annalobdell79

This happened to me. When,I had the surgery, I had 150 pounds to lose to get to goal. now I have 70 to lose. I get so hung up on my scale numbers,moving slow that I don't see how far I've come. Congrats. It's a great feeling.

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My husband was completely against me having this surgery, even telling, me that he didn't think he would be attracted to me anymore when I got smaller. He is constantly telling me that I have forgotten what it's,like to be fat. I am like WHAT?!?! I am 230 pounds. Still considered morbidly obese. I love him so much AND it hurts me that I can't share my joy with him.

I thought about the RNY for him as well but I am scared that he will put himself in the hospital due to overeating. He is constantly telling me that I don't eat enough. I know that he is a little jealous. This is the first time in a long.time that I was able to do something that he couldn't. I am sad for him but at the same time I am angry because he ruined my day.

So, I had the RNY on 12/11/12. I started out at 298 and as of today I am 233. Saturday I went to the water park with my family and for the first time in probably 10 years I had a blast. I could ride all the rides they I had been unable to ride previously because of my size. I was so happy. I was smiling so much my darn face hurt. Until my husband decided that my having fun was not fun for him. My husband is 380 pounds and has been complaining about his weight since I had my surgery. I am very supportive of him, I try to give him tips, but he is resistant to anything that I try to tell him. He picked a huge fight at the water park because he says that since I have lost so much weight and can do more stuff, I expect him to as well. This is not true. I am sorry that he cannot ride the rides but he is the only one who can change that. I feel so sad that my happiness and joy over losing weight is causing my husband unhappiness. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I shouldn't have to hide my happiness, but at the same time, my happiness is clearly causing my husband to be upset. What can I do?

Thank you all so much. I am just so scared. Trying to stay positive. I just want this so bad. I have 60 more pounds to lose to get to my surgeons goal weight for me but 80 to go until my personal goal for me. I love my husband but he has fought me tooth and nail every step of the way and that makes me unbelievably sad.

I guess I just feel alone because whenever I bring this up to my husband, he says that I never should have had the surgery in the first place and that I need to learn to deal with the consequences of my dumb ass choices. I feel so alone and so much like a failure. Like there is something wrong with me that has caused my surgery to fail.

logically I know that it is better to lose at a slower pace, but I still have so much to lose, 70 pounds, that I terrified that I will not get to my goal. I was told that the first 6 months are when all the weight loss occurs. After that you are on your own. I don't want to fail this procedure and have everything that I have sacrificed be for nothing.

So, today I am a little over 6 1/2 months post op. On the day of my surgery I weighed 298 pounds, down from 343. Today I weighed in at 238.4. Maybe I am being unrealistic but I feel like 60 pounds in 6 1/2 months is ridiculous. I was told to expect rapid weight loss in the first 6 months and that has not happened. Since my 3 month check up in march I have lost 17 pounds. 17 freaking pounds! Are you kidding me. I feel like I am never going to get to my surgeons goal weight of 170 let alone my personal goal weight of 150. I do not know what to do. I regret getting this surgery. I lost 45 pounds in 2 1/2 months in order to get approved for the surgery. I feel like I had better results before the surgery and had to take less pills. Since the surgery I am iron deficient, b-12 deficient, vitamin d deficient. I take bariatric fusion multi vitamins. I just don't know what to do. My husband is angry that we shelled out over 4 grand for this surgery and I lost more weight before than I have after. I feel myself sinking into a terrible depression. I have no one to talk to. I don't really want anyone to know how disappointed I am.

I am almost 7 months out and only down 60 pounds, I am so frustrated and starting to really regret getting this surgery. I have had a severe stall. I lost 17 pounds in 3 months. That is pathetic. I have upped exercise, protein. I take iron, daily bariatric fusion, b-12 and vitamin d. I am drinking tons of water, have cut out soda and nothing. I was told to expect rapid weight loss in first 6 months. 60 pounds in 7 months is not rapid. what can I do?

So, today I am 7 weeks post op and I have lost 34 pounds. 20 pounds from 12/11/12 to my 3 week appointment on 1/2/13. 14 pounds pre op. I have lost NOTHING since my 3 week appointment. I am really starting to wonder why I did this to myself. I was losing 10-12 pounds alone before surgery. Now, NOTHING. I am angry and sad. I know that the weight didn't come on overnight, but I was expecting to see SOME weight lost each week. Nothing. I don't know what else to do. I am following my surgeons recomendations and taking vitamins and getting enough water. Is my pouch broken? How can I not be losing? I am getting between 500-900 calories a day. I walk 3 miles a day plus do just dance with my kids for 30 minutes everynight. Any one else have this issue? Please tell me that I didn't waste my time and that I will see my goal weight?

I am having this issue. When I was doing my pre op diet, I would lose 10-12 pounds a month. I had my surgery on 12/11/12 and I am down 30 pounds. My first post op appointment I was 274, today, almost 3 weeks later I am 266. 8 pounds in a month? Why did I do this to myself? I feel like I lost more weight before my surgery. So upset.

My surgery was December 11, 2012. I am doing pretty good. Down 10 pounds in almost a week! Woo hoo! Minimal pain, Lots of gas LOL