Telecia

Because he is or at least was a huge part of your life. Probably for a long time not only spouse but best friend, cohort, lover etc. Part of it could be the fact that the relationship has failed. Fear of the future. Fear of being alone. I know I stayed in a serious unhappy relationship for 13 years, he was a cheater and emotionally abusive. I stayed for the kids, I stayed cause of the $$, I stayed cause I refused to give up on my marriage, I stayed out of FEAR of change, the future and being alone. He was such a BAD cheater he invited his lover out with us on the evening of our wedding aniversary and I didn't realize it cause his lover was also his BEST MAN. Now after 8 years with my current BF I am GLAD I got out. I am much happier, kids are much happier. And while I havent even had my surgery yet and have no clue if our relationship will make it though that when it gets here. I know how hard it can be to make such a drastic decision. And if thats what you decide you have to do you can make it through and come out ahead.

Thing is he may actually want to lose weight. But doesn't want to put the actual effort into doing it. Which is why the shoveling of food in his mouth but avoiding sugar thing. As long as he is avoiding something he has himself fooled into thinking he is doing something constructive without actually giving up enough to actually lose weight. I think its actually a form of denial. Reason I say this is, I go through the same thing with my boyfriend, but only not for weight loss. For diabetes. But honestly it could be either. lol He went to the nutrition classes with me he is also diabetic. But he REFUSES to monitor his sugar levels, or avoid the foods he is suposed to. I am forever finding wrappers/packages etc. or hes forever bring home a small bag of Cookies, crackers etc. always high carb items. But yet if I bring it up he tends to point out the fact that he is allowed 1 carb more two meals of the day then I am allowed to have. But yet complains about his nerve pain and other side effects of his uncontroled diabetes. He will take his daily meds but that is as far as he is willing to go to control the disease. Doc says its denial. But man If my boyfriend only spent 10 minutes with me at the hosptial after I had surgery and it wasn't because he had to work. I'd be kicking his ass all over the neighborhood. Definatly time for councling

As dangerous as sleep apnea can be to your body I would seriously question a doctor that said NOT to use it??? Does he/she not seem to understand that sleep apnea means you STOP breathing?!? Which means your bodys organs start taking damage just like if someone was strangulating you? Granted SOMETIMES air can get into your stomach. But that is usually when your pressure settings are to high. The fact that apnea worsens so many health issues that its not funny, makes your risk for strokes and heart attak higher, has now been shown to be a signifigant factor in people who find losing weight difficult. They are finding out now that apnea is linked with many issues like diabetes, fybrmyalgia, depression and MORE. An article that explains it much better than I can. www.cpaptalk.com • Our Collective Wisdom As a 13+ year CPAP user, I can say ANYONE can get used to living with a CPAP machine. But you have to want to. Just like getting serious about weight loss you have to BE SERIOUS about tackling your sleep apnea. If your doctor perscribes a treatment/pill/therapy for some issue you have, you do it right? No difference. If you can't handle that mask. *Gasp* Try another one! There are litterly hundreds of makes & models of masks out there.What works for one person wont work with another. As our faces, skin etc are all different. Get with your DME and raise the roof enough that they help you work out finind the right mask for you. They wont tell you that you CAN try several masks cause they dont make money that way. Join a good forum and see what many other CPAPers have tried and found ways of making life with CPAP more bearable. My favorite ones is cpaptalk.com

sooo many things we don't realize that can effect our smells. Having just recovered from having a 10 centimeter wound close I noticed I had developed what I called a wound smell. When I had to wear the wound VAC it wasn't real noticable but the last 2 weeks without the VAC it was VERY noticable to me and my family despite daily bathing. And the smell lingered for like 2 weeks AFTER the silly thing was sealed and no longer needed bandaging. Doc said that it was normal to have a scent change and that everything we eat or drink causes effects in our smells. And told me not to worry about it keep the wound clean and it would resolve. And it did. Everything from the foods we eat (Course everyone knows onions/garlic) to the Vitamins & Medicines we take can change our smells. Certainly the ketosis caused by weight loss would do it cause the body is *Burning* off more fat cells retain allot of junk in them hormones/medicines etc. So the body going into super fat burning mode has an increased ammounts of *crap* in the system it makes sense that a portion of the gunk might be excreted in sweat/skin pores.

I tried to breastfeed all mine. But I only managed successfully with my middle one. My daughter. My oldest son I had a very backwards kind of doctor. he didnt do ultrasounds, and didnt have a problem with me gaining almost 100 lbs!! And I found out after my son was born he was TOTALLY against breastfeeding. Only manged 6 weeks with him. Mainly because I had noone to talk to for advice about it. I ended up putting eldest on the bottle out of pain and frustration. So when pregnant with my daughter I had access to breastfeeding classes and books and the net. Thank heavens the doc had since retired cause when I learned in the breastfeeding classes that the whole reason I had suffered pain and scaring was simply because my son wasn't getting enough of the nipple in his mouth for it to work right. I would have litterly kicked that doctors ass. Boy was I pissed. DD nursed just fine for 10 months almost to the day. I used to sit in the backseat of the car with her so she could nurse without being removed from her carseat!! Never had any issues feeding her in public but I always used at blanket. Only problem we had with her was not being able to leave h er with anyone because she REFUSED to take anything even breastmilk from any other source but me. lol. we tried sippy cups, spoon, bottles of every shape and size, even an eyedropper. All no go. Even if it was me trying to give her breastmilk didnt matter. At the 10 month mark I take her to her ped and they recommend starting apple juice. And that night was the last time she nursed period!! Once she tried juice she then refused the breast.!!! LOL Much to my dismay. Thank the stars for hot showers and breast pumps!! Talk about a painfull weaning. But she refused anything but her juice bottles from that point on. Which really caused allot of concern since only juice isnt good for a child. we ended up finding a mix of formula and juice that she would finally tollerate some and was suplimented with liquid Vitamins on top of it all. youngest I wanted to breastfeed but couldnt since all the complications we had. He and I were seperate hosptials, and got out way before I did. I demanded a breast pump and tried using it. but had little luck. After 2 weeks of struggling with the pump I gave up. Very frustrated. I was extremly upset to find out (AFTER I got home) That I had M.R.S.A and would have never been allowed to give my son breastmilk anyhow. Had I known this from the begining I wouldnt have spent so much effort in getting results with the pump. all 3 had issues with ear infections etc as kids, but when it comes to the #'s of colds/ear/sniffles they had it seems to me that the oldest had the most and the youngest the least. However I think much of that also comes down to the fact that you learn enough with each progressive child that you don't tend to react as much as you might have with the first child. Bah that doesn't sound right. lol hopefully you can get what I mean.

Been there done that. All I can say on the matter is be open and honest with your partner from the start, And set rules. My ex talked me into threesomes and more and I was dumb enough to get talked/tricked into it. While the actual sex was good many times the reasons behind it sucked and were deceptive. The ex wanted to swing because he was in the closet gay and wanted to get me used to the idea of him having sex with guys. Needless to say we seperated in 2000 after 13 years together. However I think if a couple is TOTALLY honest with each other and set rules and limits it can be done successfully. But both have to be willing and the reasoning behind the desire totally understood and accepted.

Oh awesome!! Crossing my fingers for you that no more troubles arrise for ya!!

I am sorta glad to be home. 14 days in the hospital I was dying to get home now I am wondering if it was wise to come home now. Ok to fill you in on the whats and whys. I went in on sept 5th for my second heart cath. And to have 2 more stints inserted. That part went fine. But somewhere in the recovery of that things went all wrong, and I started bleeding internally. They tried direct pressure which didn't work and I ended up being rushed into surgery to stop the bleeding of my artery in the groin, needing 5 units of blood and they had to drain a gallon sized hematoma(Pocket of blood).I got 2 more units of blood 4 days before I was released also for a total of 7. So now I have a wound in my groin that din't close right, on the 5th day after surgery when the doc pulled the staples it opened back up and gushed out about a liter of fluid. Which started wound packing. After 3-4 days of packing it with gauze etc twice a day they put a wound vac on me. Which isn't so bad. or wasn't while I was in the hospital at least. Now that I am home its frekking annoying. They only change it every other day so a nurse comes in on monday, wensday and friday to change it. Here it is thursday and its starting to leak a bit. And I really have no way of fixing it myself. Marv might be coerced to help find the leak and put more film over it but he would be extreemly squeemish I know. Being in my groin I can't see it myself, not sure I could handle it either. I guess its pretty deep. I can call my sister in law if worse gets to worse. I just hope I don't have to. Anyhow they didn't send me home with any pain meds so sleeping much is not much of an option. I Have a call put in to the doctros office for pain meds but they are taking their time in replying. Plus they can't call in the same meds I was on in the hosptial. I would have to make the hour long drive to go pick it up. So the nurse is gonna try and get me something else. I can sleep for a couple hours at a stretch but not for anylonger since moving around is somwhat difficult and painfull. So of course my daughter has to get sick right now. I did manage 3-4 hours sleep today and ended up sleeping to late to get her into her doctors today so gotta try again tommorow for her. I think she has a yeast infection but let the doctor check lol. So thats where I have been and what ive been up to for the last few weeks..

I am sorta glad to be home. 14 days in the hospital I was dying to get home now I am wondering if it was wise to come home now. Ok to fill you in on the whats and whys. I went in on sept 5th for my second heart cath. And to have 2 more stints inserted. That part went fine. But somewhere in the recovery of that things went all wrong, and I started bleeding internally. They tried direct pressure which didn't work and I ended up being rushed into surgery to stop the bleeding of my artery in the groin, needing 5 units of blood and they had to drain a gallon sized hematoma(Pocket of blood).I got 2 more units of blood 4 days before I was released also for a total of 7. So now I have a wound in my groin that din't close right, on the 5th day after surgery when the doc pulled the staples it opened back up and gushed out about a liter of fluid. Which started wound packing. After 3-4 days of packing it with gauze etc twice a day they put a wound vac on me. Which isn't so bad. or wasn't while I was in the hospital at least. Now that I am home its frekking annoying. They only change it every other day so a nurse comes in on monday, wensday and friday to change it. Here it is thursday and its starting to leak a bit. And I really have no way of fixing it myself. Marv might be coerced to help find the leak and put more film over it but he would be extreemly squeemish I know. Being in my groin I can't see it myself, not sure I could handle it either. I guess its pretty deep. I can call my sister in law if worse gets to worse. I just hope I don't have to. Anyhow they didn't send me home with any pain meds so sleeping much is not much of an option. I Have a call put in to the doctros office for pain meds but they are taking their time in replying. Plus they can't call in the same meds I was on in the hosptial. I would have to make the hour long drive to go pick it up. So the nurse is gonna try and get me something else. I can sleep for a couple hours at a stretch but not for anylonger since moving around is somwhat difficult and painfull. So of course my daughter has to get sick right now. I did manage 3-4 hours sleep today and ended up sleeping to late to get her into her doctors today so gotta try again tommorow for her. I think she has a yeast infection but let the doctor check lol. So thats where I have been and what ive been up to for the last few weeks..:rolleyes2:

You can get chicken breasts (Boneless/skinless) that have chicken broth added to them that will not cook up dry at all. I have seen them at Meijer, Kroger and Aldie's (In the US) they aren't packaged like your usual meats they usually come in large ziplock(resealable) bags. and have 6-8 pieces in them. Not sure if you can find the broth added in the meat counter but it sure would be work looking or asking about.

sooo many things it could be caused by, allergies to meds, over the counter products, diet. Its time to take a close look at what you are doing differently the last 2 weeks and see where the change has taken place. seeing a dermatoligist or at least a doctor would be wise also.

for me on my legs it lasts 1-2 weeks but I dont have heavy hair on my legs either. And for me also the hair grows back in much softer then shaving. 13 years ago I was told NEVER again should I use razors on my legs because of my cellulitius/M.R.S.A./Diabetes issues. So I started looking for alternitives. And I never need multiple applications with the magic cream either. Something I always seemed to have to do with most other creams.