Obeasta

Have I told you yet I am alive? I don't know and can't see on my phone, have some morphine in. How you all doing? X

Hi ladies! And welcome! I am from south Africa - had my op yesterday The te goes quickly And suddenly Surgery here Sorry I struggle to type I am on morphine a bit Good luck!

Hi friends The time has come! I cannot believe it!! I am so excited bit scared also. And I have this crazy nightmare that they will open me up and close me there and then. Or turn me away before even operating. So worried! Tried my best with the liquid diet but a few times I floundered! Oooo! Just want this over with. As I am sitting here (and having myself a pedicure for hospital!) I just cannot wait any longer to get on with it! And also to not feel hunger. As I have such a need for food right now. Good luck to all you other girls also going in in this time! Please please if any of you have any tips please share with me!! Last minute thoughts and what to take with and just whatever you can think have. Hope to see you on the other side!! Please follow my facebookpage for real time updates. I do not have a link with me now but it is on my blog - link to that in my signature below. Ok, this obeast is signing off!

Hi Friends Please forgive me as I am asking this in two groups as I am not sure which group would be best to ask this in. Do you know of a book that I can perhaps buy from Amazon that you found very helpful regarding your RnY Journey? I would like to buy myself a book to read regarding this procedure and just everything that goes with it, you know? I've been doing all my reading online and it is a bit overwhelming. And at this stage I just want a book in my hands! Something I can refer to again and again! Please, if you found something very helpful, please share with me. Thanks! Obeasta

thank you so much, ladies!

aah love, shame, it is very overwhelming. you know what helped me? get yourself a big blank book. and then you paste everything in there. and i mean everything. from emails with doctors' appointments. to payments made. to accounts (copies). in there i also drew a "spreadsheet" so to keep track of my bills and how much I have paid and when, etc. in that book i also kept a diary for myself. my feelings. my fears. what is happening. what all the specialists say after each appointment. JUST EVERYTHING. you don't know how much that will actually calm you. to be able to have everything neatly in a book. it is very overwhelming and even now, 6 days before my op, i am still overwhelmed. but how did i get here? step by step. taking each day at a time. you will get there too. we all will. as my dad always say: "this too shall pass". just stick to it. because it is going to change our lives. and we deserve it. WE DESERVE IT, GIRL~!!!!

wow, you look stunning, girl!!! WELL DONE!!!

Hi Friends Please forgive me as I am asking this in two groups as I am not sure which group would be best to ask this in. Do you know of a book that I can perhaps buy from Amazon that you found very helpful regarding your RnY Journey? I would like to buy myself a book to read regarding this procedure and just everything that goes with it, you know? I've been doing all my reading online and it is a bit overwhelming. And at this stage I just want a book in my hands! Something I can refer to again and again! Please, if you found something very helpful, please share with me. Thanks! Obeasta

hahaha, well said Nella! you are awesome, girl! Valkyrja, take Nella's advice. Don't you give fools like that the time of day. I wish you well and good luck on your journey!

wow, that is amazing, juan! very very well done!!!

mami! this is terrible! i wish i could help in some way! stand strong and KNOW that you deserve the best in the world, ok? don't settle for less. x

aaaw that is so so special!

Hi friends I am following Cherry's example and I am also looking for experience buddies to be together on this rollercoaster. Do you have your date in the next week or two? My date is on 17 April. And currently I am weighing in at 324 pounds. Would be great if there is someone out there around the same weight and operation date, we could motivate each other and just connect to check in and see how things are going. I am excited and scared at the moment!

Hiya My date is 17 April. Currently on my pre-op liquid diet. And I have turned into a weird monster person whom I do not know! I am crying so much, dear goodness! Is this normal? I am struggling extremely with the pre-op diet. It doesn't help that I am lactose intolerant and never drank milk or ate yoghurt. Now it is basically all I am having. Plus I stopped smoking cold turkey on 1 January. I am craving those damn cigarettes! It is making me crazy. ALSO, I am using only a third of my anti-depressants dosage daily (the doctor wants me to use much less, also in preperation for after the op, when I can only drink a valium syrupy tipe thing). My tablets is slow release, so I won't be able to even crush it. So I am weaning my system off it gradually, but I think it is happening too fast perhaps. Any of you so emotional? It is cold and rainy where I am. And Aunty Flo came to visit since yesterday (after she has been missing in action for MONTHS)! belly aches so badly!!!! I want to cry all the time. Dammit!

i have pcos. oi joi. it seems like it is one of many problems, so i haven't focused on it much. but yeah i have hair growth at weird places ;-( does it get better after the op? i am one week away from my op. does losing the weight not help one to fall pregnant? when I am a healthy weight we really want to try for a baby. since i was a child i had horrible periods, very painful. even to the point of fainting. really bad. i started picking up weight after i started menstruating at the age of 12. so i believe a big part of my weight issues has to do with my hormones. as I was a thin and active child. the problems started with the periods. any advice would be greatly appreciated. i am currently 30 years old.

well done, man! how are you doing now??

hiya! Another South African reporting for surgery! It seems all quiet on the Saffa side... Enigiemand hierso?

bwhahahaha, hiding kfc like a crack addict!! hahaha! yes my poor partner is also suffering hehehe Do not get me started on the commercials on TV. !!! HOPEFULLY I will have a big loss at the end of the week, as this fool Flo has me not losing weight and I am trying my darndest with this liquid diet. I picked up weight since 4/5 months ago when I went for my first Doctor's appointment, as I stopped smoking, and that was TOUGH AS HELL! Almost back to the weight I was and praying that I am a few pounds under by next week. Oh dear God I am so scared the Doctor throws me out! I did the best I could! Oi joi. Crkrjax76 - i had to laugh when I read about your phone call yesterday, the same happened to me! Poor guy on the phone, I really gave it to him, a little monster I was! Shame, the poor guy. I did apologise later and was very nice to him but dammit, it is the medical aid with which I have been struggling for 2 weeks to get some service from them! wait I have to work a bit, talk again soon ladies. Good luck and stay strong!

dear brandnewme thank you for taking the time to reply! i enjoyed reading it so much, and you know what, you really put me at ease and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Here in South Africa they show reruns from The Fat Doctor from time to time, so I am quite familiar with your NHS process. I am glad that it could happen so fast for you. So funny that you mention Paddington. Last night my partner and I was actually watching the Travel Channel and there we watched a travel programme on London. I have been there before, but my partner hasn't. And the lady was walking there at Paddington station and the sites and things they showed made my partner go - "I want to go to there!" They also showed Oxford and Richmond and that was also a big sell, hehe. Anyhoo, just funny always how it works that you hear from a place and then immediately here from it again almost straight after. Have you found that? Sorry for being totally off topic! I also believe in the power of positive thinking. And I am back on the positive train. I think emotionally I am doing better today, perhaps my body is getting used to my crazy pills' smaller dosage. And the excitement is starting to build! Oh dear goodness, I am just so afraid that I wake up only to find they cancelled my op as my liver didn't shrink enough or something like that!

@ Rem - wow, congrats on your weightloss! you're doing well! I have been struggling to lose weight before-hand. I stopped smoking cold turkey and it made me turn to food, so this last few months I've actually put on weight! I am a pound or 2 away from my weight the doctor has of me! Oh dearie me! Hopefully I can shed a few pounds more this last week, so that i clock in "under" you know? @MrsLulu - WOW! That is a huge amount, congrats! You are two days before me! I know this feeling of excited and slightly nervous all in one. Just take it one day at a time, only 5 little sleeps left!

o sorry, forgot to answer before i went off on a tangent! I anticipate being in the hospital for 3 days. So we'll have to wait and see if that is the case. Hopefully!

why thank you, Cherry, so kind you are! It is great to hear that you feel the same way as I do. Power in solidarity or something like that. the thing that really gets to me most currently is me weaning myself off of the medication. well, only to a third at least, so that the shock won't be so bad on my system. sometimes it feels i don't know what the hell i am doing! even though i am sure i am doing everything as i must. i think i am a bit of an over-achiever, always have been. someone once asked me "why are you packing so much on you, what do you want to prove?" i was 16 years old. and i remember being flabbergasted and immediately replying, "i don't want to prove anything!" But today, 14 years later, i look back and realise this poor girl did want to prove something. i wanted to prove that i am worth something, you know? So sad actually. Hmm, feeling very contemplative today. Must be these damn stomach cramps, ugh! Do stay in touch, girl, and visit me on my blog, it can get lonely there Talk again soon

Wow brandnewme, thank you for posting this!! I am so happy to hear you are so elated and doing so well 2 months out. Make me feel more positive! I am currently a week away from my op and I am having a difficult old time. Cannot wait to be 2 months out. Then we will actually be on holiday ourselves. Cannot wait to have the energy and have more clothes fitting me! What has been the worst of this journey for you so far? And on the other hand, what has been the best of this journey for you so far? I wish you all the best of luck. And I hope things just keep on going better, and enjoy that holiday in Spain, lucky sister! Kind greetings Obeasta (from South Africa)