She will be 21 on August 2nd. She will be a senior in college this fall and will graduate in the spring and go on to grad school after that. She has battled her weight all of her life but really got heavy when she went away to school. There are health issues as well as size issues. I am a breast cancer survivor which puts her at high risk. All of the extra fat puts excess estrogen into her system. Diabetes runs in the family - both type one and two as well as high blood pressure and heart disease. I've also had my colon & spleen removed so dietary issues are not new to us. She is scared because she's never had surgery before and also because she's seen me go through some pretty hairy operations. I don't know how to calm her fears about "going under". Luckily, a good friend is going with her - she's a newly graduated nurse. I'm hoping that will help.