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When we were single, my husband and I were both on e-harmony--which sucked, but they had a free forum. The "main" forum had predictably the same, same, same, crazy posts. They were on the order of "why didn't he call?" Women always want rich men, men always want sexy women" "women never pay, guys always have to" "why wont she have sex with me" "women hate me because I'm short" "men always want sex".....you get the idea. And then there was a sub-forum called Completely Stupid Conversations where you could talk about anything. There were a bunch of us who had been dating for a while and while every once in a while we might have our own "why didn't s/he call?" anxiety for the most part we were working through other things and wanted a safe place where we could just chit chat. Well I met my husband on that forum--Completely Stupid Conversations. Everyone was fighting on the main forum and I started a thread to distract everyone titled, "What makes YOU so special?" (Which I am about to start here). And he told us what made him special and I think I fell in love with him just a little bit right then. Those people that I met there, five years later we are still tightly connected on FB. So many others came and went, but in the forum we were in? There were TEN weddings! Out of maybe 100 people? because we all got to know each other so well. Roger and I were second on that list of weddings. So I think all forums are like that. People form sub-groups and we just chat and hang out and "outside, over yonder" the newbie madness and panic continues until some of those people aren't newbies and then they drift in and the married ones drift out. It's the circle of forum life my friend!

Four years ago when I was still single? heck yeah.

I enjoy your posts and don't consider them long. That may have something to do with how I write? Maybe? I can relate to all of what you said. I wasn't eating too much. I was eating too much of the wrong things. Understanding that subtle but vital difference has made, well all the difference. And it drove me crazy too when people thought there was no way I could weigh what I did given what I "said I ate". Their quote marks, not mine. Infuriated and frustrated me. Like you. I too lose "only" 6 lbs a month which is 1.5/week even after being sleeved. And no I am not cheating. But we all got fat different ways and will get thin in slightly different ways. I went through the same experience as the OP in terms of putting on weight from starting to eat after starving myself. It can and does happen. And I have NO idea what my original point was now so I will go for a walk instead..........

how cool is that! I think you guys will love taking this journey together.

I TRIED to tell him that.....

You've lost a lot. It's amazing to watch your progress.

I have the SAME conversation with my husband! Who also has lost so much it's like a whole different man. very strange feeling but we're not complaining

I didn't! But that's because I remember the other really nice pics of you in the dress thing that you rocked. You should go bump that one so they see a before and during and then this pic. I loved that other pic of you too.

This is part of what amazes me about this journey. Can you IMAGINE picking up and carrying all three of your kids? Yet that's essentially what you are doing. Puresouthernsoul and I were talking about planking and saying, it's just like having bags and bags of dog food strapped onto us while trying to plank. It blows my mind what our skeletons and joints have had to put up with for all these years.

Yes because if you're going to be doing your own surgery, THAT'S the thing you really need to be worrying about--bougie size.

Size 8 sounds amazing to me. My current plan is to stop at an 8 but who knows how I will feel when I get there? Well good for you! it's harder to lose when you have as little as you did, but you're doing it

One of the things I have been flirting with is to set my goal at a body fat percentage. I have a nifty formula I can use to calculate what my ideal weight should be based on my desired body fat percentage and my current lean mass. If you plan to bulk up, I'd go with BF% rather than BMI. Case in point, I'm 5'6, so "normal" for me would be in the 140-150 range. But if I want to be at 25% body fat which is healthy for women, based on my existing lean mass, I would actually be at 162. That's a huge difference. If you know your current body fat percentage, give me your current weight, your BF% and your desired BF% and I can tell you what your goal weight should be--coz yes, I'm nerdy like that.

So sorry for your family's loss. Thank you for sharing.

Speaking of pants and asses....Today I discovered that I am 2 inches away from fitting into...my 13-year old son's jeans! That is SO weird for me. He's a normal size so I don't think it's him...

Oh our poor men. They can't win this one, can't they?

Yay you look amazing! It's so good to see a proper pic of you to have a face and body to go with your wonderful posts! So glad you figured out how to post pics. Maybe we'll see more as we go

Wow you look amazing! Thanks for posting, hot stuff. And congrats!

The last time I was this weight was when I almost died and couldn't eat for 3 months. This time around it's been a lot more fun to get to it! But like you, I'm now in new territory. The next landmark for me will be 175 lbs, which I can remember weighing 19 years ago! Good news is, this time you will keep losing and you can't eat enough to gain back all the weight. Gotta keep the faith, right?

My mom made me cook one meal a day since I was 14 so I've been cooking for a long time. In India we don't use recipes so you have to learn to get a feel for food. So I make these up. It's fun

Misty thanks so much for sharing. I think we all know that many of us put on weight as self defense against abuse at a young age. We just don't talk about it as openly as we could/should. I see posts from people talking about worrying about losing the "fat protection" and worrying about compliments from men, and we all have a good idea what's giving rise to that fear, don't we? I admire you for facing up to the issues and for working through them in therapy. Reliving bad memories seems to be the only way some tines to heal from them. ((Hugs))

That's not much at all! Almost there.

Do you crisp then up first like with the flatout?

Well gosh dang it. Now I have to read the whole thread with all it's in-fighting? You know how much I hate fighty threads. Okay okay.

I've been watching your journey here and am fascinated because yours is unfolding as mine did. Going from, I have no idea why I weighed what I did to maybe I drank a bit more than I wanted to and there were other things I needed to fix. I went down the same path. Nice to have someone to walk on the path with we can hold hands if we get scared.

I tell my husband he better enjoy it because being with this "new woman" is as close as he's going to get to another woman . It does feel different. We've both lost so much we're like different people. I'm not sure I'd immediately recognize him from the back in a crowd.