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I really like how you put that into words... I've tried talking to him about it but he doesn't budge on it. I think after we sit and talk to his dad about it (his mom almost went the surgery route but was denied by insurance) and his dad gets through to him that it's not who're giving up its about getting my life back and it's not as scary as it sounds he will be ok: he needs someone that's not me to give him a level headed opinion and since he won't come to any appointments or classes with me I think he will listen to the man he looks up t the most. I've made my decision, now I'm just waitinf for him to accept it and move forward but it seems t be much more of a deal with him than anyone I know

Today I am feeling blessed for this oppurtunity to restart my life and get healthy. My grandmother passed away in November and her weight had a ton to do with it and she was only 69. I feel like she would be proud of me taking control of my life the way she couldn't. I'm proud that I am finally putting my foot down and admitting I had a problem and my weight was not normal. And now that all my pre op doctor appointments are scheduled the surgery is starting to feel real to me now and I am so happy. I want to thank all of you for posting so many different issues and also for the support. You guys are truly amazing!

An entire support team, not hire lol

I hope so! Although at the moment i am not sure if it is goin to happen. My bf was talking about leaving because I wasnt respecting his opinion or words and I was just decidin to move forward in this without his help in dieting and exercise. But when I talked to everyone including his parents they said to do what is right for me and my health. I just don't see how he can't feel that way too. He's worried I will die because he has terrible luck, seriously, and then he will be left to care for my 4 year old son on his own. While there is always risks I have tried to explain to him all the testing I have to have done to make this as safe as possible and that once it was over with and I was back home he would feel better and that even if anything happened god forbid, he has a hire support team that would help with my son in an instant. I don't want to give up on this but I'm nowhere near giving up on our relationship. Just really sucks right now :/

It's ok to have your own opinion and it may not be wrong but she made the thread for support for her journey and if you don't support what she is doing, don't comment?

Hopefully they do mami, things were bad here too with my relationship but I think hes starting to come around. They say the surgery can help or destroy marriages and I'm kind of scared about that. I don't want there to be bad changes but I can see him getting insanely jealous that I got looks idk

Lol yeah I'm pretty terrified of the saggy arms aspect of this but I'd rather have that over being big and unhealthy. I'm also hoping age and skin elasticity is on my side and will decide to just go back to how it should have been lol. Even if it doesn't the first couple years at least if it happens I will be thrilled lol. I want to be able to fit Ina decent wedding dress and walk down that aisle feeling beautiful and not hating my body. One of those many goals I have

It's nice to get advice and insight on topics I wouldn't know where else to go. I can't wrap my head around this still. I haven't been thin since I was a little girl, I can't imagine it actually happening to me. It's still surreal

Ryan Fischer, Well if you have such a problem with people that are getting surgery to help them lose weight that they have most likely tried and failed a few dozen times, why are you on this forum? Everyone on this forum has different weight issues and the numbers make no difference here, we are here to HELP each other, not hurt one another.

I got all my next steps in the mail today, and have all the doctor appointments scheduled and the last one is September 17th! It's really happening!

And I can't find out any more information because insurance lady is gone for two days but left a message last night saying I was approved and they are sending the next steps in the mail but I want to know now! They said they're sending the diet requirements to the hospital, does this mean I will have a regular supervised diet or just pre op diet? Will surgery be soon? So many questions! Lol

I am going through insurance, united health care. And thank you!

What should I expect? What happens at the consult?

Yeah my that was the main factor my dr was worried about when I was at my consult. Whether or not I would take the need for vitamins seriously. I don't mind taking them, I just would like to not pay a ton of money for them

Oh that would be so amazing! I am a single mom who is going through school and working part time so I can't really afford much more than the daily needs.

Are the vitamins something you have to buy yourself or can they be a prescription?

Ok I finally got approved for surgery and here are my requirements: 1. Pulmonologist appt 2. Dietary instruction appt 3. Psych eval 4. Abdomen ultrasound 5. And a pre-surgical education class offered by hospital After I get my surgery date I will have to have upper GI, chest X-ray, EKG, and blood work up. And then finally I will have to have a 15 day pre op liquid diet. Lucky I didn't have to have supervised diet

I don't think work needs to know the details, well my job anyways. Im sure they'll figure it out I guess I don't know. If they ask I'll talk about it but it's not something I feel comfortable just talking to them about. Let's see, people I've told so far. I told my mom and dad, very supportive. My sister, who is thinking about the surgery herself. My boyfriend, who is finally starting to come around: doesn't approve of it but says he will support me. And two of my best friends.

Ah ok well that's a lot better than I expected lol. My surgical doctor is a little over an hour away so if I had the chance to get most everything done before at my pcp that's great! Sucks about the psych eval but If I have to wait that long I think it'll be ok. I was hoping to have it done later around Xmas time so I didn't have to miss school and I get a pretty nice bonus from work at the end of the year that would have helped me being out of work for 3 weeks and I don't get vacation time

How long did it take to get those all done?

That's awesome so you're almost there I haven't had any testing done yet I just had my obesity evaluation/consult. That's kinda why I wanna know what else I have to do so I can schedule everything!

I think I still have a while too, I've been researching/started this journey to this decision since march. I'm looking forward to it!

Hahaha dear lord. Yeah my bf always jokes about me leaving him for someone else and I just tell him don't be an asshole and I won't leave? Lol we're an odd couple, I love him to death but he frustrates the hell out of me. Also yeah he doesn't like the thought of me getting a massage by a man because it's too much and nobody should touch me like that. Very overprotective. I want to lose weight for me because I'm unhappy with my body. Although I think I had a breakthrough tonight and he said to me that he knows the surgery is most likely happening. BUT after that he said he would be there and support me because he'd be worried and still loves me whatever I decide to do. I think things will get a little better, or it might just have been a late night and was jut saying it. Either way I'm so happy insurance approved!

Exactly mami! I don't get them! On the plus side my insurance approved! Got the call 20 minutes ago! Sending next steps and diet to hospital )))))))

The organic health freak is nice and all but not if you've lived your life outside of all of that. My boyfriend has trouble gainin weight and is the most unhealthy person I know. His eating habits are worse than mine but I have a problem with portions because I never feel full until I'm literally stuffed. He can go days not eating or eat processed stuff all meals, drink mountain dew, beer, and eat frozen pizzas like no tomorrow and not gain anything. Then get on my case and say I should be following a diet and exercise plan if I want to lose weight. He doesn't see a problem with my weight because as long as he's known me I've been overweight and now I'm around 300 and he doesn't see it. It's like he's blind to it I don't get it. I did however get the papers today saying that insurance will cover me and I'm eligible for the surgery. It said something about payment not being guaranteed though? What's up with that??