I went through the same thing with my ex. He never went to a single doctors appointment with me, never asked me about them, and was so against the surgery. I almost cancelled it. But, we broke up 10 days before my surgery and now I couldn't be more happier. If he cannot support you and be that for you every step of the way, then there are other fish in the sea. You're moving on to bigger and better things for yourself. Good luck.