life_after_gastric_bypass

Thanks sis, doing well thank God, miss seeing u on the board glad ur back :-)

Lisa you look great I was wondering where u been, I haven't seen u....glad all is well

Mami, here in NYC you can call 311 and they will give you listings with numbers for all your needs. You don't need to go into details but tell them what you are looking for they can help u.

I remember like it was yesterday feeling just like you! I had regrets and when I came on here to vent everyone said the same thing....it will get better, I didn't see it then, but after getting over that small bump in the road...everyone was right. I am here to tell you, it will truly get better...get your liquids in, walk and just continue to heal...I wish u luck and in the days to come you will help someone fresh out of surgery letting them know it does get easier! Good luck on your new life!

Great job...my fingers are crossed for u good luck!, and might I say very proud I saw and read your ups and downs you should be proud of yourself!!!

you look amazing congrats!!

I found rnytalk on my IPAD hoping to find a community of WLS people like myself. I have been a member ever since. Now I tell everyone I know who is thinking about weight loss, or may have questions regarding surgery, or who needs support in a friendly online community to join in with a great bunch of people who can relate and understand because we are all on the same journey. Fighting obesity!

Thank u so much for your kind words, and good luck on your new journey and enjoy your new life thanks again

My heart is broken. A friend of mine for over 18 years has passed away from a heart attack. He battled with his weight all his life. At his highest I am guessing he was maybe 500 plus pounds. He was diabetic, he smoked both cigarettes and weed, he was depressed and the aches and pains due to his weight was hurting his body, he started to use a cain toward the end to help him walk. At my highest when I said its time to take control of my weight I was 301lbs, I try to encourage him to do the WLS, so that his quality of life would be better and he would say no I don't do well with pain. And when he would see me he saw my weight was going down I would still try and encourage him to do the WLS to help him get the weight off. I tried constantly to encourage him because I knew deep inside he was trapped and I understood because I was once there. There is a sadness we carry when we are big, its in our face, in our mood,its every where on us. I would often would see his sister and ask for him and she use to say oh my brother looks bad, I don't think he will make it but I never seen her encourage him to do the right thing like eat right, going for walks or talked him in to going to the hospital. Even she wants told me oh the Gastric Bypass is dangerous and when she saw me she was surprised as I loss the weight. During my journey, I did mine in private, I didn't tell friends the only ones who knew and matter most were my children who understood my battle and supported me along the way. I did my research, did my doctor appts and everyday I continued to do my research. I refuse to have people in my ear saying horror stories about WLS, because i refused to allow anyone to tell me its wrong to want to take control of my weight and live a healthier life...that's what some people do...they will say oh I hear WLS is dangerous...but putting 3 big macs in my mouth is safe? I miss my friend dearly, I know the days of him struggling are over, he looked so at peace at his funeral but at the same time I wish he had the courage to do the WLS...as a friend I wanted to help him so bad. but in the end when making choices that has to do with your health only you know whats the right thing to do. I can't say WLS would have kept him alive today...if its your time to go its your time go and I understand that...I just felt like his quality of life would have been so much better. During your journey we have to be careful with people that are enablers around us...your circle of friends have to be positive people that will support you decisions and leave behind those that help and continue to allow us to make poor choices (enablers) the ones that will say oh its just 1 cupcake, or its just 1 burger. You have to be strong minded enough to know whats right and whats wrong and look at the person you surround yourself with...are their intentions to help or hurt you? Before surgery I would fight with my boyfriend and instead of talking it out he would buy me food so I could stuff my face....its like people will put a gun in your hand and let you blow your brains out without a single thought or any remorse. This journey has saved my life from being trapped inside of a body i hated, it has made my health much better, i am learning to love me once again...I am no longer hiding in pictures in fact sometimes I think I am the star...I went from a size 32 to a size 12 since January 2013. I could not have loss this weight on my own, I was the type to go to the gym and reward myself after a workout with a chocolate cake and a slice of pizza....I was my own enemy and now I am my own cheerleader. Obesity is not a game, people are dying, the health risks are serious... when I was a big girl...I joined every BBW club there was for big beautiful women and the men that loved them and that was my excuse to eat...(I had no issues getting a man)but I was not happy with who I was.... I say all of this to say, take control of your weight, do your research, ask questions, dump old friends and gain new friends...surround yourself with positive people and do the best you can...we are human and even after surgery we do fall off the bandwagon...its getting back up and taking control which makes you stronger. Sorry this was long, but I am hurting, I miss my friend, and I truly wish I could have helped him..,but more important i wish he could have helped himself. Take your health seriously, this journey is filled with ups and downs and bumps in the roads but don't give up it gets better...I can give you so many reasons on what I could do now in my body that I couldn't do before but it would take all day...lets just say I am Blessed!

Thank u so much

congrats!

Thank u so much I truly appreciate you

Sis so glad you like, you are so right this program has brought us together in so many ways ..you ROCK too :-) happy that Tasha is bringing people together

I hate the stalls more than anything it frustrates me too....my kids had to physically snatch the scale and hide it from me lol...I'm happy you are losing inches and I am wishing you a speedy recovery for you to get better...and don't worry that scale will move for u soon....believe me I had a few procedures after gastric and the scale did not budge..talk about worried I had my surgeon on speed dial...lol Feel better

Congrats, this is just the beginning good luck!

Thank u so much

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DL is there a way I can make changes on my MFP to where I can measure things...like I see some people put a spoon of this, or 1/3 of that...when I log my foods usually I am on my ipad, and when I am on the go I'm on my phone....I want to be accountable for anything I put in my mouth...is there a way to do that? I'm in front of a computer now so the features are different than the ipad n phone... thanks:)

congrats and good luck on your journey

I agree also hide your scale if it is stressing you out that much, don't look at just the numbers, feel the results, go shopping and try on clothes you will see you loss inches.....and into new sizes WLS is a tool to help lose weight but its not magic and all of the weight will not come off fast...give it time, follow your program and be happy for the small successes you have had so far...83lbs is a lot of weight to lose but if you keep on stressing out it may lead you to turn to food once again.... I have been at a few stalls...but I'm embracing my success so far....I'm in a obese category rather than morbid obese (as crazy as it sounds...I'm happy to be obese but we have to learn to be happy for these little things), i no longer have sleep apnea, my asthma is in control last I used a pump was before surgery, I am no longer borderline diabetic i have energy...i went from a 32 to a 12, i can feel my collar bone,i can see my chin.... look at all your success so far and Love the body you have whilst you work towards the body you want P.s. no stressing

awwwwwwwwww I'm tearing up...u are truly a great friend/pen pal and awesome person!

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Congrats!! what I told u sis this day would come quick....I am so happy for u...