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CeCe I am so sorry for you. Your H (dropped the D) is not being supportive in the way you need it right now. I always try to look for other reasons, so maybe he's scared for you and doesn't know how to express that. Men are all screwed up with their emotions. Maybe waiting there would make him too worried. If not, then he just not the sensitive type. If he was my DH, I would tell him... this is what I need from you. Sometimes I expect him to know what I need or want, and he then reminds me that he can't read my mind. So when it's important I tell him very plainly and clearly. As an example, on the way home from the surgery, I was supposed to drink Water slowly (1oz per hour). I was drinking it faster than that, but not much. He started to tell me I need to drink more water to stay hydrated. I told him "Honey, please understand. I know what my eating instructions are. So for the next few weeks, please refrain from telling me what I should do, what I should or should not eat. I've done my homework, you haven't. I know you want me to be well, so please support me in this area." That's all it took. I've got my fingers crossed for you today. It will go fine, and hopefully you man can find his way to being more supportive.

Sarah was already asleep when we came home. Jesse was still awake. My 17 year old niece was watching them for us. When I walked in he saw me and said "You all ok?" I said I was good. He said "No owie?" I said, yes, I've got 5. He said "cool, can I see", so I showed him. He then said "I kiss you. No squeezy hug". I think he understands. This morning I got up at 7 to have a drink of juice and he asked me again if I was feeling ok. My daughter was still sleeping, then I went back to bed and didn't wake up until my DH had left to take them to daycare. He's at work right now, so I have the place to myself.

Yeah, I slept relatively well. Got up twice to drink some water, move around and reposition, but otherwise, I slept good. I hope we hear for Sunny soon. I think she said she was going to be spending the night... so hopefully later today.

Morning everyone. I feel great! I slept really well, with my "pillow mountain" as my DH calls it. Under my knees, on each side and under my head. Woke up with a little soreness in my abdoman, but nothing really too bad. I took some tylonal last night and this morning, but not the persription meds they gave me (demerol). I hate how that stuff makes me feel, so thought I would just take some tylonal. Ok a bit of TMI comming... I had my first BM just a few minutes ago. I honestly didn't think that would happen for a few days. In the past when I had my gall bladder out, I couldn't for about 4 days. This one came just as normally as it would. So far, so good. I must say thanks to the Dr. as he must have done a great job!!

Ok, so now that I've caught up... here's my surgery run down. As you know, I was pretty frecked out last night... all those guilty thoughts of not following the pre-op diet, what if thoughts, etc. But thanks to everyone, I got through it. Again THANKS!!! Slept fitfully last night. This morning, we dropped the kids off at daycare around 8am, and I did everything I could not to start crying when I said goodbye, but my son busted me. So he said "It ok mom, you not bleed. You feel all better. I luv you" That made me laugh and cry. This is my 9 year old son who is intellectually challenged, and hearing impaired, so his understanding is a bit different, and his speech is too. We then started off to Toronto (around 8:30). This is usually a 2-1/2 hour drive. I was scheduled to arrive at the clinic at 12 for my 1pm surgery. So when I was still stuck on the highway at 11:30, I started to panic. So I called, and they said not to worry. The doctor was not going anywhere and my surgery would happen whenever I arrived. WOW, that put me totally at ease. I actually did arrive on time, as the highway cleared. But then found out he was running behind, so I didn't have the surgery until 2:30. I was still having some "what if" concerns going through my mind. Then when I hugged my DH goodbye, I started to cry. He held me tight and said "I know you'll be fine, because I love you" :eek: They escorted me into the room and they have a surgery table that is actually comfortable! It is made for bigger people. They were so supportive and discreet. They at least waited until I was asleep before exposing my body!!! I woke up with no discomfort at all. I still don't feel any pain. I was expecting a lot of pain in my abdoman, and gas pain. But nothing!!! Then at 5pm they walked me out to see my DH and loaded me into our van and off we went. I slept most of the way home, just woke up long enough to drink a bit of water every once in awhile. Now its 8 hours later, no more pain meds yet... will probably take some before I go to bed, but still feel fine. See y'all tomorrow!!!

Congrats NewCC, sorry to hear about the reaction to the anasthsia. Chimboree, hope all went well yesterday. Sunny & Frustrated, hope all went well today. Cazulay, good luck tomorrow!!

Just a quick note to tell everyone I'm back home. Surgery went great. Just as Jeanie said it would!!! I'm a bit groggy, but otherwise feel great. The whole experience was terrific. I;m going to read to catch up, but wanted to post this.

Thanks everyone! I feel much calmer now than I did a few hours ago. I'm going to sign off now and try to sleep. See you on the "bandwagon". Love y'all (that drawl is for Sunny!!)

Jeanie, you are amazing! Yes, I'll be back home tomorrow night. My surgery is at 1pm, and they will release me around 5pm. Then we're going to hang out in Toronto for a little bit to let rush hour die down. Then we'll hit the road. It's a 2-1/2 hour drive home from Toronto. So should be home by 9pm or so, unless we take a few breaks. I'll probably pop online while my DH is driving my niece home. She's going to pick up the kids from daycare and take care of them all evening until I get home. Sarah's tonge is healing up really well. I must admit, I'm amazed!!! It has already knitted back together with no real divit or bump in the tip. The "seal" is whitish, but looks really good. I'm glad we didn't go the stiches route, that seemed so painful.

THANK YOU!!!! You knew exactly what to say. :cry Honestly, I really appreciate your encouragement. I'm not usually afraid of things, and I know logically it makes all the sense in the world. But sometimes I can't help to think my luck in life has not always been kind. Some people tell me that God saves the burdens for those who can handle it... (as I'm not an overly religious person... a little bit, but not a lot), I often think... ok, but my back (mule, whatever) is sore! LOL. I'm just hoping this time is not going to be another "burden". Thank you Jeanie!

Dini... sweet dreams, and thanks again for the Hugs. I'll see you on the bander's bench!!!

Thanks Jeanie & Dini, I needed the hugs & kisses!!!! Yes, I'm being banded in Toronto. The surgeon is Canada's founding lapband surgeon. He's pioneered it here, done more than 2000 lapbands in the last 7 years (including my best friend). My DH is coming with me, and so far seems remarkaly calm... he's usually the worrier, not me. Of course, I;m probably worth more dead than alive! LOL. Seriously, I'm proud of his composure right now. Ok, talking about it helps. I'm starting to calm down. I really can't wait to wake up in recovery though. Just like Sunny's tag line... "let's get this show on the road" :car:

Thanks Sunny. Your reassurance has helped. When I get home tomorrow night, I'll try to say hello. Are you in overnight, or day only? I'm in for only a few hours before they send me on my way.

NOOOO!!!! I;m a stress eater, and with the nerves about the surgery, the chaos of the kitchen reno, and then my daughter's tooth through the tonge incident, I didn't stick to low anything. Sushi a few times, ice cream, cookies... all the bad stuff. Man, I feel like such an idiot. Thanks for the well wishes though.

I'm being banded tomorrow and was supposed to follow a 2 week pre-op diet. I only lasted 6 days, as it was only yogurt and cottage cheese... way too much dairy for me. I was nausious most of the time. Now I'm panicing, thinking that my liver will get in the way and there will be lots of complications, or no band. Take my advice... stick to the diet. I'm very scared right now!!!

Sunny: Good luck tomorrow my Southern Belle!!!! I'm scared right now... so I hope you're feeling calm! Frustrated: Tomorrow's our day! Good luck to the rest who are up for tomorrow. Chim: I know we won't hear from you until tomorrow, but I'm thinking about you!

OK, I'm being banded in 17 hours and the real panic is setting in!!! I have a confession... I was supposed to follow the 2 week very restrictive and gross pre-op diet (yougurt and cottage cheese only). I lasted 6 days on it, and then screwed up. Now I'm scared to death that my liver will be too big and the doc won't be able to do the surgery. I know logically that doesn't make sense. Many of you didn't even have a pre-op diet (most did) and it didn't affect you. But that post by someone yesterday about the doc ranting on about his previouse patient has put a scare in me. Also, I watched the surgery video where the docs were going on about the dangers of a large liver. Someone please talk me through this... I have only ever had 2 panic incidents... but this is gearing up for the 3rd!!!!:help::help::help::help::help:

Ok, just when things are getting good... I have to go a score a bit of my DH's posterior!!!! While I still can.

Lynnett, we would never exclude you.. Red Lobster here we come... lets make it half way between London, Canada and Georgia (Augusta??) That would be around Ohio or maybe even Kentucky!!!!

Out of his clothes already... you work fast!!! Keep looking at his picture, and you might stir a little something up for your DH. I have a saying with my DH... "I don't care where he gets his appetite, as long as he eats at home"... works for me too!!!! Jeanie, I think your mind is in the gutter possibly because your body wants to be there too ;)

OMG... he looks just like my European laser surgery doctor I mentioned earlier, except mine is a bit darker in features. Beautiful... what was Mango's saying "BHOAS" or something like that.

Wow, great minds think alike. I love Red Lobster too... was there last week. My DH prefers sushi (which I love too), but my mom was from Newfoundland, so lobster is in my blood!!!! Jeanie & Sunny, we'll have to meet at a Red Lobster some day!

Yeah, I'm ticked at her for showing up so soon!!!

Welcome back Denise. Glad to hear it was easy!!!

Happy Birthday to your daughter, Jeanie!!! Can I ask a stupid question? Is the drinking age 21 where you are? Is that why you're a bit on edge? Our drinking age is 19.