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Is that what that smiley face is doing? I thought it was just looking up and down. And actually my comment was not directed at you. No worries. we all have our options which is fine. I just wanted to be clear i was not asking for advice merely a question.

Appreciate the feedback. But if i do recall i was asking a question and not for advice. Just saying..

I'm so thankful for this site. It proves i am not alone in my thinking. Morning and missing FOOD was my set back too. From what i've been reading it does happen. But i guess its like anything else you have to work at it and retrain your way of thinking. I'd rather eat a handfull of food a day then take 6 pills a day. I only shared my choice for this surgery with two people in my office. I already told them if anyone finds out i'm faulting both of them. Which they know i'm crazy so i'm not worried with them telling. I have no desire to share or explain this with only else. They will just have to witness the transformation. And being the Diva I am they betta watch out.....(saying that made me feel better too lol) Good topic.

2 big good point which is why we have lasted this long. 12 years is a long time saying the same thing. The good does out weight the bad. This was my rant for today. Thanks

Thank you Jashantee and Shoopaie for replying. Let me clarify myself a bit. My husband does not have a weight problem. I'm sooo disgusted with him my post was not in pure clarity. We both work and I'm also a full time student. We have a set of 11 year old girl twins. I'm affectionate love attention and i give the same. When he does get affetionate and show me attention i feel like its because i've been complaining for so long its like a shut me up gesture. Any concerts or trips i have to plan them. If i dont the days and weeks will go by and before you know it 12 years have been put in. I'm outgoing he is not. I'm social he is not. Why I married him is because i truly love him and hes the smartest man (besides my daddy) I know. In my head i know how i want to feel by a man. When i watch tv or movies i'm always left with the thought damn i wish my man would do that for me. Shoopai were right when you said the issues go deeper. But what i'm struggling to rationalize with myself will i act like a fool once i get that attention else where? I don't know. I just wanted to throw this thought out there today. Hopefully with time, prayer, and counceling things will get better with us.