I haven't had that issue but sometimes I feel like my husband is jealous. He asks for reassurance that I'm not gonna start being wild and leave him. He constantly telling me of others experience and how there relationships failed because their spouse had weight loss surgery.
As far as your excess skin goes, your current size, race and age places a factor. There is no guarantee that you're gonna have a lot of excess skin.
That's the number one thing people say to me. My surgeon has told me I will have very little if any excess skin. So that what I tell them. Unless they are a doctor or have to walk in my unhealthy shoes, I tell them to keep their comments to themselves.