Mollz

As a BBW, i only dated BBM for a long time. I met my partner in a weird circumstance and was drawn to him inexplicably. He's 6'3" and weighed 190 when we met. Sometimes I miss having a big guy. They're soft to snuggle with!

I know that the sleeve is the best chance I have of being a healthy adult. I've never spent a day not obese. I don't know what I look like under the weight of another small adult. Bariatric Surgery was always terrifying to me. Bypass seemed horrible after 3 people close to me had them and had a rough time. Even years out they struggled. The band - well it's weird but I feel like if they put a foreign object in your body it should eventually come out. It just makes sense. But from my understanding that isn't what usually happens. I want the sleeve and all the health benefits that come along with it. Yes, the before and after pics are fun to look at, but I've also been reading about people's struggles. I am terrified that i will end up vomiting every day. I have a phobia about vomiting as it is, I really don't want to be forced to learn to just cope with it. I know that there are times when I will feel like it, and be uncomfortable, and may even overdo while learning the size of my sleeve. I can accept that. But a number of people have been saying that it's common for them to vomit every day. :-( I'm also very scared about the blood clot thing. I have a clot in an extremity and maintenance has been brutal. Any experience good or bad out there? I'm intimidated by the liquid diet, but I think I could do it. Anyone else out there who was wary? Thanks for your thoughts and input! I figure there's no better place to bring this stuff!

I've been working with a physician and a nurse practitioner to try and lose some weight since December 2012 or January 2013. I tried diet and exercise, combined with WW online, and my physician was adamant that I needed to attend the in-person WW meetings and that would fix my lack of weight loss. I was documenting/measuring every ounce, crumb, and drop of anything I ate or drank, and still wasn't losing. She put me on a diet suppressant, and I felt awful, but finally lost a few pounds. I gave up on the medication, it was keeping me from sleeping and I felt "fuzzy" all the time. She got in my face about my weight yet again, and brought me to tears. I left her office 4 times so upset I wanted to go home and disappear, ashamed of myself and embarrassed. I left that physician shortly after that. I now see a NP as my PCP, and I love her. She's very thorough and supportive. We've talked about VSG and she supports it. She had me on a different weight-loss medication, a combination pill, I felt better on it, but was on it for 3 months and saw absolutely no loss. My question is: is there any chance my attempts to lose with physician supervision would help "speed along" the process? I have proper documentation and all of that. I know no one is an expert, and it depends on my insurance, but has anyone had an experience similar?

Turns out I do have 2 years of documented obesity! Never thought I'd be excited to say that! I also managed to call my insurance company today, and it looks like my documentation *might* be enough. Yay! I got all my benefit information too, the surgery is covered and it isn't going to cost me an arm and a leg, either. Al around its been a positive day on the path to sleevehood!!

I think with my insurance I might need to have 2 years of my BMI/weight documented. I'm not positive I can come up with that. I'll be really disappointed if I have to wait 18 months before I can start the process of having my surgery

Minnesota

How exciting! I bet the next four weeks will fly by! Congrats!

I find that my family is hesitant. I'm just beginning the VSG process (first appointment is today) - and my mom gets this disgusted look on her face every time I talk about it. Being overweight my whole life, I've never experienced life on the other side, when I didn't feel held back and super self conscious and insecure. I've never looked in the mirror and not seen a chubby face with a double chin. I'd like to experience that. I thought, as she's been overweight all of her life too, that my mother would be understanding and supportive. Instead, she is having a really hard time with this. I understand the surgery is risky, and things can go wrong, but I don't want to get to be her age and have all of the regrets/issues that she has. Am I a bad person for feeling that way?

Hi Minnesota Sleevers! I'm from Northern Minnesota. Haven't picked a Dr. yet, but I have a couple in mind. Wondering how you all picked yours - there's a lot in the metro area - and I'm not opposed to driving to see them. I have a good network of physicians up here to have follow-ups with and whatnot. Also thinking about maybe Duluth. Any input is welcome!