desertmom

O my weight is 206.8 today!

Today was a great protein day! Tomorrow I am going to stop smoking and I am very apprehensive about this. (is that the right word?lol) Will try to do loads of exercise (playing squash in the morning) and drink lots of water.I have asked my family to cut me some slack and not buy into any arguments I will try to start. (they are terrible at this though so I might just have to lock myself up for the day..lol) Usually by the end of day 3 I start feeling like a human being again and dont snap at everybody. This is the last time.I will not give up anything,will just stop to be a normal non smoker from now on.(thats what Alan Carr says) So this is the first day of the rest of my life as a normal person.

Hi,may I post here too?Need a bit of accountability...lol B: Breakfast tea with milk L: 3oz chicken breast D: 2oz cicken breast,1oz tuna with 1 teaspoon mayo Snack: 1 slice of turkey ham and 3 cups of tea with 2% milk during the day. Am on a little bit of a reset for a few days (will have some veggies tomorrow)

Hi,welcome! I was on LBT for a long time from 2004 to 2006 (was sick as a dog with the band and soooo desperate the whole time) The sleeve is for me everything I thought the band would be and wasnt.

Hi Deanac Well that makes me feel better about my stall...lol If the DS was available in the UAE in 2003 I would have done it.Heck if it was here now I still would have considered it but I am not very compliant with Vitamins so it might have been a bad idea for me. Good luck and enjoy losing!

Hi I got stuck at 208 and would love to be 185 by the first of January.

Hi Just my take on this.It might be clouded by my current 3 week stall though..lol I am 6 minths out and all of a sudden I am thinking of food way to often.I am also hungry.Real stomach hungry,a feeling that I suppose is hunger (never felt hungry before in my life as I was always eating) As a 45 year old habitual dieter that's not been at my goal weight for over 20 years and having to constantly tell myself not to eat now at 6 months out,I would have done the Ds if 1.it didnt have the bafhroom issues ans 2.the malabsorption of Vitamins were not so severe.I also would have considered the RNY if I havent seen so many of my friends gain 50 plus pounds 4 to 5 years after the RNY. So,the botom line is one will have to relearn to 1. eat only at meal times and not snack all the time,2.have self control in your choices 3. Make peace with all this, no matter which one of the surgeries you have. And if you can do that for the RNY or the DS then you can do that for the sleeve which at this time seems to be the surgery with less long term health issues in terms of nutrition. One thing though.It was so shocking for me when I realized that I can snack and that carbs do go down so easily.I am sure that if I snack all the time it would be possilbe for me to regain everything I have lost.I have no doubt about it.When we graze we usually choose high fat high calorie Snacks and rubbish goes down so easy with the sleeve. Permanent changes in the way we think about food and saying no to ourselves even when we dont want to is definetely necessary. But the sleeve is working for me and I am working on changing my bad patterns.Having said all this my close friend had the RNY,lost all her weight,eats great gourmet foods,stays at her goal and have more restriction than me,had right from the start.She had her surgery quite a few years ago and she's still doing great and she finds it so easy.

My hair started falling out at 4 months and is still falling out at almost 6 months.It slows down and just when I think it is over I wake up and have a terrible hair loss day. It is scary as the hair is so thin now. I use placenta with bay rum and bergamot which seems to really help the regrowth but the short new hair seems to fall out again as well. Nothing we can do but just wait patiently for it to be over I guess!

today I made the choice to have 1500 calories for the day.I had about 150g of carbs and I enjoyed every one of them. Tomorrow I will be back on plan but with some complex carbs as part of my diet again.It just worked for me.Cutting carbs to 25 makes me feel blue and makes the constipation terrible to deal with. I will also keep up with the exercise and will try to do a walk in the evening in addition to everything else. Now for the next 20 pounds as a short term goal by the 18th of December when we have a big family reunion in SA. Heres to better days!

Spatters3 Stupid right?I did this surgery at a time when our life was running smoothe as clock work.a Month after,as murphy's law would have it,it felt like everything fell to bits.Most stressful year of my life so far and my defences was low.I just didnt cope without the food to self soothe with and started smoking again. I will stop.You are right nothing is worth the anxiety and fear I have of what consequince the smoking might have in my life. So,lots to work on now that the kids are back in their routine and the big decisions have been made.We are staying in Dubai and will not be a family living in 3 different countries.My kids are both here for now and life is sweet again. Will have to learn new coping skills though!

It has been almost 3 weeks since I've last lost even an ounce! At the moment I am seriously depressed.I regret having started smoking after surgery again.I am so angry with myself about this.Stopping is not an issue.Stopping and not gaining weight is.Somehow this warped head of mine believe that the smoking had something to do with the weight loss.I am petrified of stopping and gaining.But I want to stop as I want to run more,cannot do that while coughing and wheezing! Also today I would have loved a real binge,I mean an all fall down eat till you're sick binge!I know it sounds horrible but stalling like is is messing with my head so badly.I have always believed that if you dont lose you are doing something wrong.I am still convinced of it.Dont know how to FEEL different about it.I am anxious,depressed,obesessive and generally feels like I AM A BIG FAT FAILURE AGAIN! And most of all,today I dont feel that the sleeve was the right option for me!If I did gastric bypass I might have been T goal already!I am too messed up as a person to handle the mind games of losing and stalling and losing and stalling,not knowing if its me,is this it,is this as good as its gonna get because no matter what I do I cant move the scale?I hate,hate being so out of control.I hate this sleeve!

Hi Izuri In 2003 I did the band as a last effort to live!I failed or maybe it failed but to me it was my failure!My intense fear of failing at this is what makes a stall so intense for me. Then there is the fact hat I have a lot of head issues with food and I really still want to eat my emotions away...but I dont.Plus the fact that I dont eat yogurt or string cheese or any of the other soft proteins that others do.I eat chicken,fish,meat and veggies.This si only since summer.Before I use to eat carbs and I lost weight quite fast as you can see.The thing is second guessing myself made me go low carb and that in turn makes me miserable. Today I decided to eat a little of everything again and enjoy it.To exercise and to find my balance again.I am not like most of the others on this site.Low carb doesnt work for me,balance does.So I will try to find my balance again and maybe the doubt will disappear again. Thanks for the reply.It is super encouraging. Lzl,rock that sleeve girl!it will come down fast now!

To make sure start counting calories, track with one of the trackers.

O,I have lost 89 pounds and still have 44 to go.Stuck at 208. xxo

Hi,I am not really depressed,just feeling super low because of the stall.. One thing I havnt discussed here that is causing me to regret this is the fact that I ahve the most painful heamoriods since surgery.If I skip the laxative even one day I am in hell with pain.I am just so concerned about this.Started eating a lot more fibre and its made it worse.The only thing that helps is a laxative. After reading about the surgery for this and how people suffer afterwards I feel so in a corner about this.I am damned it I do and damned if I dont.I DO NOT WANT TO GO FOR SURGERY ON MY BUTT!Hence the depressed feeling.If I lose weight I at least feel its all worth it and when I stall for this long I just wonder what the future holds with the constipation issue that is a real problem for me. Anyhoo,I just had to vent.I live in Dubai and let me tell you support grops are non existant here.We are 3 girls that meet every now and then and that does help. I JUST NEED TO LOSE MORE WEIGHT!After not sleeping all night with pain and pain killers not helping I am just feeling a bit sorry for myself. Tomorrow will be a better day again. Thanks for replying,it helps me put things into perspective again. xxo

Hi Being the mother of a 20 year old,myself having had the sleeve and hiding it from my parents at the age of 45 (my mom knew anyway somwthing was up,she made my dad send me an email saying your mom is worried about you what is going on,as I was quiet that week) and having told them a month later (they were just concerned and are super supportive now) I thought about your situation from all angles. It would really be better to wait for your settlement if possible.Taking responsibility for your own life and health is great but it is still their medical insurance and they would have good reason to be upset if you do it that way. How do you plan on hiding the insurance issue from them anyway?They will find yout that way wont they?Dads will try to interfere again if he finds out,wont he? And maybe while you wait to get your funds you can slowly slowly start making changes in eating and exercize that wouls be very helpful post sleeve anyway. Having said all this,I too wish I had a permanent selution to this very permanent problem at the age of 25 when my I totally lost control after battling obesity since,well since I can remember as a very young child. Good luck in making a decision and remember things usually work out in the end and if they dont work out,it is not the end yet!

This sounds exactly like what I need. I am 208 pounds and 10 days from 6 months post op. Started exercsizing a few weeks ago. I want to be 185 at least by the 18th of December (big reunion holiday in SA).I also have to figure out how not to take a laxative every day.Have to eat more fibre without increasing the carbs too much. Good to have some accountability!

Hi,you are quite close to goal! 1.Are you working hard to get there (exercizing 5 times a week,eating on plan,tracking your food?) or 2. is it happening in its own time with a little less effort ( and did you think it would happen faster and is this why you are disappointed?) I am asking this because mainly I am the second option (except for little flair ups of effort) and now that the weight is coming off a lot slower I am struggling to not be disappointed that it didnt all come off effortlessly...LOL If you are no 1 you will get there and you must look very toned and shaped already...great going and keep at it,it will happen. If you are no 2 you will get there,be patient it will take longer this way.Maybe you can exercize a little more to help with the toning and shaping and maybe keeping a food track will help speed things up.... Ok,THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT TOLD MYSELF YESTERDAY! and I had to admit I want it to go faster now and will have to change! 15 pounds from your personal goal is great.Now you either push hard to lose this or you relax and lose it slowly. You have done great already!

How much do you still have to lose?

Hi,I am in a 16 day stall so I dont have an answer for you.So if you find out what helps,please let me know..lol No seriously.It seems only time and patience helps for this.I hate the fact that for me each stall seems to last longer.It drives me insane.At least you now know you are not alone. xxo

I dont think I look younger.Because my face was so round the wrinkles we filled in nicely with fat..lol But I started doing some facial and neck exercise just last week and low and behold the reformer teacher told me today that all of a sudden my neck looks so much firmer.Dont know about the face but a few people have commented on my face looking great lately.I have only been doing this for 2 weeks now. I must confess though.A facelift is first on my plastics list.

Hi Not a psychiatrist.A therapist or psychologist is what qe need when we have to sort out stuff.Listen,it is really perspective what we need very often and therapy really really helps give you that.Very often we just dont have the ability to get this by ourselves. psychiatrist mostly do just give meds.Which we very often dont want or need. Good luck.

Everyone is judgemental.So what? It is you and you alone that can walk this walk.Will you lose friends?maybe.Will people treat you differently?For sure...but that is the way of the world and its called the human condition.The faster we learn to deal with that,the better our lives will be. Harsh but my experience.Why do you want surgery is a very important question. If I knew where my LITERALLY LIFE LONG EFFORTS to lose weight would have gotten me (nowhere) I would have done this surgery 10 years ago. Good luck and seeing a therapist is an excellent idea.It helps us to get the answers we so desperately seek and make the conclusions we need to move forward.

I personally,after almost 6 months (and in,hopefully,the biggest stall I'll ever have..lol) come to the conclusion (spelling?) that one will lose as much as you want to.If you expect to get to your goal (normal BMI) and WORK to get to goal you will.If you sit on your behind,like I did until a few weeks ago,and wait to get to goal,you will not. If you are a male or you are still young you will get there faster.Using the first year to lose as much as possible seems super important to me now. That is my opinion and Im sticking to it....lol

Hi,keep eating the sf popcicles until you can learn to deal with this frustration.We often need different coping strategies after wls.I've learnt this when all sf popcicles disappeared from our country 2 months ago,out of the blue,from this country.nothing,not one to be found.And have been struggling like mad ever since. Good luck and I hope you can work this out quickly. xxo