LindafromFlorida

I am so sorry Alicia. You must be suffering terribly right now. I commend you for going forward now to reclaim your life. It is time for you to get healthier, the reason we all want this surgery. God Bless, Linda

Yes, Ginger was recommended to me too. I buy small jars and add a little to my salad.

Thanks to Bariatric Pal we all can share this great information. I am amazed at the knowledge and help we can get here.

Roo, I will bet you never sat down and shared all your feelings and what happened, like you did here. Life does go on, but all these memories are jumbled in our head and it does help to talk about it. You went through so much, and your Mom too. I cannot imagine how hard it was taking in the children like you did. There is a place in heaven reserved for special people like you, in my opinion. Your Mom raised a great daughter, and her legacy will live on through your daughter. God Bless and thanks for sharing with us. I think grief probably got a lot of us some added pounds. We all have similar stories, don't we? Linda

Linda, I was reading through the internet about possibilities other than NSAIDs and saw Tumeric. This sounds like a wonderful herb and what I would try if I began feeling pain again. I checked out the Vitamin section in Walmart yesterday and found them in capsule form there for $6.98 for 90 capsules. Suggested dose is 1 per day. This sounds like it's a great alternative. Looks like I will be looking more at herbal for the future. From what I read on tumeric, says it can take up to a week for results to be felt. Of course that's what it took for the NSAIDs also. Worth a shot. Brian, I agree. I Think of all the years I gulped Advil, Coriciden, and Excedrin like candy. My husband is diabetic and would suffer a headache and never take meds. He worries about the long term effect on his kidneys. We should all try more natural remedies. I also googled Tumeric and read about the benefits. I was told to use it on the table as I would salt and pepper. So, my little container of Tumeric is always handy. Good luck!

I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. That must have been devastating for you. I cant relate to losing a child but im no stranger to loss. Im 28 y/o and already had to deal with more loss and disasters then most people see in their entire life. My father died in a car accident before i was born, my grandmother of a stroke (drank herself to it) when i was 12, my uncle at 13 (heart attack), my other uncle at 14 (hypothermia), at 16 my step father lost all but 3 of his fingers in a work accident and i had to help my mom take care of him, I started taking care of my mom at age 22 when she was in a car accident that left her unable to work and her husband divorced her because he didn't want to take care of her (yep, after she quit her job to take care of him from his accident), At 23 my mom had a heart attack requiring surgery(lived). At 24 my husbands grandfather passed away from brain cancer, and that same week i found out my mom had breast cancer. She had double mastectomy with one side getting infected and opening up (about the size of my fist) and a 6 month recovery. This caused her to be unable to have chemo or radiation. After she healed she started the journey of reconstruction but unfortunately after the expanders were put in she developed MRSA in one side and then a week later the other side (both had to be taken out and she was hospitalized). Then she developed it again in her hand and shoulder (hospitalized again). She went home with IV antibiotics (that i cared for). She progressively got more sick and on my 25th birthday she was hospitalized with a rare condition called steven johnsons syndrome (severe allergic reaction that causes the body to burn from the inside out).She was hospitalized again (sad thing is i cant remember why now) and missed the baby shower for my first(only) child. I had a complicated childbirth (emergency c-section) with a complicated recovery (pre-eclamsia AFTER). When my son was 5mo my mom had another heart attack requiring surgery (a rare reaction from the sjs that caused the original stent to be overgrown with tissue). My Uncle passed away soon after. My mom remained pretty healthy after that but i progressively got sicker. My aunt passed away (drugs and alcohol caused her liver to fail). I lost my job (the department was dissolved) a month after i bought my first home (thankfully got a new job right away). A year long journey led my doctors to discovering I have a severe immune deficiency. I ended up getting sick for about 2 months that was finally diagnosed by my immunologist as pertussis. A week later (Jan) my mom was hospitalized with pneumonia (she came home with oxygen). Unfortunately after that (and many tests) it was discovered her breast cancer had come back and metastasized to her lymph nodes and pleura (lining of lungs). Its stage 4 and terminal. Theres no cure but she started chemo with the thought to prolong her life . She was hospitalized again with pneumonia that required multiple chest tube placements. She resumed her chemo which she did pretty well on with symptom reactions but bad on with others (her potassium and anemia levls kept dropping causing her to be extremely lethargic). last month her WBC droped really low and she got sick. When i checked her O2 and saw it was really low i insisted on bringing her to the ER (she's stubborn and hates going). They said it was good because 6-12 more hours and she would have been septic. They admitted her again but her o2 wouldn't stabilize. I get a call at work the next day and im told there transferring her to ICU and intubating her. She was intubated (and essentially in a coma) for 2 weeks She had strep pneumonia, strep in her urine, influenza, and fungal empyema . On 4th of july they released her to come home and she has been weak ever since. I have been her caring for her but she isn't getting better. She still cant stand from the toilet, cant care for herself, she barely eats, and she keeps getting a cough. She has lost 70lbs since Jan. Yesterday we had the follow up oncologist appointment and he told us because of her condition it wouldn't be wise to re-start chemo. He said that if they did she had an extremely high chance of catching another illness and dieing. Without chemo she has less than 6 months to live (he said with her condition now its more like a few months). so were in a crossroads of what to do. Risk chemo (which she was pretty much like a zombie on most days) and hope she doesn't catch anything (extremely hard with me having an immune deficiency and always getting sick) OR let the cancer kill her. Im struggling with the thought that i will be 28 y/o without any parents. My mom is my best friend and the thought of losing her kills me. I keep thinking about how close she is to my 2 y/o son and how he's going to grow up and not remember her or how significant she was in his life. And she will never know any other children i have. She has taught my son SO much, i just cant imagine her not being there to teach my future children. OMG im so sorry for spilling my life story. I know this is probably more then anyone wanted to know, but as its 4am and im unable to sleep its really helpful to get it all out of my head. Sorry for the TMI but thank you for the place to get it out. Snowkitten, you have a lot on your plate right now. Sometimes it helps, just being able to tell someone, even strangers. There are a lot of wonderful, caring people here and you will make friends and be able to share the anguish you are going through. I am truly sad about your dear Mother. I am proud of your decision to have WLS so that you can live a good life for your 2 year old son. He needs you around for a long time. (((Big HUG)))

He would be so proud of you. We teach others here by sharing, and this lesson is to live every day to the fullest. Life is short.

This beautiful group of WLS people is currently helping me as I navigate the sadness and uncertainty of divorce. Your post hit me, especially about ALS. My dad died at age 60 from ALS. I lost my dear aunt at 60 from lymphoma. She was my personal champion, a close friend and loved me unconditionally all of my life. I miss these two people so much right now. All I can do is take care of myself the best I can and not turn back to the food. Thanks for this post. Divorce is another "death". It is the death of a marriage. It is a painful process. I am still friends with my first ex I was married to 20 years. The second ex of 4 years I am lucky to have survived. The current husband of 20 years is the dessert, and proves to me it was all worth the pain I went through. There is HOPE for you and everyone else going through divorce, I promise. I hope one day they find the cause of ALS, and a cure. It is horrible. I have a friend who was diagnosed with lymphoma at 25. She is 35 now. Another dreadful condition. I am so sorry for your losses. Life is so not fair sometimes.

MSMIMI and AMBIEAMBS, I am so sorry for your losses. I know my dear Grandmother was a driving force in my life, as well as other relatives. My Grandmother died 30 years ago. I still think of her so much.

Wendy I am familiar with this. I have two loved ones this happened to. It is so tragic. Your little AJ will live on forever in your heart. God Bless, Wendy.

Kindle, I am so sorry you lost your dear brother. I can relate to everything you said. My son too was a "troubled soul". I know they both have found peace.

Honey, it might be our destiny but thank God for VSG because it will change our destiny. It will only get worse if you wait. God Bless and good luck.

I am so sorry for all this. Just so sorry.

Another Jackass!

I am so sorry Knit. I lost my dad to lung cancer, spread to the pelvis. 18 months he went from 200 lbs. to 89 lbs. I said after watching his suffering that I wish anyone the peace of knowing their loved one did not suffer.

Sharpie, dear Sharpie. I feel the "I aged ,,,,,". I told my son's girlfriends Mother with a VENGEANCE please BEWARE she might hurt herself. One month later I went to sign papers at the funeral home for my son's headstone and there was his girlfriend's funeral notice. Screaming is an understatement. God Bless. This sure is off topic for weight loss surgery but I read and understand pain here.

Thank you honey. I have learned to smile and cope. I count my blessings. I truly do. Losing weight has helped me have a better life and outlook.

Grief takes a toll on us Sweetheart. I am so sorry for the loss of your sister, your nearly twin, and your dear Mother. We do go on but a part of us is gone. My tears do not stop either and tonight prompted me to post this thread. God Bless.

I am SO sorry. That must have been the worst period of your life. Hugs to you dear Jomamacita7. My heart goes out to you.

Aaaaah Wires, we do understand. Hug those babies. Death and loss of loved ones affect us terribly. Please know I am here if you need a shoulder. Hugs honey!

Amanda, I get this. No one is worth it. Is there another doctor perhaps that understands?

Let us know tomorrow how things are going, please little friend!

Thank you Alex. My surgeon, his staff and the NUT were not there for us after surgery (they were great before surgery). Bariatric Pal was a life saver, thanks to you.

Try liquid vitamins!

Thank God we can moan and groan and whine and whine and everyone here gets it! Nowhere else can we find this support!