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Please understand that we all process this differently. I remember my hubby and I going out for what I considered my last meal forever. Well 2 years later I can tell you that was not my last meal ever. I eat normal everyday food now. He will be able to eat things again, but it will take a while. He will have to learn to be at peace and harmony with his new pouch. It will take him to places he does not expect. Both good and bad places. You learn so much about who you are during this process. As a spouse you too are going to have challenges. It will be hard when he just wants to eat a piece of pizza, and his brain is screaming for it not to give in. It will be hard seeing him missing his best friend and not be able to make that better. You will have to help him discover new best friends like exercise! Best advise I can give you is keep the lines of communication open and honest. Have heart to heart talks with him and really listen to what he says. Good luck!!

In my 11 years of marriage I have learned that there are only certain places to have those conversations. For example sitting in the house and having those types of conversations don't work for us. He stares at the tv and has a look that he hopes it magically will come on and save him from talking. So I have learned that we either go For a drive in a car (make sure you are driving), go for a walk in a park where you would be able to sit and talk on a bench, or go out to eat. Make sure you also listen to what he is saying and not saying. It can be really tough for a man to talk about issues with his penis and not performing in bed. Finally keep in mind men and women are different. We want to talk about our feelings and many men just want to forget it ever happened. You two must find your happy compromise.

I realized early on fighting and stressing about the scale was not worth my time so I found something that was. I suggest going to goodwill or thrift shops. You will not be in the size very long and it can get expensive quickly. I discovered that I have a shopping addiction. I can still remember picking up a pair of 10 pants trying them on a realizing I was now a size 6. Talk about a happy dance in the dressing room!!

Just relax and stop worrying about it. The weight will come off when your body is ready. You body is still in the what the hell did you just do to me mode. Sometimes increasing calories helps and protein. Just stick to your doctors plan and the weight will come off - I promise!

It the beginning usually a few bites let's you know it was a bad idea. This is the best time to get to know your pouch! Learn her likes and dislikes and how she operates. Also just because she does not like something today in a few months it might be different.

It is normal to go up a few pounds here and there. You will lose them! There are several reasons we gain a little weight - water retention, that special time of the month.

Not sure how far post op you are, but remember that your body is still healing. It will take several months to have the full feeling as your nerves are trying to heal. It could also be your brain. Our brains are sneaky little devils sometimes especially when it does not get its way. Drink some water and go for a long walk. If you still feel hungry then eat something small with protein.

Are you exercising? Usually when we hit stalls on the scale we lose inches. So I always welcomed my scale stalls - it meant I could go shopping soon!!

Just so you know now you will have a moment if regret on the flip side. It is 100% normal. It usually hits about 3-4 weeks in. Our bodies are flooded with hormones and all we want to eat is a burger or pizza. At 3-4 weeks you might still be on liquids or purée, and it is at this time you will regret the decision. However you will see the weight loss and realize it was all worth it. Especially when you go shopping for new clothes!

I have fallen in love with cycling. Training for my first triathlon and the cycling part has become my favorite.

I am 34 and 2 years post op from RNY. I am married, and we have 4 legged kids. My starting weight was 256 and currently I weight about 135. Loose skin depends on so many factors: age, genetics, how much you have to lose, and exercise. I have loose skin in my tummy, boobs and a little in my arms. My loose skin in the tummy seems to be getting a little better as I concentrate on that area during my strength training. As for my arms and boobs they are bothersome to me. My boobs hang down low and the loose skin for my arms is around the armpit area. I honestly think it goes hand and hand with the loose skin around my boobs. I think my arms would have been worse if I had not worked on them so much during strength training in the gym. I still have my stretch marks around my boobs and tummy, but they are slowly fading away. I am thinking about plastic surgery. I mainly want a breast reduction to ease upper back pain. Although I am a happily married woman I have enjoyed being noticed by men more now that I am skinner. I have become much more outgoing and confident since my surgery. You will learn a lot about yourself in the coming months. All your dreams are possible!! Set goals that do not include the scale. When you reach a goal think of another one. You will be amazed at what you can do!!

Follow your doctors plan, and it will work. Learn your new body and stay active have been the two things that have kept my weight off. You will love your new life!

You are healing and more than likely retaining water. Make sure you drink more water to help flush the system! Don't weigh yourself everyday either it will help you see the loss!

The funny thing is we really do not have as much control as people think. I had RNY and our bodies figure out where they want to be. Mine decided 130-140 is where it is comfortable. People keep saying I am losing weight, but it is the reshaping of my body that is taking place. As we workout we lose inches, and gain muscle.

I am training for my first tri as well. Mine will be oct 19th. I am so excited and ready to go! Congrats!

I have had bad gas for 2 years post op. Nothing dietary seems to help. I should have bought stick in gas x before starting this journey with the amount I buy now. I also buy devrom which helps with the smell. My husband does not allow me to run out of those.

After 125lbs lost I only lost 2 cup sizes. I went from an F to a D. However the girls look deflated. I am looking now into breast reduction. I have been very very active since surgery, so I honestly think it is just luck of the draw.

Kidney stones can be common after surgery. Go get it checked out. I just had surgery to break up an imbedded stone in the kidney.

Go see your doctor. It is not normal and they can give you medication to help. You might have a stricture.

I wrote my goals down and kept it in a place where I could always see them. When I achieved one I crossed it off and thought of another. My goals looked something like this: 1. Being able to clean personal areas without problems. Achieved 2. Play soccer without pain. Achieved 3. Reduce my daily medication. Still working on it 4. Pass the physical fitness test for the police department. Achieved 5. Compete in a triathlon - race day is October 19. Dream big!! Everything is possible. The reason you are having issues seeing you goals or inspiration is that as we dieted we always gained it back. Our achievements were overshadowed by our failures. It is scary to dream when in the past those dreams are shattered. Goal 1 for me was an easy goal to achieve and then it is a snowball effect. I would think to myself I wonder if I can..... Then I realized nothing was standing in my way. I am two years post op and have not gained anything back. I am training so much right now, my inspiration comes from being able to say yes I did it. Just sit down one day and write what you want to do-when you are skinnier. Try to stay away from size related goals. I was to for into...... For example. I hope that help.

That is just part of your new life. I still get really excited about things as well. It is just like a toddler discovering new things in life. You and your new stomach are discovering new things. Celebrate every milestone you want no matter how big or small. Your friends will start to see the new you and be happy for you!

I think it is different for everyone, because of the amounts of weight we have to lose. Remember when you lose weight your fat cells release hormones. As they release hormones we become emotional! I remember being emotional for several months as my body really got the hang of things. The first month was the hardest and it tapered off after that.

I use liquid egg whites to add protein to my drinks. You need to make sure you get double pasteurized egg whites. I don't taste a difference, but some people can not get over the idea of drinking eggs. Each pump is 3.3 grams of protein.

It's hard for me too go I get depressed and result to enemas at this point I'm wondering if I made a mistake guys don't cry but this one often does at times I hate life and pray it gets better I'm one month out and the only reason I continue is my family if not for them I would just give up I know things would get better we'll I pray they do I love food ,however at this point it hates me sometimes I feel alone in this ,however my wife has always been there for me and some time I feel she would be better off without me I'm ready for God to take me however it's his choice where not sure how long I'm going to last but I will not let my son and wife be without me there the only reason I am fighting the urge to go on so plz help with some support God knows I need it and yes I'm to shy to attend support meetings in person perhaps life might be easier without me at times I feel my family would be better off then I relizecmy son looking at me and my struggles and I want cc him to be a fighter even when things go wrong so I'll do wat I need to be their for him and my wife however I know it won't be easy thanks for reading. Richard,You are 110% normal right now. He is a break down of the stages I went through. Stage :1 - what the hell did I do - all I want is a damn slice of pizza. 2 - first stall - usually hits around the first month - people usually freak out a little during this stage. No it does not mean you have failedNo it does not mean you are done losing weightNo it does not mean you are a failure3 - what the hell did I do stage - again4 - stage 3 is closely followed by raging hormones. You feel like you are a pubescent teenager. Crying at everything and feeling in the mood for a little "fun" ten minutes later. Please be careful during this stage as we become very fertile. 5 - finally hit your groove. Once you survive all those stages in the first 6 weeks you realize you got this and can get through everything! I am 2 years post op and trust me this journey is worth every struggle, hard time, nauseous, throwing up day that you go through. I have my life back. Food no longer controls my every waking hour. I love life right now, and wished I had done this many years ago. Finally talk to your wife. Tell her your feelings and thoughts and worries. She loves you and is there in your corner fighting next to you. If you ever have questions you can also send me a personal message. Keep your chin up and keep fighting!!!

I have found this to be the new me. Bless my hubby - the man really loves me because some of the smells that come out of me could clear rooms. I have found a wonderful pill called Devrom that helps with the smell!