Hi Tasha,
My Name is Linda I too have a family, 3 boys married 22 yrs. I am always doing for everyone else too. By the way.. our surgeries are on the same day.
I want you to think about this this way, if you don't have the surgery, what's it going to be like later in life? Obesity as you know can do soo much damage to your body. I want to be able to live to see my kids grow up and mature, meet my future grand kids, travel,... I think of this surgery as the gift that will keep on giving, not only to you but to your family too. I am sure your husband would agree.
I wish you well!