marymcg62

Hi, I'm looking for some folks from the NJ area, I had my surgery on January 29 of this year. I've lost 104lbs so far. I haven't had to many problems, knock on wood. Just looking to talk , I keep forgetting to go to the group meetings, my surgeon's office offers. Hope to hear from some fellow New Jerseyans. Peace, Mary

try "Muscle Milk" instead of a protein shake. I dont like them either the Muscle millk has 20grms of protein in a container. I use it instead of milk in my tea and hot cearel. its very low in sugarand the calories arent high either. it may not be as high in protein as the shakes but it tastes good. hope this helps..good luck

I'm struggling so much lately and I'm so frustrated! I've lost & gained the same 2 lbs for 6weeks. To make it worse my husband came home with Jelly doughnuts from Dublin doughnuts! I know my family cane eat what they want & they are always thoughtful about foods they bring in , and they are so supportive, but I guess because I'm going through my own thing not loosing, I actually sat on the bed & cried like a small child, I wanted to sit & eat & say screw this whole thing! I'm just having such problems family, emotional, financial that I just want to give up. Not to mention my RA & FIBRO is flaring up I'm in so much pain I just want to give up. Thanks for listening peace, Mary

I am having a very hard time loosing any weight since the weather has gone into this deep freeze. I had my bypass a year &a day ago & I have been lucky the weight has been coming off steadily for this year with the infill now. Two weeks ago I got on the scale & was thrilled, I had broken through the 250's & weighed in at 248lbs, I stood on the scale & cried I was so excited. When I weighted in this week, the rotten thing said I was 258!! How did I gain 10lbs in a week??? I do mother & eat candy or sweets unless it is sugar free or under 10 grms of sugar. The only thing I can think of is I really haven't been out of bed in over a week, I have chronic RA &Fibromyalgia, & I have been in so much pain I haven't been able to move ( my RA is so bad that I am disabled from it & take pretty heavy duty pain killers) . Sorry this is so long & I sound like I'm whining, I guess I just need some advice/encouragement/etc. from people who have been through or -Maybe I just need to vent I don't know. A little help please?

When I had my bypass (1 year exactly today, 142lbs lost), my insurance did not cover the sleve & to be honest, going to the after surgery meeting that we had to attend to talk with the nurse & nutritionist, the patients who had the sleve had a much harder recovery & they had to wait America week before they got to start foods. I know every Dr.has their own plan for when you start on your liquids, soft etc.thats just how mine worked. I was 398lbs the day of my surgery,now 255lbs& I can't tell you how much better life is, l have some illness not associated with my weight, but l feel like my old self again, its wonderful. Good luck in your journey, I'm sure you will be happy in whatever you choose. Please stay in touch. Peace, Mary

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I haven't gotten to that point yet, actually today is exactly 1year ago I've lost 142lbs & still have another 80-90lbs to go & then finally I can get my tummy done, sorry I got off track, I think you should be proud of all you've accomplished,a nee job is wonderful & yes it's a pretty good chance that your new appearance did help in some way, but it's you that landed the job , you were qualified, not your weight& unless you tell someone no one at your new job will know. We all had this surgery so our life's would change, I say don't question it just enjoy, you well deserved rewards. Good luck on your new job, you'll be GREAT! Peace, Mary

Hi just checking in on you , i'm so proud of you going to see a counciler,I wish I could get up the nerve or get a "backbone" as one woman said(& she's right) My husband won't even let me go to Mass on Sunday,but my situation isnt the point of topic...you are, are you feeling any better? I sure hope so, just keep those fluids going & eat small meals a few times a day instead of 3. that seems to work for me. hope this little bit of advice helps & have a Blessed Holiday Season. And for those folks who have their panties in a bunch over a word or to "they" think are inapproprate, GET OVER YOURSELVES, we're all adults & if the language IS offensive this sit will delete it. Have a happy holiday to all members...= )

Hi,I think your making the best decision, I wish I didn't wait as long as I did,if you'll bear with me I'll tell you my story & show it to your family maybe it will help them to see another side. I was 50 when I had my surgery I was 398lbs the day of my surgery, I have Chronic Rheumatoid Arthritis from my weight, &need to have get both knees replaced. I also have fibromyalgia & thyroid disease, all which could of been avoide if I had this done earlier. Besides that, I have 3 sons, I missed school plays, sporting events they were in, I couldn't teach them to ride a bike or swim. I couldn't go hiking with them or rides when we went to the beach. I missed my grandmuther being born & the first 2yrs of her life because of all the pain I'm in. My husband & I haven't had a relationship in years (when your that fat how romantic can you feel?at least that's my personal feeling) we couldn't go to movies or baseball games because I couldn't fit into the seats. Now I wasn't over weight when we were dating I gained 90lbs with my first pregnancy took a little off but got pregnant again,& then had my 3rd. Every year I put on more,& I finally became & still am disabled. I had my surgery on January 29of this year, I have lost 132lbs & have another another 114 to go, that's my goal my Dr says 60lbs anyway, my life has changed so much for the better ,my granddaughter knows me she can run into my arms & I can pick her up & spin her around, we can play,go for walks ,plush her on the swings &am a constant baby sitter because they know they can rely on me now. I can go for walks,shop Tec . As far as missing junk food, it's junk food & big meals that got you where you are now, & you font miss it,& in time you can eat what you want. Ok I know this is long,but I'll wrap it up soon, your a young girl, you have so much to do & see don't let anyone stop you go do it & have a wonderful full life, don't miss out. Good luck to you & let me know after you have your surgery how your doing , Peace, Mary

I just came across your post & was wondering how your doing? I hope all is well & your feeling better. When I heard what your husband said two things ran through my mind 1) he sounds just like my husband & 2) he's just frustrated if he is like my husband he likes things to stay they way they are, I don't really know how to put it, my husband is very supportive of my decision & proud of all the weight I've lost (142lb),but on the flip did she gets crazy on me that I'm going to leave & starts a fight or complains when I get laid up (I also have Chronic Rheumatoid Arthritis&fibromyalgia I'm on some heavy duty pain killers every day) any way I didn't mean to talk about myself. Just wanted to check on you.

Anytime honey, that's what we're all here for, I'm glad to be of help nothing makes me happier have a good night, feel better & I'll check in with you soon : ) Mary

​Sunshyn, my name is Mary, & I can totally understand where you're conning from,a little background on me, I had my surgery on January 29 &it was a textbook surgery,my problems began when I got home, I have Chronic Rheumatoid Arthritis in every joint in my body (not an exaggeration) Fibromyalgia, & Thyroid disease, I was taking 15 pills 3 times a day,which I wouldn't be able to take because it would overkill my stomach. Anyway my Dr's & I figured it out but after surgery I went through withdrawals from some of the pain killers. Then I couldn't keep any food down, for the first 6weeks, the Dr wanted me to have an endoscopy , which thankfully I didn't have to get. I swore that I made the biggest mistake of my life but, I was 398lbs the day of surgery & now almost 1yr later I'm 254lbs! I still need to have my knees replaced, I still can't tolerate some foods, but I can go out, I can drive, I haven't missed a birthday party, I cooked Thanksgiving dinner (even if I couldn't eat much),most of all I have been able to be a grandmother to 2 granddaughters, what I'm basically saying in a long drawn out way I'd it is worth it, you'll look back a few months from now & say yo your self... you know I made the right decision, you did you have know idea how great life I'd going to become. I do sympathise with you right now is day 8 with the flu &bronchitis, I feel horrible & the flu is wrecking havoc with my RA, anyway anytime you want to talk or vent or need a shoulder to cry on I'm here for you, hang in there & I'll check in with you in a few days. Be well, Peace Mary

Oh my gosh, your post broke my heart! I wish I could reach through the computer & give you a hug! I am lucky my husband was &still is supportive, & my children are grown & are my biggest cheerleaders. All I can tell you is to keep praying &posting on here both will get you through. As far as the food goes, you have to look at it in a different way, not the stuff that could comfort you like nothing or no one else could, that's what got us all into the place we are in now. Food is there to nourish our bodies, give us fuel to get through the day & keep us healthy,it's been. 9 months since my surgery & I've lost 120lbs! I still have another 100 to go & am at a total stand still. Anyway this is about you every day is a battle & a choice just take it one day or meal at a time, think of what you'll be able to do with your children, riding bikes, chasing them trough the leaves in the fall, pushing them on the swings. All things I missed doing because I was 396lb when my kids were small , I missed all their events at school ( couldn't fit into the seats), sporting events I was to embarrassed, I was starting to miss some of the same stuff with my granddaughter, & she's the reason I did this & trust me when I tell you the first few months I thought I mad the biggest mistake of my life! I was miserable, puking all the time, having the runs, food didn't even taste the same, but somewhere down the line it changed, now it was the best , just last weekend my granddaughter wanted me to go shopping with her before I would of made an excuse,but now I was as out the door in 10minutes& had a great time. I hope something in here helped. If you need to talk I'm always here take care & be strong. Peace, Mary

I'm going through the same problem with my husband, he's convinced that once the weight comes off I'm going right out &start dating we've been together for almost 30yrs. It's hard to make him believe that I'm not going anywhere, all you can do is be 're-assuring, maybe surprise him & take him on a date. Good luck I'm sure you'll get through this tough time& look back & laugh. Peace,Mary

I have the same problem, I just can't figure out why I get this way. I was like this before I had my surgery in Jan. In the beginning I had no problem, now I feel like I'm hungry all the time, I don't eat things that I shouldn't, but I have no desire to eat any protein, I only eat yogurt, soup, pita chips,& cheese, tuna salad & Fatima. That's it, I drink diet iced tea or Special K protein drink. I'm not really loosing any weight just a pound or 2 here. I've gained a pound & I get scared eat life & loose the pound again, I'm so terrified I'm going to gain it all back ( I've lost 115 since January) I guess this doesn't help you much, but just so you know your not alone Peace, Mary

I'm with you all, I love my Pepsi Next, I have to admit I have put a ton of ice in a glass & poured my Pepsi& gave it a good stir till almost all of the fizz was gone. YUM!!! I don't do it often mostly when I feel a migraine coming on, but it doesn't bother the pouch to much.

I feel so bad for you, I never had gout (thankfully), but watched my Grandmother suffer through it. I have chronic RA to the point that I'm disabled & take Morphine & Methadone for it & it hardly touches the pain , the pain killers cause constipation big time sometimes I only go 2x a month , Now I use Miramax I mix it in all my drinks & it'd really works no cramping or anything like you can get with some laxatives.. I would DEFINITELY call your MD, it's not good not urinating especially when your drinking extra liquids, & he probably will give you something to be more comfortable. You can end up being dehydrated which can be very dangerous, please don't wait call today, Your friend in weight loss, Mary

Hi I did exactly what your doing before I worked up my nerve to have the bypass. Although I didn't have the band done the Drs said I had to much to lose & it would be a waste of time ( this was in my case only, I am not saying nor was my surgeon saying that the band isn't good, he does the band surgery as well, it was just the amount of weight I had to lose. I didn't want anyone who's had success with the band to gang up on me ! LOL) Any way I was 386 the day of my surgery, I had a good recovery &was in the hospital for a week , with no complications. I did have some problems when I got home, it was just adjusting to going through the different stages of food. Ie: liquids, soft etc...& I couldn't keep the vitamins down so I stopped them, I am taking b-12 now & am have blood work down to check the levels in my blood. It's been 7 months since surgery & I've lost 115lbs, DOodle gives good advice, you will be able down the line to go back to a so called normal diet ,the sweets I don't know, I had 1dumping incident &that was 1to many! But you don't really want to be eating the stuff that got us here, right it's all about change, but the benefits are wonderful, I can walk 15 blocks & not get out of breath, same with climbing stairs, & shopping is actually fun again! I joined a gym in town , this coming from a girl who wouldn't even get changed for gym in HS. It's so worth it, but you are the only one who can make the decision that's right for you. Mine was made for me when my Dr said I wouldn't live another 10yrs, that made my decision, I'm only 51 &have a whole lot of living to do, I missed out on so much these last 18yrs, I m ready to live again. Good luck I hope my mini novel helped.Peace, Mary

I put my protein drinks in the fridge, I drink the Special K vanilla, it has 10 grams of protein, but it's not so sweet. I'm 7months post op & I still can't get a whole bottle down, their very filling. I'm 7 months post op & eatting is still trial & error, but I've lost 115lbs, so it's all good. Good luck on your weight loss journey, Peace, Mary