Madam Reverie

Yo! People! Be careful of making assumptions. The OP said nothing about being married....

That is CRAZY! You've all lost, like, half of yourselves! Truly amazing. Well done x

My man is a card-carrying American from the deep South. His diet consists of: Fried Chicken, Bacon, Mash Taters (as he likes to call them), Gravy, Collard Greens (which he can't get in the UK), Beef, Burgers, Ribs, Hog Roast, Chickens (usually eaten whole), Red Bull, Coffee by the gallon load and if he could get him some pie... He'd be chowing down on that every evening, too. (I have promised to make him some, soon, when I am not craving anything which isn't a yoghurt/protein thing.) He loves me - fat, thin or indifferent. He knows I eat waaaay more healthily than he does (and this was before my surgery and will continue on afterwards). The gross injustice of it all, is that whilst I was eating my 5 portions of fruit and veg a day, nice lean protein and admittedly faaaar too many carbs; I was the fat one and he, who has the metabolism of an athlete, was as lean as a fighting machine. (Although, in truth, I suspect his BP is up and his cholesterol levels aren't so clever.) But, I had the surgery and I am eating what I should and what I can. 4 days after surgery, I even stood in the kitchen and made him a roast chicken dinner with all the trimmings (and made him eat a whacking great portion of veg as compensation for my cooking it! Ha!) My advice? If you're doing most of the shopping and cooking, you cook what YOU want to cook. In fairness, most men don't care what's served up to them, as long as it's tasty and filling and they don't have to cook it. If your man desires a bit of badness? Let him. Just don't be around him when he eats it. My man brought some fries home one evening and I was nearly beating my chest with frustration and crying my eyes out with longing. It turns out, it wasn't the fries I was craving. It was the salt. So I went into the kitchen and broke off a bit of a bullion cube and put it in my mouth. Job done. As Endless identified; if you're on the way to checking out before you have this done, it isn't going to get much better afterwards. Searching for 'valid' reasons to call it a day under the guise of 'well, you just don't want to share my healthy endeavours', is both weak and unfair to him. If you have nagging doubts which aren't related to the surgery and diet, have the balls to evaluate what it is that's bothering you and tell him accordingly. He deserves that much, at least? Wish you the best of luck x

Indeed.. I know why we have to do it, I respect why we have to do it, but for the love of sweet jesus.. It is tough! Someone should make some bariatric food that actually tastes of something..

Hehe, very cool!

I chose the route 'tell them when it's a done deal'. Your FIL knows. Thats good enough in my books. If you know her, you know how she'll react; is it worth gearing yourselves up for a rollicking? A berating that will infiltrate your minds, impact upon your mood and confidence in the decision you both, as adults, already made? If it were me? I'd tell her when it's a fete accompli... If you want her on board and want her to eventually be supportive? Suck it up, sit her down with the FIL in the room, too (although be careful how you let her know that he knew first) and say it as it is. Be bold, be balsy and make it clear that you respect her opinion which is why you're telling her, but this is already a done deal and you want her to be there for you. However, the terms of her being informed is that she either climbs on board (as your minds are already made up) or she keeps her own counsel and lets you two, plus the FIL, get on with it. Best of luck! x

Did someone mention 'bread'. Hot, buttered, fresh bread? Oh dear lord... <passes out on the floor with a thud in a reverie of ecstasy>

If I may enquire? Why did you chew it up and spit it out? Were you very soon out of your surgery? I know that it is laden with all sorts of badness, but if you only had a little bit, would that be the end of the world? Personally, if I had a lump of gorgeousness like that in my mouth, I would not be spitting it out! x

I was told leg cramps are ALL about the potassium... Nasty thing to suffer from. I feel for you x

I actually came back from my GP yesterday on an un-bariatric-related issue and had to drop into the conversation about GERD. I stated that the drugs they gave me at the private hospital for reflux/heartburn were rubbish and that I'd reverted to taking Omeprazole (which I had leftover from catching HPylori whilst overseas) and said they were much better. His response was 'certain PPI and antacids work for one person and don't work that well for another - sadly it is trial and error'. That being said, the dude was kind enough to prescribe me some more Omeprazole 20mg which i only have to take before my evening meal, because he said 'clearly these work for you'. I can recommend those - although I doubt they're OTC. Failing that, I found that 150mg of Zantac (generic name 'ranitidine'), which is what I took before the surgery and when I was feeling particularly rubbish, is pretty darn good. Make sure to take it on an empty stomach, let it do its thing for a bit, then you're set for a good few hours - if not the rest of the day. Best of luck! x

Oh dear lord.. this Spag Bol is a-maz-ing.... Right, sorry for hijacking. Please resume discussions centred around pizza at 5 weeks out. I shall be munching on blended meat and tomatoes and garlic and.. oh for the love of sweet jesus, fresh basil.... <burp>

No need for the justification. I'm just bloody jealous!

Well.. I just tried to eat a jar of baby food. The alleged flavour? Spaghetti Bolognese. It was so foul, that after one mouthful, it made my stomach lurch so i threw the whole thing in the bin. I then proceeded to take some steak mince out of the freezer, including peppers, onions, garlic, mushrooms, basil and passata out of the fridge and bay leaves and paprika out of the cupboard. So, I'm currently making my bloody own! (Just without the pasta) I know this isn't regulation, but the way I see it, if it goes in the blender and I can Water it down with a bit more passata, what's the difference between that and bloomin' manky, additive laden tinned Soup?!!! Now.. I wonder if I could get away with putting some parmesan on it afterwards?.... dum-de-dum-de-dum

Dude. Really?! Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!

A whole 9 days! (Still on the fluids/baby-pap/no lumps/soupy/would eat a fungi infested dead dog if I could diet stage)

I would sell my kidney right now for a slice of pizza or bacon sandwich.. You're not going to get any form of condemnation from me!

Right there, that stopped me in my tracks and damn near broke my heart. I am so sorry darlin' you feel like that. Loving someone is being attracted to them. All of them. Inside and out. x

Ignore the naysayers. Become single minded and zone them out. As for the pizza in front of you? The night before my surgery, I had pizza, chicken tenders and washed it all down with a coke! But then in saying that, my surgery wasn't till the following evening... If you can hold off, you need a medal! Seriously! Best of luck with your surgery. Youll do just fine x

If I got into a size 16 dress by then? I'd be tempted to take it off in the middle of the function and run around the room naked! Thanks for all your posts, guys. Looks like there's a steady average weight loss being experienced in and around that time frame. Much awesomeness! x

So that's a bad food, is it? Crikey, I'd be looking to chow down on some of those at least once a week!

Made my day, too. I was more than a bit partial to a bit of Veuve, Taittinger and Lanson prior to this craziness!

Deep breaths, steel yourself - you can do this. Go get 'em, tiger. We'll all be waiting for you here afterwards x

This IS a no judgement room. Any judgmental types, are invited to leave their ego's at the door before stepping inside, thank you. Because, primarily, I am so sick of seeing that kind of BS on this website and I wanted a happy 'yeah, I'm human' kind of a chat thread. In fact, if i see any narkiness of that kind, I actually might have to give a toss enough to get my verbal scythe out for once and trust me, all you've seen is happy-go-lucky, relatively balanced Revs so far. You wouldn't like her when she's angry.... (tries to lower her BP so that the green tint doesn't start to show too obviously) Clearly, if someone has done something injurious to their health and there have been a couple of posts which indicate that this could have been a possibility, there is a natural duty of care to offer support and counsel (as was done by laura when she gave a gentle warning to newbie operatives scarfing down normal food too early, which, lets face it, is dodge-o-rama. Or to the lady whose eating disorder is re-appearing and consequently requires some love and medical intervention). However, may I suggest that if you feel so strongly about those who have posted something a little scary, please message them on the side. After all, tone is everything and can often be misconstrued which leads to those ever-so-tedious flaming sessions. So, now, back to blending doughnuts and tootsie rolls into Protein shakes to get them in more easily... x

I WANT IT!!!!!!!!

I'm so glad you said that as eloquently as you did. I was about to start a new thread entitled 'Shut up about stalling, it's boring me rigid!'