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Hang in there. I've had several days like that and I felt like I was being "lazy" even though I was in so much pain I couldn't walk! I had to give myself a stern talking to. You'll be back when you can.

Very interesting thread. I think I was physically addicted to simple carbs and sugar, but I don't have the emotional dependence you list and I didn't eat in secret. I also rarely binged. But I did eat uncontrollable amounts of carbs, especially toward the end. The enabling on this forum terrifies me and makes me sad. I have to stay away from threads that encourage cheating. I have to stop reading and unsubscribe from threads that go on to talking about food that I'm trying really hard not to eat. I am afraid reading about donuts and cake and Cookies will tempt me to remember how good those tasted, and before you know it, I'll be found face first in a cake. I realize this isn't a problem for others. It's MY problem and I have to deal with it on my own. I'm not saying others shouldn't post in jest about forbidden foods. I'm just saying I can't read those threads because they trigger my cravings. But the threads that actively ENCOURAGE going off the plan especially for pre-ops or recently sleeved? Those just make me angry. I don't like feeling angry because that means I am being judgmental and I don't want to be judgmental. They infuriate me and scare me. Doing something unsafe or self-destructive and then seeking absolution? And getting it? I don't think that's a good role for a SUPPORT forum to play. Supportive is saying, yes we all make mistakes, now get back on the plan. If your version of support is to say "honey it's okay, I do it too", that's not support, that's enablement. I totally get that I sound very definitive and judgmental in this post. I know that it will anger some people and I will apologize in advance. Please know that the context of the post is simply sharing what *I* struggle with, not my version of saying "here's what YOU are doing wrong". I struggle with posts talking about food I should not be eating. I struggle when we enable addicts. I struggle when we grant absolution for what is physically dangerous behavior that could lead to leaks and complications. I struggle when we tell people to ignore their doctors pre-op diets because someone didn't have that diet. I struggle when we tell a newly-sleeved person it's okay to have a taco on day 3 "because I did and nothing bad happened." Fortunately I have the option to just not read those threads and/or to not visit the forum on the days those threads seem to be everywhere. Even more fortunately, I'm grateful for all the truly supportive, encouraging, loving posts on here that have made this forum a significant part of my life right now. Thanks for reading my long ramble

Thank you guys so much! The other nice thing is those shoes were too tight for me but now they fit perfectly. I've had them for years and couldn't bring myself to give the. Away coz they're so cute! I think I'm finally starting to believe that I might hit goal some day. I'm obviously a slow learner

Ooh I hadn't thought of bleaching creams. What a great idea! Thank you.

Yup mine are exactly that color! If yours haven't lightened in 10 months I doubt mine will either. So mederma did nothing for you? Thanks for sharing that Laura. Also I'd kill to have a belly and legs as tiny as yours!

I can't get the mederma to stay on. I tried the other gel thing too that everyone uses and it just peels right off.

Okay +2 mile and +30 s plank for total of 3 miles and 56 seconds of planking Sent from my iPhone using VST

Okay here's a pic. no makeup and hair looks like crap after walking for hours so I chopped my head off Be gentle! I haven't worn a dress in a while. Sent from my iPhone using VST

I love your profile pic! I've read all those comics in English and in French

I will get him to take some later

Woo hoo! Congrats!

How does every thread on this forum turn into food porn at some point??

Mile and a plank