I don't know if this will help, but I have noticed the only people that compliment me are the ones that are happy with themselves. All the heavy people in my family have never said one nice thing about the surgery, but all the thin ones just rant and rave of how great I look. So, no, it's not you, it's them. Hang in there! I think you have done a great job....I think we all have by doing this. This was not the easiest thing to have done, nor the fastest.