Debbiebydesign

Wow! Congratulations!

I will turn 44 exactly one month before my surgery. If I have known the impact I would feel now, I would have pushed through 7 years ago when I first thought about it. I might have been able to have a second child, felt confident enough to have a bigger wedding, and not been sick so much. You do it when it feels right, but I wish it was as readily available as it is now, when I was in my 20's.

I'm reading people's milestones feeling inspired...congratulations!

They use THC increase appetite and reduce nausea in cancer patients. It is an appetite stimulant. Plus, it causes what they call amotivational syndrome...lack of motivation, ambition. We used to show kids where I work a video about its side effects. According to the video it can impact male hormones and cause male breast tissue to grow and even lactate, and cause male infertility. In some rare cases, of course.

My insurance company stopped the required diet. Its cheaper to do the surgery than to treat obesity related health issues like diabetes. The surgery pays for itself in a very short time for the insurance company.

I forgot that... Peoria, IL...

I'm February 7th.

There is a condition called "Body dysmorphic disorder." They may be concerned with a late onset eating disorder developing.

Also, a common personality disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, is almost exclusively diagnosed in women (about 85% of the time it is diagnosed) and many of the traits of this disorder are similar to those of eating disorders.

Ugh! Now my @##$%^& brother approached my husband at his work and tried to discuss MY surgery with my husband. BIG mistake telling the one person in my family who has been through it and could have been source of support from the WLS patient perspective. I'm thinking I am going to have to call him and tell him to shut his pie hole!

My psych eval was casual. There were no formal tests.

The first support meeting I went to, there was a woman who was 5 or 6 years post op. She had a lot of horror stories to tell. I was happy to see her not there the next month, but now there is a guy who lost 300lbs, and is many years post op. He has taken her place, only more graphically so AND the facilitator chimes in with her hernia tale of terror. Dude, I really, really don't want to know how bad your gas smells. I guess that is what happens in these groups, in small towns.

I work in a psych facility. Occasionally, we get people who are either pre or post WLS. I have only known of one to fail the psych eval, This person had a severe personality disorder and an extensive history of self injury/mutilation. They were afraid the incision would trigger the patient's Self Injurous impulses. Much of the weight the patient carried was as a result of the use of anti psychotics and anti depressants.

I don't know about the QPI, but the MMPI, is the Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory, which is a diagnostic tool that psychologists and other agencies use to evaluate personality. Things like social interaction, body image, relationships, self image, are some basics. Personality disorders are often the result of learned, maladaptive behaviors in response to trauma, stress. Borderline Personality disorder and antisocial personalities (not to be confused with Asocial or introversion) are most commonly identified.

Congratulations!

I was adamant to keep it extremely private at first, but I started telling people after I had a date. My only regret is telling my brother who lost 227lbs with WLS. He's a condescending know it all and the second I told him he started his usual crap and I regretted telling him. Sometimes, I wish you could un-ring a bell.

People say the stupidiest stuff. And yes coming from someone in the medical field coupled with having struggles of their own you would think that it would be a person who could encourage you and give you advice' date=' not dismissing what you have done as the EASY way. Makes my blood boil. Because this isn't easy. There is not one dag gone thing easy about this. From the beginning with just checking it out and making the decision to jumping through the hoops and waiting and hoping to be approved and then preparing for the surgery. Most people who depend just on diet and exercise have already stopped and started a new diet or exercise program in the length of time it takes us to get surgery. Then there is the surgery and the recuperation and the trying to drink and eat and get Vitamins in and pain. Add in the emotional and hormonal changes. EASY. If this is easy I sure would hate to see what hard is.

And to the friend who really doesn't get it and said something so rude as I have never known you as not fat, I want to slap her. Ok stepping down from my soapbox. Big Hugs to all of us. Cause we need all the encouragement we can give each other. Because I am convinced no one understands like each of us what we are going through.[/quote']

Well said...

I told my best friend that I was gonna have surgery and her response was " I've never not seen you as a big girl. I don't know what I'm gonna think of you as not fat". Than she proceeded to tell me that when I was pregnant that I didn't look pregnant.just looked really fat

Yeah...not nice! Good Riddance.

Anyone else get a private message from a man claiming to be a contractor from the UK who was looking for a long distance relationship? I did...my reply was that I was married. Looks like his account was then promptly deleted?

The text is below. Sounds like no good to me...

Dear Love

I am brownd Richards from UK. I am an International contractor that deals with the construction of roads and bridges. I saw your profile email today and got interested in you, actually am looking for a nice woman i will love forever because i am a man that knows how to make a woman smile.

I believe in long distance relationship because it needs a lot of strength and courage. With due respect, i will like you to write to me through my email so that we can start expressing our feelings together. My id is (brownd_richards@yahoo.co.uk )

Thanks and hope to hear from you. Love from

brownd

Thank you! I have had mostly supportive reactions. I just thought this was an interesting reaction, especially coming from a psychiatrist.

So, I started telling people at work about my surgery. I tell a doctor\work friend, who also struggles with weight, and this is his reply: (Starts out awkward, ends with a bang.)

"So you are literally going to be a fraction of yourself? Good for you! I had to lose weight, but I DID IT THE HARD WAY--diet and exercise."

Seriously?! RNY is EASY?!?!?

When I first got them, I was down for 4 days, and one got me into to the ER. I had them for a year or so, right before my menses, then they stopped. Six years went by, and I had one and thought, "Oh, no, not again." Turned out I was pregnant. I was put on insulin about 3 years ago, and since then I get them at least once a week, though not as severe.

A week might seem like a long time, but I bet it is only temporary. In the meantime, congrats at what you lost already...am I reading right? 39 lbs in a month? That sounds great to me! Good Luck!

Think an elevated WBC means there is an infection somewhere. I heard it is very common for Vitamin D to be deficient in the obese. I was also low, and have been taking supplements since September.

It really hit home when they said that they were not sure anyone in the class survived and that they were kindergarten kids. I just spent yesterday afternoon with my girl's kindergarten class as a room mom...I can't imagine the level of depravity you would have to develop to look at those babies and do that...I am angry and heart sick.

Nutrasweet has never been an issue with my Migraines. Wasn't really big on sodas and the like. I had hormonal issues, causing classic migraines with aura. I went 6 years with out a Migraine, then I got pregnant. After that, they started more frequently as I became insulin dependent.

It was good. 200 little rappers screaming and chattering. Was still a little achy' date=' but ok...thank you![/quote']

Tappers that is!