Madam Reverie

And my bad.. I said 'talk to her'.. of course, this could be a 'him', too. Apologies.. Gender sensitivity went for a burton there momentarily!

I haven't had this.. being a self-payer. However and if I were you, you get your story straight in your head before you talk to her. Don't deviate from your line of 'yes, I am fully cognizant of the risks - and benefits. This is what I was after to begin with and because there is a change in procedure type on my form, it has not changed my original objective and the objective of that of my health-care professionals.' Don't give the nurse an inch of doubt... you are RESOLUTE! Best of luck. Let us know how you get on x

I'm not a Vet, so I won't comment.. Other than... You skinny biaaaaaaatch xx

Chelenka, you, too, are most warmly welcome x

Welcome Barefeet. You are warmly welcome x

You, my love, are MOST welcome. Everyone who has suffered with a weight problem, has experienced at least some elements of what you've noted. Isn't it okay if those 'comments' are 'cultural'? Isn't it 'appropriate' for us to swallow them accordingly? With that being said, we're not all brave. Without additions like yours, we still feel like islands unto ourselves. It's refreshing to know there are no boundaries between colour, circumstance or creed. Welcome to the fold. I hope you find the liberation you need here, where you're living, and when you visit 'home'. You most certainly deserve it. As for 'here' you have a constant army of sometimes relentless, but brutally honest and vulnerable friends. Yes, we're relentless and vulnerable - we're working on it; but we can and are, great and experienced, friends With warm affection, A british located, subsequently over-weight, Revs x

I was told to eat between 800-1200 calories a day. Protein 42g minimum. 65g maximum (he didn't want me to lose nutrients from the veg through being too protein focussed). Carbs, he'd prefer I stayed away from anything 'beige'... But conceded that as I was fond of bread and pasta; as long as that was the last thing I ate in a meal, was a considerably small portion and it was wholegrain, he'd be happy. I was sleeved on 19th September. So, 11.5 weeks ago? I can easily consume the calories. I deprive myself of nothing - but in saying that, I don't have a sweet tooth. If I'm craving something sweet, it's an Activia coconut and pineapple yoghurt. If its savoury, it's a half a piece of wholegrain bread, toasted, with ham and cheddar, some sliced onions, tomatoes and perhaps some sweetcorn - all shoved under the grill. I was told - you have to eat, to lose the weight. I'm not a spectacularly fast loser. I have PCOS and some other health matters which will impact upon my loss - but I'm happy with my progress. Things are going in the right direction! ..............Although some parts of my anatomy seem to prefer moving in a Southerly direction!!

Laffy, well done you for being honest, honey. You may want to have a look at this thread.. Its got it all there. http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/286081-enabling/ Wishing you the best of luck. I know it's not easy, but least you're here, owning it. -x-

I haven't tried it but would like too....I've heard alcohol has more kick post surgery, ie dumps into the bowel quicker and is more quickly absorbed? Any truth to this rumor....?* Well... I've always been partial to a libation or two.. and, I must say, wine has a tendency to sit me on my backside now (makes me sleepy), so I generally stay well clear. (Also gives me rotten indigestion, too) As for other alcoholic beverages; they get to your head quicker - for sure. However, the old tolerance (although somewhat diminished in comparison) seems to kick in once you get your 'drinking head' on... But the consumption is considerably reduced in volume because the stomach is smaller. I am not a huge spirits drinker - which is easier to consume - because it's less volume. But its also a bit dangerous, because since the surgery, its been hard to gauge when the fine line between being 'merry' or 'drunk' has been reached. If I am drinking, I prefer a cider or a Guinness most of the time anyhow... I think on balance it's 'better' for me - because there's less alcohol and I know where I am with it... As for 'dumping'.. Wouldn't know. Haven't done it on booze specifically. Then in saying that, if you have 4 glasses of Guinness you're going to get 'interesting' movements the next day anyway! But I think I've been fine, because primarily I've eaten something hearty before I've had a drink which lines the stomach...

Cider over ice is a must... <slurp> And, thankfully, the hangover has gone. Bit of a walk in the fresh air, a nice lunch and an afternoon of crap tv with my man. Soon to be followed up with some homemade chicken quesadilla in the next hour. Loverly jubbly

Well, Guinness isn't as gassy as lager. I still can't drink lager. Its just not worth it for the feeling of total burpy-bloat. Guinness and cider, however, are all good in the hood

Gawgus xxx

Did someone just say my name? Yes? No? Excellent. I shall go back to sleep then <retreats under her covers to soothe her fairly robust Guinness hangover>

Gawwwwwgus

Hunter - you are most warmly welcome x

Shitted! This was the one I was gonna like You know it, lady!

That one is really good...I am a true believe that we are not quite sure how exactly things are meant when they are said so it is always gracious to give those who express themselves honestly or openly what ever they feel; respect and consideration..... In pure Brit-Speak, I will concur with 'ab-so-bloody-lutely', RJ

Okay, enough quotes. I'm sorry. And your particular brand of f-upness is most welcome, Bearman.

And the final BOOOOOOOM!! “The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.”

Or this one.. "“What happens with you when you begin to feel uneasy, unsettled, queasy? Notice the panic, notice when you instantly grab for something. (51)”

I thought this one quite good... “We don't set out to save the world; we set out to wonder how other people are doing and to reflect on how our actions affect other people's hearts.” Who'da thunk it

Yes, I am a girl and you've never seen bigger balls of steel! Mine are HUGE Welcome to the party, Bearman!

peas pudding and saveloy's anyone?! Memememememememememememe!

I have no answer to that... Primarily because I, too, get/got lots of 'satisfaction' from chowing down inordinate amounts of food... I can only assume that we're creatures of habit.. and why some wls patients 'cheat' their surgery or swap one addiction/habit for another; such as alcohol, drugs, exercise or sex... Either way, we're all searching for the serotonin/dopamine hit... I wish I could get mine from something like.. I dunno.. crosswords...

lol I know, chickadee.. I was making that statement in reference to his 'so-called vertical sleeve' remark.... Smells of snotty derision... Agree with the enteric nervous system bit.. and conclude, as we have most of our 'gut' intact (because all those transmitters are not just in the part of our stomach we had removed. They're from mouth to bottom), that on that basis, I don't think I'll be reaching for the serotonin/dopamine tablets just yet!