CherryBlossom79

Anyone here who had this problem, did you get through it or did you end up seperating. I never thought hubby was sexually aroused by the fatness, since I am the onyl fat woman he has ever been with. All his ex girlfriends were skinny, like really skinny even. I've had a few weird moments with him during sex but nothing obvious. But now that I am less then 10lbs from goal he is getting less and less interested it seems. If you got through it, did you get counseling or something. How did you work through it?

Yes I am very open person and I ask and ask and ask, but he just refuses to answer. No other changes at all. All he says when I ask is most important thing is I feel better. But I asked again last night and I got some sort of an answer and he did admit that he does not like me to be skinny. so my hunch was right, need to talk more about though. I want to go to therapy (not just because of this) but he refuses, but agreed to go after newyears if things haven't gotten better by that time.

Hi everyone Didn't know where or if I should introduce myself, so I thought I might as well do it in the lounge. My name is Sigurveig (Veiga), I have decided to do the rny gastric bypass and I have a doctors appointment next monday to applicate for that. I live in Iceland (the country not the shop) hehe and here the goverment pays for the surgery, so financing is no issue for me. I am 33yrs old mother of two children, my spouse and kids are all skinny with out effort. So I stick out like a sore thumb in family photos, and just in general when with them out'n'bout. I am 5ft 1in and 270pounds with a bmi of 51. I don't have any obesity problems like sleep apnea or high bloodpressure but I am in physical pain and I can just feel my body getting crushed little by little under all this weight and I just have to do something. Diets work but the amount of pounds to loose is so overwhelming and I give up 1/3 of the way to goal. So now I get to wait untill it is my turn to go thrue the program for the surgery, hope it will not be a long wait. Anyway this is me, nice to meet you all.

Well at this moment I am getting grilled about why I am getting the surgery. I am holding my own tho! It is on an Icelandic chatroom were ppl know each other alot even outside the net. Some are asking how can I go thru with this when it is so scary. Telling me I should try first overeaters anonymous, greysheeters and lchf diet. Even one who had the band and is failing a bit at it is criticising my decicion, what is that??? I am mostly annoyed at that girl, just because she did not do the work and is therefore failing does not mean I will not. I have done ten times the research and everything then she ever has before I took my very well informed decicion.

I would also like to know that.

My mother does not say anything and supports me, but I do sence that she is worried. I am sure that it is just that with your mother, just expresses it in a different way than mine does.

My doc wanted to check my thyroid, turns out it is lazy. Might explain the 44lbs weight gain in the last 18months, or at least how more easely they came than before. So I am starting on some thyroid meds. But what I am worried about is does it affect the surgery or more so the weightloss after surgery? It would suck so bad if it will cause me to lose less after taking this step and all the sacrifice.

Looking osom, congratulations

Luckely my family and friends are super supportive. They are very happy for me to have decided to get the surgery. I am so blessed and happy to have all this support. It just those darn ppl that have no say and do not really know me, ppl that think that just because I am fat I must be a food addict and a out of control overeater. My family knows better.

Wow what a difference, you look great. I to wanna fit in the rides, haven't gone on one in 16 years :-( Last time I went I barely fit, and because I barely fit it was not properly holding me. So I got hurt a bit and was left with two of the blackest bruises I ever gotten in my life. I can't wait to be able to have a night out at the tivoli (carnival).

It is so difficult to wait for the call to come in for the initial interwiew. The wait could be months or even a year, and I only got my referal several days ago. I am so ready now to start the process.

Thank you sweetheart :-)

There are no groups like that here. Here we go to a rehabilitation program for 5 weeks prior to surgery where we are educated on nutrion, health,, execise and everything related to the surger before, during and after. So there is nothing for me to do untill the call for that comes, all I can do for now is research online and focus on my health. Since rny is the only type available here I know that is the one I will have.

Thank you for a well needed post. I am pre op and it took me over 10 years to take this step mainly because of those horror stories. But at this time I feel like even though I will have complications, that cant be more or worse then the obesity problems I have now or will get later in life if I stay like this.

Well had my doctors appointment this morgning to applicate for the surgery amongst other things. Jeez louise I was nervous, I almost did not mention it. But I did and after it I crashed emotionally and fell asleep untill 7 pm. But I am now officially on the waiting list for the surgery . Can't wait to get the call to go to the clinic for the pre surgery progam.

I saw it today in the shop I buy from, to bad it is to far away and in the end exspensive for you hehehe. I got 8 samples to try

I have only tried one nectar, and it was so yummi. So I am going tomorrow to the capital to buy 7 more samples to try out. Normally I hate protein shakes, espessially those thick meal replacement ones. I am so happy to have found nectar, and I love it is thin like juice or coolaid.

It kinda depends on your health, but after approval it is not that long. The waiting for approval and getting called in to go to the 5 week program at the clinic is what can take up to 1 to 2 years. Never know maybe we will have the same doc hehe

Winter is not completelly finishef over here yet. But last autumn a big department store here closed all its shops and had a big sale. Oh I remember looking at all the snowsuits thinking I wanted one and wondered if I should buy one in case I might someday fit in one. But I had not decided on the surgery at the time so I had no real faith I would so I walked on by. Man do I regret now not buying one, just the style I like and so cheap. Snowsuits are very exspensive here, 100dollar ones are considered cheap. :-(

I for sure daydream all the time now. But out of all the clothes I can't wait to get a snowsuit, and been googling alot to find just the perfect one. I miss so much to wear a snowsuit and feel tostie outside in the snow.