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It's 2 weeks until I have my surgery, and feeling excited and nervous all in one...I know this will be life changing, and am ready to take the challenge on, but don't fool myself...this is gonna be a challenge!! I've been very selective to whom I tell what im doing, although, I know they will see the difference soon....guess the stigmatisn of gastric surgery to some people is the easy way out...but we all know better...learning my diet, and the road I have ahead of me is by far the most challenging diet I will ever face...a life time challenge if I want success...and failure for me is not an option...my health is counting on it. So, if anyone has any tips, good websites, or food preferences that they like I would appreciate any help. Julz

Yup! You heard right! Weight loss surgery. Gastric Bypass to be exact! Am I excited? More than ever. Am I ashamed? Not in the least.
 
If there's anything you should know about me, you should know I can't keep a secret. I can't keep things to myself, especially exciting things. Everyone in my life knows not to tell me anything, because I always end up spilling the beans sooner or later. It always starts out this way. I'll tell one person one thing and then think to myself, well, I already told one person, so why not tell another? One person becomes two, two becomes three, and so on and so forth. This is how it happened over the weekend while traveling by bus to NYC for my first day of graduate classes with my long time classmates. These are girls I've been in the same intense undergrad program with for two years. We're also potential social workers, so they're used to hearing about life transitions and making big decisions, etc. so I kind of felt comfortable with them knowing my "secret". Plus, I figure they're going to be wondering why I'm absent from classes for a week, and wtf is going on with me when I start shedding the weight.
 
So, I told them! I told them all! It kind of just slipped out. I finally got to the NYC campus for my first day of grad classes, and noticed the desks were unbearably tiny (despite paying $30k a year, guys) and decided why panic? This will all be over soon!
I'm proud of my decision to get the surgery. I have nothing to hide. I *have* tried every diet, been successful, unsuccessful, gained, lost, gained, etc. I know myself well enough to know this is something I want and need. Plus, I think by telling people rather than keeping it a secret, it helps to reduce the stigma attached to weight loss surgery and being obese in general.
 
Typical bullshit responses I've gotten so far:

Oh, well, my father's friend's mother's aunt got the surgery, lost a TON of weight, but regained everything back after like...3 years!
Oh, gastric bypass? So you'll never eat again and be on a strict diet for the rest of your life? Oh, I see.
They do WHAT to your stomach??
I hear you're going to spend the rest of your life throwing up...you don't want that
One of my co-workers gained all the weight back and more. She eats McDonalds every day on her lunch break...and gained all the weight back...you don't want that, do you?
You'll never be able to eat pizza again and all that good stuff.
Maybe you should try another diet? I hear the FDA is approving a new weight loss pill this fall!
You know..maybe if you just try exercising you may be able to lose some of the weight
You're going to be needing iron infusions for the REST of your life

 
So I have a few answers for this people...
 
I'm NOT your father's friend's mother's aunt's sister's boyfriend's uncle...I'm ME
Yes, I know what I'm doing
No, you can't change my mind
Yes, I've researched
And YES, I'm ready to begin a new life!

Hi my name is Eboni, I'm 30 years old married mother of two boys. I have battled with my weight for my entire life. I have never been thin. I've never had self esteem issues until the last 4 years. I have also been trying to have bariatric surgery, but due to Insurance coverage I was never succesful in the process. Now the time has come. I have insurance coverage now. I have started the process. I had my first Dr's appointment today (12/20/12) with my Primary and he mde me feel so good. He truly seemed as happy as I was that I chose to have the sugery. In conjuntion with having my first Dr's Appt, I also went to a WLS Seminar. The surgeon won't even see me until I have been to one. Mind you I have already been to 3 over the past 4 years. I turned in my info tonight now, so now I wait to hear from the Surgeon Office for an appt. I am super estatic. I have the surgery at my finger tips. I am ready!!! I have somethings in my life that I need to do for ME. This is one of them. A change in lifestyle is imperative in my life. I'm not gonna go on and on. Gotta save somethings for later. Until next time Hunni kisses.....