to frighten others away from considering surgery that may be life-saving. Usually if a question is more specific, you will get more useful answers.

Sorry--I can't understand your illiterate and incomprehensible post. I have done nothing but write positive comments to you up until a few minutes ago when I pointed out the irony of your statement above, swiping at another poster. I don't know why the welfare cheat (she wrote that she was taking public aid for her kids while squirreling away her own money for a boob job) chose to leave the forum, but it was her choice. Perhaps she had embarrassed herself by her posts, laying out all her troubles for everyone to see. That was her choice too. I simply pointed out a fact, which she subsequently confirmed. She was under no obligation to disclose her apparent taking of money under false pretenses and I am under no obligation to support (emotionally or financially) law breakers who use taxpayer money for their own personal benefit. I have no qualms about using public money to help those truly in need, but I'll be damned if I will support some idiot's kids so she can lie to the authorities and use her own money to get a boob job for her own self-gratification!

Look who's being nasty now....

Why do you want to hear horror stories? Are you a troll?

You're making amazing progress! Congrats!

If you DO NOT WANT to have the surgery, then it would be a HUGE MISTAKE to proceed at this time. You do not mention any reason that indicates it is medically necessary for you to have the surgery immediately, so back off. Give yourself a grace period of 60 days. Get some help to sort this out. It sounds like you are having difficulties in your marriage as well; that should ideally be sorted outbefore you proceed and add any more stress to your life. You can always reschedule in a couple of months if you decide to go ahead. But if you go ahead with the surgery before your are emotionally prepared, there is no practical way to undo the surgery. This is a body-altering, permanent, lifelong commitment and you are likely to have serious emotional, and perhaps physical, problems coping with the surgery and the new lifestyle habits it entails if you are angry, depressed and resentful. PLEASE call your doctor on Monday and let them know you have SERIOUS reservations so you can get professional psychological counseling before you proceed. The fact that you are "sleeping, sleeping, sleeping" indicates that you are seriously depressed. You may benefit from anti-depressant medication as well as therapy. Neither of these are magic bullets that will suddenly make things okay overnight, but than can help you in fairly short order. The bypass is a great tool, but ONLY if you are willing to welcome it into your life and make all the eating and other changes that are part of the program. The surgery is important, but the "head work" and commitment are at least 80% of your long term success. If you are fighting the bypass you will only be adding more problems to the ones you are already struggling with. We all get the jitters before surgery and usually that just means we need some more support and information before we go ahead. But if your worries are more than simple anxiety, please take a step back and get some professional help before you make any decisions. Take good care of yourself!

Check with the insurance administrator for your employer or whoever provides the coverage. They will have the information or can direct you to the person that can help you.

Gas-X works very well, especially the strips that dissolve quickly in your mouth. They are individually wrapped so you can carry them in your purse for sneak gas attacks. Whether or not they help with the gas after surgery (used to inflate your midsection to give the surgeon room to work) versus intestinal gas is a subject of debate. For that, walking and walking some more seems to be the best solution. Good luck!

Never look a gift horse in the mouth. I did not have issues with liquids either. Be happy!

That happened to me too, but then I lost about 8 pounds quickly. Good luck!

If it is excluded from your listed benefits, they will pay nothing. Otherwise, they will pay a percentage as specified by your policy, subject to your outstanding deductible. There are surgeon's fees, hospital fees, fees for the program at the surgeon plus perhaps lab fees and other misc fees and your copay to consider. Your surgeon's office will call the insurer to verify your coverage and terms and the insurer's program requirements, but you should also call the benefits department to to double check. (my surgeon's insurance admin screwed up and I had to go through an appeal after being denied.) Not all insurers or policies require a 6 month supervised diet. Even for one insurance company, say UHC, it may depend on whether you have an HMO or PPO or whether your employer bought bariatric coverage as part of your plan. Hope that helps.

Lots of people do take that. Can you be more specific about your question so you get better answers? Thanks.

deehopes, as a general rule, you should target 64 oz. of fluid a day, including your fluid used to make the shakes. The protein target is 60g. You probably won't be able to achieve that just yet, but give it your best shot. You should be feeling better in a day or two. If not, please call your doctor's office. Take good care of yourself!

deehopes, how much protein are you getting a day? And water? Being dehydrated makes you feel pretty ragged and can quickly become serious. You don't want to make a trip to the ER to get fluids.

Just want to add that I think you are very strong and, well, amazing for going ahead with the surgery in light of the mom-obstacle you face! Get healthy and be happy!

Such a beautiful boy! Congratulations!

Many people like the Syntrax, I prefer unjury. Everyone will give you a different answer. You can search the food sections lower down the home page for discussions of these. Your best bet is to send for sample packs of the various flavors and try them before you buy in quantity. There are quite a few sellers, just google it. Be sure you get whey Protein isolate though. Good luck.

Music, you are a wise woman and I applaud you and your husband for picking your battles with his mother. He sounds like a great guy. Unfortunately, the poster's boyfriend has not stood up to his overbearing mother on her behalf for the 3 years they have been together. That's a track record and not a good one. If he's the one, I hope they can work it out.

I understand your frustration, but be very glad they caught the heart issues. It may be just a minor irregularity, something you've always had, but then again it might not and the last place you want that discovered is in the operating room! You may have to take a stress test and some other tests while they sort it out. Just be patient because it is all meant to insure that you are safe and will have the best possible results. The e-cigs are a crutch that you will have to let go, but it's worth it! Any amount of nicotine can cause problems so your doctor is just being cautions. You can research the surgical complications of nicotine to understand why he is doing this. Just keep making good choices with your food and exercise and you will be laying a good foundation for your post-op success. Don't brood over these speed bumps, look at the road ahead!

The Week 3 stall is legendary. Mine lasted a couple of weeks. Don't be discouraged though. Just keep following your program while your body adapts to all the changes and it will reward you by shedding pounds. Take good care of yourself!

Good for you! Wishing you both the best!

Unjury.com has very high quality protein. The chocolate splendor is wonderful.

Three cheers for your courage and determination to improve your health and lead a long happy life! He doesn't want me to have WLS again because it completely disrupts his/our order of things. Gee, hubby, your wife is willing to undergo major surgery and life changes to be healthy and you're upset because it will disrupt your life??? Get a grip, man. How much do you think it will disrupt your family life if she has a heart attack or is disabled or dies years before her time because she doesn't take this step? Ask your doctor what her risks are currently versus surgical risks and I promise you it will bowl you over. Loving someone some times requires you to go above and beyond your normal routine to assure their health and happiness. Now that said, my friend, you do have some significant challenges ahead given your history. You have to be realistic about some of the reported restrictions of RNY. Only about 30% of people dump and you can overeat and stretch your pouch out over time. It is a tool, but it has to be used wisely. But if you really can commit to the daily, lifelong changes RNY involves, it can be a true gift. A good place to start might be in therapy with someone who specializes in weight loss and food addictions. Cognitive therapy is especially good at turning around distorted thinking patterns. If you can really turn your thoughts and beliefs around, your chances of success will soar. Your husband will be able to clearly see that this time around will be different and you will not only loose most of your excess weight, but be able to maintain your loss. Your therapist may suggest a few sessions with you and your husband so you can be on the same page. RNY is not a magic bullet. The surgery is just the tip of the iceberg---the 'head work' takes a lot of focus and effort, every day for the rest of your life. It is easier if you can get your head on straight and accept the changes and commit to the process in the very beginning. But when you do the work, the joy of being able to fully participate in life as you grow healthier is amazing! Wishing you all the best on your journey!

Can you get hubby to feed your toddler while you seek refuge in a quiet room, at least during this difficult pre-op phase? Then you don't have to watch him shovel food in his mouth or try to shovel food in your kid's mouth. This would be an excellent time and way for DH to show his support for the challenges you face! Meanwhile, you go in the bedroom, take your shake and meditate or plan your meals and exercise for tomorrow. Take good care of yourself--this is hard work!

Well, isn't she a b*tch! I'm so sorry you have to deal with her, but it is long past time for your boyfriend to stand up and act like a man and tell his mother to stop her egregious behavior towards you. Now. Permanently. He needs to tell her (1) he fully supports your decision to have surgery, (2) thinks you are brilliant and strong for taking responsibility for your health and well being, (3) she and her daughter are wrong about it being the easy way out, and (4) he will decide which woman is right for him, not her. Being an adult means you stand up for yourself and especially for those you love. If he will not put this disrespect by his family to an end, you need to move on because your life will be unbearable if your marry into this family and their attitudes do not change (not just the window dressing either). You will find yourself disrespecting him and resenting the fact that he is not looking out for your best interests and happiness. The mother and personal trainer sister could both stand to be educated about the challenges and rewards of WLS, especially the sister who is in a business impacted by WLS. But the fundamental problem here is not the mother, but her son who is not giving you the respect and support you need (and the love you deserve) by standing up for you--and with you. All best wishes for you on your journey. You've taken a brave step to secure your future health and happiness. Stay strong and don't let the tiny-minded people dissuade you from your dreams!! Feel free to print this out and hand it to your BF.