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I can't believe I'm not alone with this! I never said anything because I just thou g by I was weird. Now I know I'm in good company!

I too am an ice cream fanatic, frozen yogurt is pretty good, but I found Sunkist fruit bars are GREAT especially the coconut. It's absolutely delish! It only has 16 grms of sugar, so no dumping. I try to keep the grams of sugar under 20 &it seems to keep the nasty symptoms away. Hope this helps. Peace, Mary

Just take a good brand of a multi-vitamin, the tablets are big so I have to break them in half , my Dr also has me taking vitamin B-12 sub lingual & Calcium citrate (again it's a large tablet ) but I didn't start taking vitamins till after my surgery.they made me so sick I stopped taking everything. When I went for my last post op visit, he stressed upon me how important it is to take them ,so I'm starting with the B-12 & have to get blood work in 6wks. But it seems like everyone's Dr's are different, so check with them or the nutritionist. Peace, Mary

My self esteem is gradually coming back. I'm starting to care about how I look when I go out, I knew I am starting to find my old self again when I started wearing earrings again. I just feel happier all around. Even though I have had 2 BAD days I just have been eating everything in site, & I'm bummed about it, but instead of giving up like I would of, I joined a gym something I NEVER would of done. So thats a pretty big benefit to me. Peace, Mary

YES, I have chronic RA in almost every bone in my body, but my knees are the worst. I had my surgery on 1/29/13 & have lost 102lbs it hasn't helped my knees in the slightest,I'm sorry to say. One of the reasons for having the surgery was that I needed to loose 75lbs before they could do the knee replacement surgery, but now that I've lost enough weight, I'm so scared to have it done. I can't stand the thought of being in all that pain, they want to do both knees at the same time. I'm passes taking Tylnol or any OTC meds. I go to a pain management Dr. & take Morphine & Methadone on a daily basis & also inject Mexotrexate once a week . Hope you feel better & keep moving! Peace, Mary

I had the same problem, I'm now 5months out, the best advice I can give is to eat several small meals & keep it down ,than push yourself to eat more & then get sick. I still can only eat 4 or 5 oz a meal, & if I eat to fast or drink while I eat, I'll be sick for hours. Good luck, in the beginning I swore I made the biggest mistake but now I've lost 104lbs,& just had to go shopping because everything was falling off me. I forgot how much fun shopping, doing my makeup& nails, was next up for me is to dye this head of gray hair. Hang in there you'll be feeling better about things before you know it. Peace, ​Mary

To Jerz, congratulations on the baby, what a blessing! I have 3 sons and a 3yr old granddaughter,(Wow!that makes me sound OLD! ) Growing up all I ever wanted to be was a Mom, but no one tells you that they grow up so fast. Is this your first? Just follow what your Dr's say &you'll do fine. Talk to you soon. Peace Mary

To Bbdoodle, thanks I just joined a new gym that opened in my town, I don't know how much I'm going to be able to do because of my knees, but I get a free 30minute session with a personal trainer,so I'm sure he/she will be able to set up a plan that will work for me. I never thought I'd say this but, I can not wait to go to the gym !!! Talk to you soon Peace Mary

You go girl!!! Your an inspiration for those of us who haven't gotten there yet. Peace Mary

Hi Tina, welcome to the site. I'm a big girl too but lost almost half of my weight,so I guess I'm more a medium-sized girl ( I was 386 the day of my surgery &now I'm down to 284lbs), to answer some of your concerns, I started driving about, 6wks after surgery, it took at least another month before I did any kind of shopping, but I also have chronic Rheumatoid arthritis, I actually am going to see an orthopedic surgeon because I need to have both knees replaced. I too had/have a problem with foods in the beginning it was horrible, nothing stayed down,& everything tasted like dirt, it has gotten much better, I know now what will trigger me getting sick, if I eat to fast which is eating normally as far as I'm concerned,but those were the old days, I still struggle with not being able to drink while I'm eating & waiting 30minutes after, it kills me, but I hate puking more than anything. I just joined a gym today because I'm not losing weight as fast as I was &I'm terrified of gaining any weight back. I would love to email you I have no girl friends,just my husband & I have 3 sons only 2 are home though, when I find my cell I'll gladly give you my number so we can text back & forth. I'm going through some insomnia right now, so I'm up all hours of the night, &I check in on this site frequently. There is a way to send private messages on this site but if you want I'll give you my regular e mail address. Ok I've rambled on long enough, I look forward to becoming friends, Peace, Mary

I had my surgery at Hackensack University Medical Center, my surgeon is Dr Ewing his office is in Paramus. My wt. at surgery was 386lbs, I'm now 284lbs. Just this past week my weight loss has significantly slowed downed, I'm not eating any different, so I've joined a gym here in town hopefully that will kick start it again. Have you experienced anything like that? I'm glad you responded to my post, as you can see I love to talk, I hope you don't mind, where (in general) do you live? I'm not to far from Giants stadium. Talk to you soon.Peace, Mary

Hi! I live in bergen county, about 15 minutes from Giants stadium( you can tell I'm dating myself, by calling it by that name, lol) My surgeon is Dr Ewing, his office is in Paramus,& I had my surgery at Hackensack University Medical Center. What about you? My cousins live in Park in is that central Jersey? What was your weight at the time of surgery, if you don't mind me asking. How much have you lost & have you met your goal weight? I was 386lbs the day of my surgery, on 1/29 & I've lost 104lbs so far, I still have another 134 to loose. As you can tell I'm real chit chatty, hope that doesn't put you off. Talk to you soon.Peace, Mary

Congratulations hope your recovery goes nice and easy. Peace,Mary

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I'm down 102lbs, but still have 136lbs to go,you look FANTASTIC, sorry you've had such a hard time it seems like we all have some kind of issues after this surgery. The fast weight loss is great ,but man I'm so sick of puking!!! To Suzan I'm so sorry to hear that you have Cthorns, I don't know much about the disease vs surgery maybe a second opinion?? I 'll pray for you feel better. Peace. Mary

I'm so glad it isn't something so serious that you'd have to be admitted, I know you were worried about that . Congratulations on the promotion!

Please let us all know how you make out at the ER today. Hope it's just something minor. Good luck & feel better. Peace, Mary

You look FANTASTIC!! A little make up ,spanx, & you're smile is a recipe for a wonderful day!

I'm stunned by you message, only because I didn't think anyone else felt the same way I do. I've lost a 100lbs,& just now I can see that I lost weight, not to mention I had to buy a few things because my clothes were hanging off me, my husband & family would tell me they saw the wt loss,but I just saw big old fat me. Now that I did a little shopping, the girl I used to be is waking up, I started wearing lipstick & jewelry again, even my wedding ring fits for the 1st time in 10yrs. I have all the hello juggles too,& I just asked my Dr, when could I get plastic surgery (I still have 140lbs left to loose) he told me 2 YEARS!!!! I wanted to cry, but I know I'll get there & then I'll feel as perfect as I hope the picture in my head is. In the mean time , I'm going to join a gym & buy Spanex lol! Hope you feel better about yourself & if you want to talk I'm here to listen, I could use a female to talk to who understands what I'm going through ( I live with my husband &2 sons) and as you can tell I like to talk, sorry for the long post, be well. Peace Mary

my surgery date was January 29 of this year, I was 386 the day of surgery. I'm now 285. I still can't believe it, I haven't been this weight in 15yrs. Just keep to your plan everyone looses differently & if you can exercise it will help it come off faster. Good luck & congratulations your weight loss. Peace Mary

I am so sorry you're Dr's just brushed you off. Shame on your gyn,but when you're overweight they think the fat has covered our feelings. I would go back to see your surgeon, he should look closer into this it is NOT normal to have pain of any kind,& if it so bad that you can't sleep, please, please go to the ER. It could be serious,& waiting can make it worse. Don't wait my husband was feeling I'll & in pain that got worse & worse, finally after 5 days I got him to go to the ER& his gallbladder needed to be removed, but he waited so long it actually was gangrene by the time they removed it. I don't want to scare you, but you never know what's going on in side. Sorry I tend to ramble on, please let me know how you make out . Peace Mary

:DThats wonderful! Congratulations & keep up the good work!

I hav the same problem,& still do at times, but if you eat small portion it helps,I used a baby fork & spoon, so I couldn't take big bites. Make sure you eat slowly too, Try the Special K protein drink, it's good & filling it has 10grams protein & 16 sugars so there's no problem with dumping. Also try to eat around the same time &don't drink anything while you eat ,you should wait at least 30 minutes. I hope some of this helps , I'm 5no. Post op lost 100lbs, & I'm still trying to get this eating thing down.( no pun intended)Be well, Peace,Mary

I had a great experience at my hospital, I had my own room as well, my only problem was even tho I had surgery in January, it was soooo HOT ,my nurses were great & found a fan for me . ( my room became the favorite on the floor with the nurses). My hospital has 24 he visitation, so family could come & go whenever. As far as the catheter it hurts coming out weather you are male or female. And Terry1118 gave great advice, bring your pillow from home , I know I did & kit made a big difference. Hope this eases your mind,& good luck. I've lost 100lbs & I can't explain. how different I feel, not just lighter & being able to fit in places,but. I feel like my old self is coming back, I'm starting to care about myself again. My Aunt said it's so good to see the old Mary back,& it brought me to tears because, I didn't think anyone noticed. Feel free to contact me, if you need to talk. Peace, Mary