LAPBANDMAMA

:help:Our daughter is considering lap band. She has her 1st appt with the surgeon tomorrow. She's so unhappy being so big (size 16 or better) but is terrified of surgery. What can I tell her to ease her mind?

And, how great that you had the courage to save your life! I'm in awe of the folks that we've met attending the seminars. They have been so kind and helpful. Are there any groups - on line or off - for young women her age?

She will be 21 on August 2nd. She will be a senior in college this fall and will graduate in the spring and go on to grad school after that. She has battled her weight all of her life but really got heavy when she went away to school. There are health issues as well as size issues. I am a breast cancer survivor which puts her at high risk. All of the extra fat puts excess estrogen into her system. Diabetes runs in the family - both type one and two as well as high blood pressure and heart disease. I've also had my colon & spleen removed so dietary issues are not new to us. She is scared because she's never had surgery before and also because she's seen me go through some pretty hairy operations. I don't know how to calm her fears about "going under". Luckily, a good friend is going with her - she's a newly graduated nurse. I'm hoping that will help.