desertmom

When people talk about crossover addiction we all think booze right? Well 2.5 months after my surgery,while having stress that topped anything I've had in the past 10 years,I started smoking again. I have stopped smoking.In order to run off the rest of the pounds I've had to quit. Of course I am eating like a horse now,but it is just a day or 2 then that is over too,and I will not post weight for a while.I give myself 2 weeks,one to gain little because I am eating rubbish and one to lose it again. The only bummer is I seemed to have pulled a muscle somewhere around where the hamstring attaches to the butt muscle or something like that.I've tried jogging every few hours to reliev the stress and somehow hurt the muscle.So I will stand plank and do sit ups and v-sits if I can. I have been very angry with myself for getting myself caught up in the smoking as it is super hard to not eat wayyyyyy too much when you quit.So,I kept on trying to lose fast so I could get to goal and then quit but that jut caused me more stress,I needed to quit now. So,this is me for now.When I am over the crazy eating to stop from smoking I will post again. O,and FYI I can eat so much more than I ever thought.No pain,no discomfort,nothing!Will have to mak myself a 20 galon can of tea and drink that for th rest of this day!

Me too,especially now at 6 months out I have many hungry days.But,when I eat juat 3 oz of dense Protein like chicken or tuna,I am full and stay full.I also now try to not drink for 45 minutes after a meal.When I add any carbs in the morning,even too much tea with milk,I stay hungry all day! I also dont think I lost my hunger much at all.Having said that,it might still be the head that rules...dont know.

Spatters3,what you are going through surely puts things back in perspective for me!And you are right. I have always been severly ADHD with hyper focus and unfortunately age didnt change that.But there are things I can do to conciously take my focus of this whole weight loss process. And I will count my blessings one by one every day to help me move on. I will also be praying for you that the Lord will keep you and protect you in this difficult and trying time.Please let us know how you are doing.xxo

when we went on holiday in July I lost loads of weight.eating out all the time,no tracking,counting carbs no execise (ok,I didnt exercise at all until then) Now,back in our old routine,I have startes exercising loads.I burn about 3000 cals most days and about 2300 on the days I rest. My food on execise days are about 1000 cals (naturally more hungry days) but on non exercise days at 800. The lack of consistent losing is still driving me batty! My head is seriously done in by this. I have considered stopping the exercise again but boy am I flabby!On the one hand exercise is not going to help me reduce the skin at all but it might help for the additional blubber to even out.I am very lumpy on my legs. Sometimes I consider doing fluids only for a day or 2 but I hate protein shakes.And I drink way to much tea with milk when I dont eat.Besides that the moment I decide to do fluids I want to eat....lol I know I am super impatient about this as the average weight loss is still 1kg a week but I want to lose more.It is amazing to me that others can be so happy to just plod along.I try but fail to be happy with that. Mainly I am impatient as I feel stuck above 200.199 would have been fine to sit on for a while but boy I want to be out of the 200 so badly. It is an issue that I am thinking of eating so often.Maybe if that was different I wouldnt have minded losing slower but it just feels like a super strict diet that I am on.I am trying to get hold of some half and half so that I can stop worrying about the carbs in the milk. And maybe I should just add carbs to my diet now so that my body can adjust to that and lose weight while eating carbs again.It worked just fine for 5 months,why wouldnt it work now? Writing these things down helps me.I've looked back on this blog a few times and it changes my perspective sometimes to see that there is good times and bad. So,weight is still 205 and I will only post again when it is down some more. A positive post this next time as I have started using this as the place to whine!However,I have stopped talking about the weight loss and food issues with others and when I finish here,I feel better and can face the day with a more positive outlook. Having said all this,I am a crazy optimist that would expect a weight loss tomorrow just to often be disappointed again.Maybe the issue really is the fact that I am weighing every day.It is difficult to not get on the scale though. Ok,upwards and onwards!

Hi I know that the Lord knows our hearts.He knows our efforts thats been made to lose weight and have the self control we need.He loves us and now after the sleeve I m not a glutton anymore.My weight isnt the centre of everything my life anymore.My relationship with Him is better as I have had to learn to trust Him more and rely on Him more through this whole process. I felt like you for many years.Felt the band failed because I was not in the Lords will when I did it.Tried and tried and tried to lose the weight by myself until I realized I had to trust the Lord to help me get my life back and become normal.The sleeve was a life saver and God is good all the time...

Jip.The sleeve will not allow you to overeat much.I went back home for 3 weeks in July and lost more than 15 pounds in that time.We ate at restaurants at least twice a day.I didnt track my food.ordered what I felt like.Ate too much a few time.Had some pain. I personally think food,even if you just eat Proteins,prepared with the higher fat they use in restaurants made me fuller much faster and I ate less. Just relax and enjoy!

Hi Thanks.Im going to search for this book.I need something to do this "without fear".My kids find this very funny ( 20 year old second year uni and 11 year old)

So Im 6 months post-op and down 91.5 pounds. I have just dropped 4 pounds after a 3 week stall and then dropping my cals super low for 2 days. My problem is today I am feeling super hungry!It is most likely just in my head but I am thinking of food all the time.On days like this I do tend to grab something here,take a bite there and even though I dont do more carbs I do more calories. Why am I the only one that feels 800 calories are so little? I track on fitday.com com as MFP seems to be geared to the US food market and I find fitday so much easier but damn,my 800 is finished long before the day. And please tell me,how are you ok on a Protein shake for dinner?(I often see people doing just that) I just cannot give up on the idea of eating food.Not rubbish but real food.How do you overcome the head that thinks about food?why is this so difficult for me? Please help!

Benjamin,I missed your post about the fat intake.I believe my fats are too low.And whenever I have a day that is a little higher in fat it is also a day that had no cravings a lot less food and the little was way more satisfying.When I cut the fat way back I keep wanting to eat too much volume of Proteins. So maybe this is one of my problems. Tomorrow I wll use healthy fats and see if I have a better day. Thanks

Hi Now I had my home made sugarfree,fatfree lemon meringue ice cream and am ready to talk...hehe! Sometimes I do feel deprived.When I low carb it does affect my serotonin levels.It takes very little complex carbs to fix this.I dont want to lose weight slowly,I want to lose weight fast so I unwisely cut my carbs super low.Stupid as it takes only a few days for me to become moody and life starts looking a bit senseless.It also only take a tiny bit of carbs to fix that. Like I have said,I hope this will get easier for me in future but my battle with food started when the folks put me on diet at the age of 5.I never knew what normal eating was until the age of 44.It almost worked and I lost 70 pounds just eating normal while being supervized by a shrink.Then she left and I regained it all. Now normal means something different again and I am relearning the new normal.I just find it challenging some days.Anyway I need to get to goal.Thats all that matters for now! xxo

Hi Benjamin Im not hurt by what you are saying. But Im not saying I want to eat a lot or like before.I just really sometimes feel like something nice! I have hunger.I dont think I lost all of the physical hunger but most of it is in my head,I know. Until 5 months I didnt have to deprive myself.I could eat baby portions of all the healthy food I made my family.(my kid is a gymnast,they eat super healthy) But from 5 month out I have to work for every pound. I suppose I know what will allow me to still eat like that and that is adding more cardio into the mix.I have a bodybugg and before it worked out exactly,my burn versus my intake.I dont burn as much calories now as I had before and I will just have to sit and make sums to figure out the amount of movin I will have to add per day to lose what I want to lose. I have always felt depressed when I low carb and I suppose this is whats happening now that I low carb. This surgery was the best thing I have done for myself but for me anyway,it is by no stretch of the imagination easy. Ok,and if there was sugarfree popcicles in this stupid country then I never would have complained...that was my something nice before it disappeared.There is no sugarfree anything but the jello pudding here at the moment and I really miss having that little treat. O by the way.I dont crave rubbish.I crave fruit.I crave vegetables.A glass of red wine every now and then would be nice!I havent had crisps in 4 months and I frankily dont want it.But a turkey,swiss cheese and pickle on rye sandwich would be so nice every now and then. Ok,enough of this.I am going to put my ice cream maker on now and make some sugarfree frozen yogurt. Thanks for the reply.I am sure my food issues are 80 persent resolved,I mean the emosional eating part of it.the other 20 is older than 45 years and might take a little while to go.

Shirataki noodles are fabulous! It is smelly when you open it but rinsed very well it is a fantastic replacement for spagetti. Of course,this being Dubai,and after buying it for years,it has now disappeared.Completely,along with the sugarfree popcicles,the 2 things that made this new lifestyle EASY! If you can get them,try it!

Hi To be petrified at this point is what I would have been.You know,I think that pre-op we are sometimes plain stupid.I thought people that stalls,cheated...right?Now after my 3 week stall I know sooo much better. You just have to remember there are only 2 kinds of people on earth.Those who get it and those who dont! Of course the fear and the doubt will be part of your life until the leak is healed.You should just take this day by day,baby steps for now.Dont do too much.Be super gentle with yourself.Dont read stuff that seems unrelated to where you are at.If you need to vent tell people on the board thats stupid to get stuffed.You have the right to just be at the moment. And the one thing that everyone can be guaranteed of in life is that bad things will happen to us.At some point,to each and everyone of us.Today is your turn tomorrow might be mine. But this too shall pass.Lots of patience and careful living for now. I will pray that this whole ordeal can be over quickly for you to start enjoying this great new life that awaits you for the rest of your life. xxo

You must be severely dehydrated by now after only 10oz of fluids per day for 5 weeks.If it is a stricture it will not go away by itself and you need to get someone to help you.If it is swelling my dr gave my cortizone (with manitol I think) to reduce the swelling.

I think a lot of us get to a point when we are healed when we mess up.Relax,its ok because its done! Now tomorrow,start by eating very clean Proteins.Bake a chicken breast for lunch (i did for Breakfast too) and half a can of tuna for dinner.Snack only twice and cucumber is a good idea.The first day will be hard.Eat proteins until you are satisfied.You make your own rules and you keep to them. The second day for me was easy as pie and the cravings to eat was already gone. You can do this.Just start somewhere again,with Protein until your full...then there isnt space for junk. Good luck!

Didnt they give you a spirometer thingy to blow on?(with the three balls inside it?) it really helps to blow every 2 hours.

I had lost 52 at 3 months.

But why GB for a stricture?Many GB patients get strictures for which they have to have a dilatation.

I must confess Im glad I did.Even at six months out I can still only eat a few bites when we eat out.A good thing I know.But my last meal was....ok,I cant remember.Guess it isnt as important than I thought. Hey,you decide!One meal isnt going to make you gain weight at this point. O now I remember.We went to Atlantis hotel in Dubai for a Friday (Sunday in other parts of the world) lunch buffet.If I could choose again I would just have a nice ice cream cone as I cannot tolerate ice cream at all anymore and I love ice cream. Ok,whatever you decide.No regrets!

Hi,how tight?why would the bypass fix this?Im just interested to know what the surgeon said. xxo

Years ago I read a book about this.Cant remember the books name but it is something like "The defeated perfectionist".I didnt believe it then,I sure do now! So,I m learning to be a plodder too!

It seems that between 5 and 6 months a lot of people have a MEGA stall...3 weeks plus (just read the forums). I stalled for 3 weeks and now the weight seems to be going down again. Just hang in there.It will happen if you dont eat to much. O,I had to drop my carbs for a while to get weight moving again...I think it was that but then the stall could just have been over. Hang in there...

Hi Besides the shingles I have sturggled with constipation (terribly) the piles (a nightmare for me) and reflux.The reflux is now controlled with Nexium 20mg in the morning and 20 at night,the constipation controlled with Solar Calcium and magnesium citrate (liquid) and the piles well thats another story.With the reflux.There is very definit foods that causes and worsense it.You have to figure out what it is for you.As for me it is tomato,pineapple,pickles,fruit,wine,(any booze really) hummus ect ect.Try to figure out and just dont eat it at all. It also took a long time for me to start feeling really normal again but it will happen.Do try to cope with the other issues on a daily basis ie.do not forget to drink MOM or something like that every day.If you forget about it just for a day it becomes a great problem again.It is better to micro manage it than to fix it. I really hope you feel better soon.Just be patient and try to enjoy the moment when you feel good and dont do to much if you can help it.I took it really easy for 5 months and now at almost 6 I have energy and can finally say I feel good. Good luck and do keep us posted.

Hi You are also obviously very swollenI was too. I vomited the fluro out a few times (projectile!) It took 3 hours of x-ray,walk,x-ray walk to get the fluro to move.The radiologist was insistent that it would go in eventually while I was in a total panic. It did go in eventually. I foamed blood for 24 hours post op.Couldnt get anything in.After that I could start sipping and day 3 I went home. Good luck and just hang in there,it does get better.

So I should shut up until I really quit! Thats all I have to say about that!...lol Now,I have realized that I obsess wayyyy to much about the scale and I can say it because today I am down a kg and my mood is completely different. Then,I have also realized that when I add a little more fat to my diet I eat a lot less.Not a lot,just a little more.I want less of everything.And to reset is actually possible.One day of super low carbs and just enough proteins (60g) and the next day the hunger is gone. Will try to remember this when I go nuts again.