aliensoul77

I am going through the process of trying to get the gastric bypass surgery right now, doing all the testing and I was very skeptical, you could even say I had a huge reason to be against this surgery. 10 years ago my Mom got the gastric bypass and died six months after from diabetes complications. They said it was diabetic ketoacidosis, partly because she lowered her insulin too fast without doctor approval but my Dad always blamed the surgery for it and I had a negative feeling about it since. 10 years have passed and my wife just got the surgery in Jan. Since late last year to now, she has lost a total of 75 pounds and she loves it. Of course things have changed, we have had to completely modify our eating habits and groceries we buy, she eats fat free sugar free everything now. Right after her surgery, she was in pain and could barely eat anything and was miserable for a few weeks but now she's fine. I feel like it is the right decision for me because I'm borderline diabetic, I have sleep apnea, my cholesterol is high, my blood pressure is high, I'm on all these pills. Not to mention I have a leg disease so all this extra weight is murder on my legs and I have to walk witha cane every day of my life and use pain pills just to get out of bed in the morning. I feel like it is a matter of life and death and most of my family members are supportive, it's just so called friends who act like I am doing this for vanity reasons. Because I want to be skinny and fit into some vision of society's idea of beauty. Not to mention I feel like I can't even tell my Dad (who lives out of state from me) because he is so paranoid and blames the surgery for killing my mother. What should I do? I mean I know the risks, there can be complications and a small percentage of people die from it but I'm only 35, I feel like my quality of life sucks, I'm stuck on disability and not able to put my college degree to good use because I need to do an internship for my psych degree but I need to be mobile. I can't be limping around and resting every 2 min.